...WHat is it in a personality that when someone starts to get close, even if you have not met, and live far away, you do things to make them want to not like you???? Is it the long lasting fear of rejection??? What could it be???
2007-12-31 04:05:40 · 7 answers · asked by Francesca 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
yeah i think its the fear...agree
2007-12-31 06:25:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it is. Some people in addition do both , on the one hand they will do things to draw people in to them and when they feel that they are getting close they change to the opposite.
I think it is related to being hurt in the past . Many psychologists will look to the childhood experiences for the genesis or root cause of this pattern of behaviour.
2007-12-31 13:04:05 · answer #2 · answered by ADad 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alot of times it is the long distance and it is also the rejection and most of all it is the fear of being hurt again. The thing that you must remember is that no two people are alike. so by you placing your fear onto another person destroys your chance of having a happy life. take a risk and if it don't work out then learn from it and move on to the next until you find the right one even if it breaks your heart a dozen times. Been there done that.
2007-12-31 12:37:08 · answer #3 · answered by qcyboy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is fear of being rejected or fear of loss! You have lost many in your life and if you get close and lose them then you will lose again, but, if you push them away now then you cannot be hurt.
2007-12-31 12:27:46 · answer #4 · answered by teresa m 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
fear of getting close.
I am like that
But honey, YOU do not know this guy!!!!!! So this doesn not apply. You need to meet people IN PERSON, nothing else cuts it. I talk from experience. If by "getting close" online u mean he's starting to ask intimate questions and you're not comfortable with that, YOU'RE RIGHT!!!!! Two people must talk face to face to share intimate stuff and become close, emotionally! It's CRAP to think something like closeness can happen w/out looking into someone's eyes, face to face.
Please, don't let that creep manipulate u into feeling uncomfortable. Do what you feel is good for u.
2007-12-31 12:19:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you said it. Fear of rejection is a powerful one. I'm alone because too many have walked away when we got too close.
2007-12-31 12:09:39 · answer #6 · answered by Princess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dunno. Type more question marks at the end of your questions to clairify please.
2007-12-31 12:09:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋