Do you realize that when a "spouse" or "mate" stops loving you...You need to move on?

Question

(Because...from my own experience...any "emotional rage" or "feelings of injustice and anger," are "not" something you want to give "creedence" to?)

Even if you have children with that person...the "proper gentlemanly response" to THAT situation, is...

To find someone else who WILL love you...(I mean...it's not "other people" who are your enemy," and...in fact...there ARE no enemies in THAT situation...when the "love" between two people has gone "bad," there is no "blame..."

There is only..."sadness" that can only be alleviated by "starting over..."

Anybody relate to that?

Answer 1

You have a good point.

However, in our Judeo-Christian society, we tend to make a commitment at the time of marriage to love the one we're with regardless of any other circumstances.

Initiating the end of a marriage is reneging on a solemn commitment that you made to another human being. While I'm not saying it should never be done, I do believe that it is done too often and too lightly in our society today. If a marriage must be ended, it should be done as a last resort, not because you're having a bad day, month or year.

However, if there is truly no love in the marriage, then perhaps the commitment was made under false pretenses in the first place.

Yeah, I'm able to relate.

Answer 2

i think you can relax so deeply and accept things to such an extent that you feel love in everything. you will still react to oppose things which seem out of harmony with the circumstances, but there is what i guess is 'unconditional love' for life itself which goes beyond all circumstances and forms. i think letting go of the ideas which make us tense and consciously relaxing into every moment can take you to a love that is unconquerable. while i think this will give you great 'power' in the world, this love conquers the fear inside, rather than obstacles outside, which may still persist.

Answer 3

I have learned this life's lesson.

Answer 4

well any spouse if family not only he but you were joined in that vow no such thing as daughter to son or son to daughter
as that is when parents shoot those arrows in too the wind
As that trust that where ever they fall is with all the trust
you had based your love upon
them So i suppose it is trust me that you do right
not so easy
but whom told you life owes you rewards and certificates
unless you EARN THEM
it is a job like anything else that has a plan
to its success that was explained to you in that VOW
NOT LIKE Bride zilla in grooms ville

Answer 5

When children are involved. One can't just turn their world upside down. To suit ones fancy. I disagree with you. I know many who have left their spouse. Looking or thinking they found something they didn't have. And have ended up messing their lives and the children's. Because when they took the chance. They were only thinking of themselves and not the kids. This I know to be true.

Answer 6

I was stubborn and tried to stay in it just for the kids. I was more than unhappy, I was miserable. It not only was unhappy, but unhealthy. He was abusive and cruel. I took it until I couldn't anymore and then left.
It took time to get over, a long, long time but I'm remarried. I 've been remarried now for 20 years and am loving it.
You can get over it, but you have to give yourself the time.
You are so right!!!
HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!

Answer 7

Yes, but a "lot" of "people" are in "denial" about what they have "control" over in their "relationships" and think that "they" can make "someone else" change.

You use a "lot" of "quotes" and figured it might "help" you "understand" if I did "too".

Answer 8

I don't agree with it but that's how I feel . I think marriage should be forever, but I'm tired of working at it when my partner doesn't work at it just b/c he thinks I'd never divorce him. I am presently looking at maybe getting out.

Answer 9

You are exactly right, I have had personal experiences.

Answer 10

Yep... Agreed.

Have a good 2008