Ivenever done this before-but im desperate my boyfriend of 1yr3monthsbroke upwitme.Myfamily is giving me so much stress for me actually falling n love with him n arent supportive.I still love him-i need to move on because he doesnt love me-he says its not that but offered alotof bs issues which i told him ido-i even said ill move out there-we r in a long distance relationship.Then he saidwecould be back but was mean aboutit-inwhen i mentioned newsyears together which i got days off forhesaid dont bother n go outwit whoever u want.I feel like a slut for sleepingwithhim.i know i sound incredible stupid.Buttomoftheline is thisothereguy askedmeout,but idonthaveitinme totrust anotherperson-nhonestly not bcause of him but everything else n my life.im dreaming abouttakingabottle of pillsn never waking up-its been about 2months with those thoughts-this past week hasmadeit worse..im very youngn(20)nknow theres moreout there but i dont have it inmeto be heartbroken again or hurtbyhimormyfamily.
2007-12-31 04:10:01 · 30 answers · asked by ladybug 1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
okso i myself went over my letter.i know they're alot of typos and grammar errors.As far as the no space between the lines -myspace bar is having issues so i have to press it harder then usual.When i amupset -we all are things dont always comeout quite right.As for they boy-its really not just him-he's the icing on the cake.He also was tellingmethings like i was his wifey.He moved halfway through our relationship when his family came back from india.His family is agianst me-us all the way.They never met me,but refuse to.He couldnt take the stress ni guessits easier to stay away fromthemexican girl who's middleclass.His family appearently is wealthy.i never cared orknew till recently.Im not planningon ending it althoughiknowitsoundslikeit-just fantasizing which is why i believe ineed help.N truthfully i feel alittle depressed bcause onmyend everyone told me to stay away causeill neverfit the mold,he'd never be able to treatme how ideserve.Though i know he did what hecould.cultureruinus?
2007-12-31 05:05:05 · update #1
aww, I know how it feels to be heartbroken. but you should try to move on and talk to your friends and family about this, you can email me: dianelenguyen@yahoo.com if you want to talk to me about this and I will help you get through this, okay? Don't worry.
-ConfusedGirlForever *(Diane N)*
2007-12-31 04:15:53 · answer #1 · answered by ♫Di [Pro-Love, Anti-Hate]♫ 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
First of all if your even thinking like taking a bottle of pills and never waking up call 911 immediately get help
No Man is Worth taking your Life over Hell No One is
Second Of all Sometimes Relationships don't work out and yes it hurts and it takes time to get over the hurt
You can do it
Everyone at one point or another has been through this
You can start By Stopping Beating yourself up. Sometimes that's just the way the cookie Crumbles so to speak. Some relationships work some don't
It's Not Your Fault
Got News for you hun it's part of life unfourtantley you will get your heartbroken but it's not the end of the world
I would say go out with this other guy but whatever you do take it slow. Take your time.
2007-12-31 04:21:34 · answer #2 · answered by rebel_angel031 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same place you are. I was married for 28 years, actually been with the same guy since age 12. Married him at 18. 3 years ago he wanted out. Dying sounded like a good idea at the time. Instead I got angry. Hit him in the wallet. ALIMONY! You do have to grieve. Don't let anyone say any thing different, because there was an ending and endings are usually sad. Just know there is always a tomorrow and who knows who else is out there for you. I kept telling myself 2 things I hope they help you.
Life is not measured by how many breaths you take but by how many breaths YOU take away! Also What is for you will never go by you. Please don't do anything to yourself you can't let him win twice.
2007-12-31 04:29:10 · answer #3 · answered by luvrmoney 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your best bet at a time like this is to focus on something else in the short term. Don't even bother thinking about this guy anymore. Everyone makes mistakes, so you shouldn't let some mistake make you feel bad about yourself.
Seeing a therapist is also a good idea. Rather than hearing a hundred less than qualified people help give you perspective, it can feel great to have one qualified person do it right. If your 20, you may have medical insurance through your parents, which can make it very inexpensive to go see someone.
2007-12-31 04:19:30 · answer #4 · answered by Mike K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are very young. People go through many ups and downs in life. This is just one bad time for you. Learn from it and move on. You will be better prepared for your next relationship. Additionally, your spelling needs improvement. I don't want to sound critical, but you should work on your communication skills. You are very young (20). You can enroll at community college for a cheap amount. You may want to look into doing that. I do wish you the best of luck as you are so very young. If you don't go to school, work hard, and another guy will come along.
2007-12-31 04:16:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever you find it hard to trust & then finally let your guard down to someone, the breakup is the hardest. It is not because of the breakup but you beating up on yourself trying to figure out the answer to "where did I go wrong". The answer is no-where. Sometimes it takes rejection to be able to find the inner strength.
I say all that to say, when you have trust issues & finally trust someone, it is easy to lose yourself. i bet you gave up a lot of time with friends & family to make this relationship work. You remind me of myself. You spend so much time trying to make people happy, that you get devastated when they disappoint you & dont make you happy.
You can't keep someone that doesn't want to be kept. The other guy asking you out should be confirmation that there is life & hope for you. I would suggest that yo go out and have fun.
One thing that I've learned is that you can't exspect someone to love you if you do not love yourself. That would include trying to deprive the world of a wonderful person like yourself by taking your life. it hurt now, but the good thing about pain is that there is healing in due time.
Feel free to email me
2007-12-31 04:38:29 · answer #6 · answered by C.O.G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to a good friend you trust. Sometimes just talking about how you feel can make things seem better. Also going for a walk, or just spending time to clear your head. Always remember you aren't the first to be in this position, and there are people who will give you support.
2007-12-31 04:15:04 · answer #7 · answered by RY14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chalk it up to youthful inexperience. you have alot of life ahead of you and this is just the beginning. In no way should you ever value anyone over yourself. Lost love is not worth taking your life over, so get over yourself and then you can get over him. Count your blessings. You could be horribly disfigured, blind, deaf and dumb and never have experience a relationship, EVER! Why would you want someone who doesn't want you. Don't give him a chance to come back into your life and mistreat you. Don't be so focused on dating. Hooking up with a guy does not gurantee a relationship. Hell, marrying one doesn't either. Do some charity work or something.
2007-12-31 04:20:19 · answer #8 · answered by mellomoods2000 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's never easy to lose someone you love, especially when you felt so connected to them to sleep with them. No matter what anybody says, you're not stupid for feeling the way you do, I'm suprised you're family isn't being supportive, even if it was a long distance relationship, you're hurting and they should be there to help you. You've already told yourself that you need to move on from this Jerk. I agree 100% Look how he was treating you. No one deserves to be treated like that. I'm not going to lie, it's going to take a bit of time to overcome you're emotions. But you need to remember That it's his loss not yours. You shouldn't think about suicide because he's definately not worth it. If you need to talk to someone you can always IM my yahoo s/n: LittleMssBecca
2007-12-31 04:23:42 · answer #9 · answered by tearsofblood943 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all please don't kill yourself over this...it happened this time and it will happen again.
My advice is to keep talking about it to whoever will listen. Although your family is not supportive perhaps friends or co-workers could be. I also think writing about your feelings really helps.
I am so sorry this happened to you, but it's a part of the great circle of life. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and keep it moving. Easier said than done I know, but pray for the strength to do just that.
Keep your head up...Good Luck!
2007-12-31 04:17:30 · answer #10 · answered by simplepleasures 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just try and stay positive. Dont regret anything. Everything happens for a reason. It may seem important now but you will realize there are a lot better guys out there. Stay busy excersize, get a hobby, meet new people focus on the positives and when you least expect it a great guy will come along.
2007-12-31 04:17:06 · answer #11 · answered by MOOCHY 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋