Sometimes,depending on what it is, I am willing to become flexible just to fit in. No drugs, sex or violence. I've never had a group of friends. My friends are always changing. I have interests, but I haven't found that interest group. Am I setting my expectations to high? These things don't last long. I want to belong somewhere. I want to feel accepted. I want to be HAPPY. EXPERIENCE PURE HAPPINESS!!! I am in college now. I want to feel that I have people to back me up.
2007-12-31 04:13:28 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
:( You're not alone, it's pretty common. For all the people out there that claim to have staunch beliefs and stick up for themselves and be so terribly interesting, well, I think that's a very tall order. People going around barking out what they feel and think personally is a very different thing that someone being truly independent and steadfast in their beliefs. You are not as uncommon as you think!
2007-12-31 04:18:04 · answer #1 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU DONT NEED FRIENDS WHO ARE CHANGING FOR THE WORSE . KEEP YOUR HEAD HiGH . THERE ISNT MANY PEOPLE OUT THERE THESE DAYS TO EXCEPT SOMEONE AS YOURSELF. dont join in just to be excepted .you will follow the wrong path.
2007-12-31 04:55:36 · answer #2 · answered by Snuggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pure happiness is within you. You may not find it in others. It is true of the human condition, that we seek to be a part of a group. I doubt that there are swarms of people that reflect all of my individual interests all together. I am very eclectic and most folks consider me odd - even people I call friends.
Your differences from others are bound to make you feel apart - but you are bound to have that as an asset. I am not sure why you feel the need to be "backed up" - but I hope you are safe. You may wish to be part of some of the groups on campus that reflect what you are made of and care about. May you become known for being a champion for the greater good.
2007-12-31 04:49:38 · answer #3 · answered by jana_westover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this happens. I was this way in high school and college. I always wanted that best friend forever that would actually be forever. I never got her but I have a husband that will be forever. I found that I don't need a group, I need one person. When we have our problems just like every married couple I rely on God and my sister. I am comfortable with who I am. I don't want to change who I am for anyone. I like who I am. When I didn't I became the person I would like. (I'm glad you have your limits-no drugs, sex or violence.)Hope this helps.
2007-12-31 04:27:54 · answer #4 · answered by periwinkleme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends are nice, lovers too. But you have to find your own happiness. When you drain it from others, what have you shared?
2007-12-31 04:27:04 · answer #5 · answered by Herodotus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ACCEPT YOUR FRIENDS, HEAR THEM, FOLLOW THE RIGHT THINGS......
2007-12-31 04:26:03 · answer #6 · answered by indrajeet d 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're in college try clubs there, I joined the international student organization, instantly got about 30 more friends, and they're all pretty cool (plus no drugs or drinking, or possible jail time with the frats and soroities)
2007-12-31 04:25:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suspect that yes, everyone feels that way.
As I see it, what you are wishing for doesn't actually exist.
You may find a group of friends for a while, but, like everything, it will change and member of the group will fall out, or you will, or the group will dissolve or morph or whatever and it won't be 'the gang' anymore.
This fantasy that we have, like the show "Friends", is just that, a fantasy. Real life includes the betrayals, selfishness and carelessness that we all experience.
I don't mean it isn't possible to have friends and nurturing relationships, but rather that those things are transient and changable. So have your friends, develope and maintain those relationships on many levels and in many
environments, and when something changes somewhere you balance it with what you have going on in other areas.
2007-12-31 04:23:30 · answer #8 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stick with your values. Sometimes you may be alone, but its better then being with a bunch of people that will bring you down.
2007-12-31 04:21:28 · answer #9 · answered by tnbadbunny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to fit in because there are benefits, to include safety, in the herd. It ould be described as pack mentality but for humans it is more comlicated and would be better connotatively described as a gang mentality. It's our nature for the same reasons.
2007-12-31 04:19:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋