am i wrong to divorce her?

Question

my wife said she would go out to dinner with me tonight right after work then shes going out for new years without me. for our first year anniversary this summer she went to the beach with her single friend. i am now divorcing her, am i wrong?

no actually god grants divorce if there is emotional abuse. she has not been physical with me for 7 months, says i am not in her heart to be intimate with. denies anything with me. chooses going to the gym above me and my son, wont even take him to school when she works 2 hours later than i do and i take him to work sometimes...i kicked her out this summer. im filing.

she does what she wants, she doesnt care if it is wrong or hurtful. she ruined the marriage in 7 months

i am very religious and see it a problem to divorce, even if she was abusive and not in the marriage. now i am under 30, divorced within a year of marriage. how do i control my rage?

Answer 1

You’ve been torturing yourself and your son for a long time now amayseng. It’s been while since we’ve last talked, but your still doing the same thing, it’s been since July since we started talking about this, six months now you’ve been fighting with this. I know you don’t want to let her go, but hon., I know your story inside and out, we’ve talked so many times and you’re still confused. She still does the same things, she hurts, you, your son and you continue to let her do this to you. It’s not fair.

Amayseng, I’m speaking to you as a friend, someone I’ve gotten to know here and it breaks my heart to keep seeing these postings. She’s left so many times, she’s emotionally abusive and your son is caught in the middle. I know she’s not his real mom, but he’s still apart of this. This situation hurts everyone, she won’t go to counseling, she won’t meet you half way, your poor son is watching his father crumble apart.

This needs to stop. You’ve done everything in this world that has been expected of you, you did all you could. Let her go, find some happiness. Did you start the new photo album that I asked you to do with just you and your son? If not please start making happy memories with your boy and look at those pictures, you’ll see two very important people happy together with no one in-between to cause turmoil.

Answer 2

Are you covenant spouses? If so, then it is wrong to divorce your wife. You need to learn to stand for your wife and marriage. She is being controlled by Satan. Read below what the Bible says about divorce and remarriage and check below that for some links to help you out.

If you are covenant spouses, then there are no biblical grounds for divorce, period. Everyone keeps commenting on that "exception clause"...except for adultery or marital unfaithfulness. That is a mistranslation. The correct word is fornication.

I discovered thru my research that scholars claim that exception clause refers to the Jewish espousage period when Jewish couples, such as Mary and Joseph, were engaged/married but had not consummated the marriage yet. They have to wait one year before consummating the marriage. I have also discovered that a Greek scholar, Tischendorf, traced the Greek manuscripts and not once was the exception clause in the original Greek manuscripts. The exception clause was added into the bible in the 15th century.

Now that being said, God made marriage for life until death. Jesus specifically said that remarriage is adultery. The only time anyone can marry again is if their covenant spouse is dead. And only then can they marry someone who has never married before or is a widow/widower.

So what does this mean for the person who is divorced from their covenant spouse and remarried to a non-covenant spouse? It means they need to repent and give up that marriage. The same goes for a single people who married a divorced person that left a covenant marriage. These people are in "legal adultery"

Mark 10:11-12 (Jesus) He answered, "Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her. 12And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery."

Luke 16:18 Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery, and the man who marries a divorced woman commits adultery

Since Jesus claims remarriage to a non-covenant spouse is adultery, those in "legal adultery" will not inherit the Kingdom of God. 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders 10nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God

The church is totally blinded to what God's truth is about divorce and remarriage. There are alot of pastors saying it is ok to divorce and remarry. They are telling people what they want to hear, not what God's truth is. Satan is taking alot of people to hell with him because of this.

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Please check out Bob and Charlyne Steinkamp. They have a restored marriage after being divorced for about two years. They have a website and send devotionals everyday encouraging men and women to stand for their marriage and their spouse's salvation. Check out their archives.
https://rejoiceministries.org/devotion.php

I highly recommend that you sign up for Doreen's Devotionals called Doreen's Daily Delights.. These are awesome. http://marriagerestorationministries.org/

Here's another website for people standing for their marriages. They have a men's forum where you can talk to other men standing for their marriages. There is chat every Friday night. http://www.faithandmarriage.com/

Check out Jimmy and Karen Evans. They have a weekly tv show that discusses marriage. Their shows are on the internet that you can watch. Jimmy is excellent. Jimmy gives very practical guides on how to have a successful marriage. http://www.marriagetoday.org/

Also check out this link concerning divorce and remarriage. I think you will be surprised. Many churches are blinded to the truth and even encourage people to divorce. Satan is tearing the church and marriages apart.
http://www.biblicalresearchreports.com/divorceandremarriage.php#hatedivorce

God Bless!

Answer 3

Depends on how you two feel towards each other... have you communicated that it bothered you? Sounds like it might have been noted as "ok" at one point but now it bothers you. Talk to her first.
The anniversary thing was wrong, unless you agreed to her friend going along, then you are at fault for accepting it.

Answer 4

Divorce. She's just not that into you. Sorry

Answer 5

You were right....clearly she doesn't want to be married.

Answer 6

You are a cuckold! If you like being one allow me to meet her. Dude if your for real, leave the *****

Answer 7

is there a reason y she doesn't want to spend the new yr with u and for ur anniversary? to me those are signs she might be cheating or just hiding something form u. also y in the world would u let her go to the beach with freinds when u might have had something planned right. for me i like to celebrate things w my husband especially if its our anniversary. just talk to her first and then u could divorce her if u still feel like she not showing u any love

Answer 8

Well...you shouldnt give up that easily..you are newly married and she is still thinking like she is single..I would be pissed if she did this...but I dont think its grounds for divorce...good luck

Answer 9

Actually, no. She sounds too immature to be married. Change the locks when she goes out tonight, and let her stay with her friend.

Answer 10

nope, i dont thinks so. she should be with you on theses days. it obvious she really don't care.