I've stayed cordial but have really kept her at a distance. But she keeps calling me to do things. She asks about him first off when I talk to her and when we've made plans she'll ask if he's coming (I think, "Why would he? You and I made plans."). I'm trying to avoid making a huge thing out of this and I don't want to hurt her. I'd be friends with her except for this. Anyone have any experience with this sort of thing?
2007-12-31 04:39:05 · 42 answers · asked by sweets 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I thought maybe it was just my imagination but when I brought it up to my husband he told me he had thought the same thing.
2007-12-31 04:40:11 · update #1
Your instincts are never wrong. Don't be worried about hurting her since she clearly is not concerned about your feelings - or your marriage.
Your call if you want to challenge her about it directly. I would eliminate contact with her. From what you've written, your marriage does not seem to be in trouble - but do you really want a person this destructive and conniving in your life?
2007-12-31 04:45:45 · answer #1 · answered by banana6464 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Come right out and tell her, that if she wants to be friends with you just to see your husband, then you need other friends. Confront her, I wouldn't put up with one second of anyone hitting on my man. Weather it be friend, family or foe no one hits on my man and gets away with it. Also, wouldnt hurt for your husband to have a word with her about it. Tell her he's not interested in her and put things right up front and in the open.
2007-12-31 05:00:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her directly: what she want with your husband.Stop her bother you (asking about your husband),before she will be a real problem in your marriage.Good luck.
2007-12-31 05:00:01 · answer #3 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. Your husband needs to set her straight. Its amazing how every married woman thinks their husbands are the most desirable person on earth - to other women.
Get your head out your ***.
2007-12-31 04:59:40 · answer #4 · answered by Jelise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop making plans with her! She's not what you need for a friend. I'd probably be very plain spoken with her and tell her she couldn't use me to get access to my husband because he's unavailable and uninterested!!!
2007-12-31 04:47:20 · answer #5 · answered by missingora 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if she does not know where the boundaries are hopefully he does...If she is really worth the friendship then hang out with her, but you should just keep your eyes open. If he does anything out of order don't blame her completely.
2007-12-31 04:47:05 · answer #6 · answered by Radtech1996 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best thing to do is just lose the friend....
I know you might think that is harsh, and that you know your husband would never cheat with her, but things happen..
Just consider in the future, you and your husband have a big fit or something and she is there to make him feel better , who knows what might happen... Just take my advice , this will save you trouble later on......trust me
2007-12-31 04:46:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Tell her you don't appreciate her attraction for your husband. You need to end the friendship with her, before it gets ugly.
2007-12-31 04:46:13 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Stop being cordial and do not return her calls.
Attraction is dangerous.
2007-12-31 04:45:40 · answer #9 · answered by heartsarebad 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since I don't know you, I do have to ask: would you do your husband in a party for his birthday?
Ok if that's not your bag, have a one-on-one convo with your friend and straight out say, I noticed you're always asking about hubby. You know if you have interest in him it's not welcome and I need you to cut it out. If you can't cut it out then we're not friends any more.
Consider the party thing.
2007-12-31 04:45:08 · answer #10 · answered by J D 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋