My husband and I have been married for 5 years and we have a 2 year old. We're both 31 years old. Lately he has been so (for lack of a better word) boring. We have the same old routine, which usually involves him laying on his back and getting "taken care of" by myself and then directly after that, it leads to sex. There's no foreplay for myself ever.
I've asked him if he wants to do different things (watch movies together, get toys, etc) but he says nothing. Last night I didn't want to please him in that way to start off sex and he got turned off and fell asleep. This morning I find out that he was watching a porn in our bedroom while I was downstairs with our son. Everyone reading this knows what he was doing.
I'm just so frustrated with him. I hate how our sex life has become so predictible. I just wish he was more dominating towards me.
I stayed in shape after the baby however, he has gained some weight so maybe that might be a factor.
I don't know what to do..
2007-12-31 04:17:11 · 37 answers · asked by qtpie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Believe me, I've talked and talked. After our talks, he is better for a while and then it goes back to the same old thing...
2007-12-31 04:21:41 · update #1
Interesting answers, so far.
So he had a "small load, & did it by hand", watching the "porno". LOL
You should take the next step. Turn him over and "spank his butt", he's been a "naughty boy", & NEEDS it. Maybe that will get his attention, maybe not.
On the other hand, you already have a 2 year old. Take the kid & leave. Make him pay "big money" in "child & spousal" support!!! Or, at least threaten to.
2007-12-31 04:33:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are both worried and soon to be apart again once your husband is deployed. Unconsciously, you both may have walls up. The coming and going is emotionally draining. Not to mention the worry. Maybe you both need to back off and stop thinking/talking about intimacy,sex, etc., and live your lives in your marriage of today. Marriage cycles go up and down. You seem to wanting to resolve everything by an almost time frame. Your husband may be worried severely that he may not return. Who knows what he is truly feeling. There is not just one kind of love that keeps marriages together. Examine the spiritual side of things. Tell him you love him. Enjoy his company when you are together. Something tells me that you two will be just fine.
2016-05-28 05:56:15 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is way to much of that in relationships ,one or the other just bored>make it exciting for him,buy sexy under garments with openings and tiny nighties . Just slither over him and let him feel your soft passion .move his hands if need be where it pleases you .whisper in his ear what you want . If that doesn't make him respond you might check his pulse could be something very very wrong
2007-12-31 12:16:07 · answer #3 · answered by STREETROD23T 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
f- buddy time for you
2007-12-31 05:14:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your husband cares nothing about your happiness, only his own. His behavior is despicable and I can understand your frustration. You may find that this is not the man for you. He is certainly not acting like a loving husband. What woman wants a man who hides behind the bedroom door--watching porn and doing whatever else, while his wife is downstairs with their child? What woman wants a husband who expects to be serviced, before he'll make love to the woman he's supposed to cherish? Not only would I be frustrated with this man, but I would be disgusted with his selfish, nasty behavior--even to the point of not wanting him to touch me at all. His weight gain has nothing to do with his lack of care and concern for you. Be sure you stay in shape, because you may want to get out of this marriage. You may want to find yourself a man who will love you--a man who will put you first in his life, rather than be married to a selfish little boy!
2007-12-31 05:02:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
get a guy on the side that knows how to please you...you gave the hubby a chance at it. there are plenty of guys out there that would love to put you on like a pair of sunglasses (one leg over each ear) !
2007-12-31 04:34:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I hope I'm not right on this, but it sounds to me that he doesn't like to have sex with you. And it's not your fault, but his. And the porn may have damaged him. You see the problem with porn is that the man starts having unrealistic thoughts about what his woman should be and he will soon find out that his thoughts/fantasies cannot be fullfilled and hurting the marriage. He likes getting a bj, and he probably doesn't mind getting it from other woman since he makes no effort to try to satisfy you. He even turns over and sleeps if you don't do it? This is bad.
2007-12-31 04:33:21 · answer #7 · answered by heythere 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When your laying in bed with him, just put on a x-rated video and see how he reacts.
2007-12-31 04:26:52 · answer #8 · answered by MJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He could be in a rut but he needs to make an effort to get out of it. What about a counselor? What about not giving him any until he makes the effort to come after you in a way you want/like?
2007-12-31 04:26:37 · answer #9 · answered by BG 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to make it exciting for him, men get borred with the same old thing, sorry it is just the way it is. get kinky with hime or get drunk together and see what happens. try new rooms or positions.
2007-12-31 04:23:13 · answer #10 · answered by fejji 2 · 1⤊ 4⤋