When my husband and I were splitting up earlier this year, I began seeing someone else. I broke it off with the guy I was seeing and confessed to my husband. I changed my phone number recently because the ex affair was texting me. The man is writing us emails and bothering us now. His last email stated "Hope you guys had a good holiday because 2008 is gonna be one hell of a year for lots and lots of people". I am starting to get worried. I am not sure if he is trying to hurt me and destroy my family since I am trying to work on my marriage. I was considering a protection order. Do you think I have grounds to get one right now? ...since all we have been getting is a few disturbing emails? We did go to the same college together... he showed up last quarter to talk and I did not know about it. Until he told me he was waiting for me outside... and I just had left for school. I hope this all makes sense. My hubby and I are getting frustrated with the ex affair. Advice please! Thanks!
2007-12-31 03:46:38 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When he emails us he is using a different name... but my husband tracked his email back to the ex's work.
2007-12-31 03:58:41 · update #1
Send his a certified letter, that your husband approves and has read and approved, stating that you are completely committed to rebuilding your marriage. That you will not be contacting him again in anyway and request that he do the same. That your husband is aware of your past relationship and together, you are both committed to rebuilding the marriage. No personal comments to him, nothing that he can twist into being a mixed message. Let him know that any contact from him will be shared with your husband, that you are working on improving honesty. You must present a united front. If you can, have an attorney send this letter.
That if he contacts you again in any form, you will be filing harassment charges and requesting a no contact court order.
The email sounds threatening.
This man sounds twisted. You might just skip that letter and collect all evidence you have of contact. Start keeping notes of all of this. He might prove dangerous.
Close those email accounts that the other man knows about. Block his email address. If he is emailing you from a job, then call the job and complain about harassing emails from the workplace to the HR department.
Most of all, be very open and honest with your husband. This has to be hard for him to deal with.
2007-12-31 13:21:25 · answer #1 · answered by joyh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 23:19:45 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fatil Attraction, part 2, get the cops
2007-12-31 07:51:48 · answer #3 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Create a new e-mail account and go through your address and contact list and inform only those you want to have the new address of the change. Check the old address for emails from people you may have forgot to inform or change your contact info with for a month. Then Close the old email address.
I had trouble with a email stalker too. I put their email address on the block senders list,created rules and filters, and none worked because the person would change computers or have someone else send the email.
Save all his threatening emails to disk or somewhere in case he escalates the situation.
NEVER respond to anything he sends it will only encourage him.
2007-12-31 04:52:21 · answer #4 · answered by ASDZA’NI 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOunds as though anonymous, semi-threatening emails show the man as being unstable and I would pursue a restraining order and call the cops EACH time it is violated.
2007-12-31 04:24:47 · answer #5 · answered by SWEETYPI 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to report this guy. Also see about getting a protection order. His behavior is disturbing and it wouldn't hurt to make the authorities aware of it, in case he tries something. Since he knew you were married, he should have also known that you might go back to your husband. He obviously was not mature enough for the relationship. You also were not wise to get involved with someone else, while you were still married. Of course, you know that now. Be watchful and best wishes with your marriage!
2007-12-31 03:58:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy (your ex) sounds like he could be a stalker.
Contact the ex, make sure your husband knows. Maybe he should come along and be in the background. Then you tell your ex that it is over and to stop contacting you. Be firm, no nonsense. Something like, "This is it. This is the last contact. Don't call, don't text, don't email. Stay away from me and my husband." Then stand up and walk over to your husband and the two of you walk away.
If that doesn't stop your ex, then seek legal assistance. If this guy is a stalker, you are in for some serious problems.
2007-12-31 03:57:01 · answer #7 · answered by 8-) Nurf Herder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have saved the emails and text messages, go to the courthouse and see if you have grounds to have an order of protection against him.
Make sure he can not be within 500 feet of you, your family members, house, or work.
Make sure he is not to call your home, cell phones, or work #'s.
Log all discrepancies. Like hang up phone calls. Unknown phone calls. Strange emails from unknown users. Any vandalism to your property. Strange mail or packages.
2007-12-31 03:54:28 · answer #8 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Save and document any unwanted contact by the ex and get it recorded with the police for a prtection order. There's far too many crazies out there to take it lightly anymore. You changed your number on him and that should have been the hint for him and it sounds like he's not getting it. Make sure you're protected.
2007-12-31 03:53:16 · answer #9 · answered by BG 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you have rights. That was a threat. Keep any messages and print them out- always good to have evidence. Do something now before it gets worse.
2007-12-31 03:52:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, get a restraining order on him.
2007-12-31 03:50:24 · answer #11 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋