trust me i am very well aware of some men who do as little if any around the house as possible, so I ask again ladies why do some men wait for us to have to ask them to do certain things?
2007-12-31 04:42:54 · 24 answers · asked by mutt 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Geez are you married to my husband too (LOL)!! Mine just doesn't think of doing the dishes, etc. without me asking...but if I do ask he readily helps out. I learned I just have to ask...no idea why it is that way, but I assume it is because he was raised with a mother who did all that stuff so he never had to do it so it doesn't occur to him unless asked.
2007-12-31 04:49:09 · answer #1 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
because their mommy never taught them to lend a helping hand. mine's the same way...I work full time, have a 5 year old and a 3 mnth old, plus do everything around the house when i come home and all he does is work...
2007-12-31 15:53:46 · answer #2 · answered by Luv Peace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Some" men? Honey, how about "ALL" men?! I think it's some type of extra chromosome they have that prevents them from doing things the first time they're asked, much less doing them voluntarily! I have to ask my husband at least twice to do things (and not even difficult/time consuming things--I mean things like take out the trash, throw the clothes from the washer to the dryer...I'll fold when I get home, etc.) After asking him twice over the course of usually and hour or so, I get called a "nag," "You're not my mother." and "Get off my back." When this happens (usually once per week), I wait until the next time he gets "in the mood" and say, "I'm sorry, but since when it is okay to have sex with your nagging mother? Please get off my back!" (he likes to spoon) and roll over onto my stomach and fall asleep. After that, he usually straightens up for a few months. :D
2007-12-31 15:41:10 · answer #3 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW...AT LEAST WE KNOW WE AREN'T ALONE!! MOST MEN ARE ALWAYS DEPENDENT OF A WOMAN! IT GOES BACK TO HOW THEY ARE RAISED. MOMMAS BOY (MOST AT LEAST) ARE USE TO THEIR MOMS DOING THINGS FOR THEM. SO THEY HAVE TO BE ASKED. IT RARE TO FIND ONE THAT DOES CRAP FOR HIMSELF! MY SISTER HAS THAT PROBLEM! MONTHS COULD GO BY WITH OUT HIM CUTTING THE GRASS OR WHATEVER! BUT STOP DOING IT OR ASKING HIM TO. THEN WHEN HE SEES THE MESS JUST MAYBE MAYBE HE MIGHT. TRY REVERSE PSYCHOLOGY!! LOL
2007-12-31 13:32:44 · answer #4 · answered by InToChIcK 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because they figure after we work 10 hour days...pick the kids up from school (drop them off too), go grocery shopping, pick up his dry cleaniing...that we still have enough energy to clean the house, Make supper, and satisfy his sexual needs....on a daily basis
2007-12-31 13:28:00 · answer #5 · answered by Leannamick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because growing up their moms did all the housework and they didn't see their dads do much if any. So they think that's how it's suppose to be.
2007-12-31 13:21:46 · answer #6 · answered by Crystal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess would be that it is not done intentionally....many times they just don't think about stuff like that...I find that making a to-do-list and leaving it in clear site helps.
2007-12-31 13:21:31 · answer #7 · answered by Radtech1996 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because they are slow.....if we dont tell them every step to make day end and day out...they never know
2007-12-31 13:14:42 · answer #8 · answered by so alone 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's a masculinity thing. Guys see housework as women's work, even if they believe in equal rights. Guys are able to ignore messes because it just doesn't bother them as much. My husband will stay on the computer for hours while I'm doing dishes and vacuuming in the next room. If I ask him to do something, he will, but I do find it annoying to have to ask every time. But it really is a socialized trait of men. Men are socialized to do certain things and unless they try really hard to break out of the habits they were brought up with, it just doesn't come naturally to clean unless being asked. My guess is that you also have to thank him profusely after he does something...yet he overlooks the hours you spend cleaning the house every week.
2007-12-31 13:05:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Men have to be held by the hand and led to water to drink --- what makes housework and chores any different.
Seriously though, what constitutes a dirty house to us may constitute an exceptionally clean house to him. Think about it, if he were working on his car, would you know to hold the throttle open unless he asked you to do so? This question goes for both men and women and I'm ashamed to admit it!
2007-12-31 12:56:07 · answer #10 · answered by Tired_Of_Sarcasm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋