Been seeing someone for 4 years. We broke up around September but still stayed in contact - i continued to help her financially - just giving her regular cash each month because her ex gave her no maintenance and i wanted to be a friend to her.
I also paid dental bills for treatment ending in October and I used to give her cash to see a counsellor - but not convinced she went.
Got a shock on Xmas day when she told me she moved out of her council house and moved in with a friend (female). I went to the house to see if they had a forwarding address to be told by the young lad there - they have moved in with my old man.
So for months I've been giving her cash while she has been seeing someone else. Is it obtaining money by deception even though a lot was paid in cash but I can prove I paid dentist bill. If I had known she was seeing someone else I wouldn't have give her any money
2007-12-31 03:35:47 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Thanks for the replies so far but for any replies can you advise if you are giving a legal perspective. The definition of obtaining money by deception is "A person who by any deception dishonestly obtains property belonging to another" - she knows I wouldn't have given the money if she had told me about her change in circumstances.
2007-12-31 05:29:20 · update #1
I think you are looking for a way to report her for Fraud.
The Definition in Law is; 'taking pecuniary advantage by means of deception'.
You would have to prove both parts beyond doubt to gain any form of conviction.
Did she take pecuniary advantage?. The answer by defence would be no. You offered and gave money as a Friend.
Did she deceive you?. Only if she specifically stated that as a condition of your giving money she would abstain from seeing others. I take it she stated no such thing.
Sorry, on the face of it, there was neither pecuniary advantage nor deception.
True, you were being nice and help-full. Now is the time to walk away and stay away; no more financial help (your name could be Mug).
Are their any of your Kids involved?. If yes, then you will be required to pay Maintenance.
2007-12-31 06:56:35 · answer #1 · answered by rogerglyn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, unless you had said to her 'I wont give you this if you are seeing somebody else' and she had replied 'im not seeing anyone else'. I can understand you being peeved but you havent got any kind of case here
2007-12-31 07:59:51 · answer #2 · answered by vdv_desantnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not deception because you had broken up and you chose to give her the money, she deceived you in the emotional sense not legal.
2007-12-31 05:38:08 · answer #3 · answered by LONDONER © 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no overt deception here. You gave the money willingly, with your eyes open, thinking that she was in need. There were no strings attached -- as you say, you wanted to be a friend to her. It probably didn't even occur to you to ask whether she was seeing someone else -- it's just a case of her not telling you the facts. You have a warm and generous heart and she took full advantage. Just be glad that it was only for three months or so.
2007-12-31 04:36:37 · answer #4 · answered by Doethineb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm with the first answerer, although she has taken advantage of you. It would appear though that your motives in giving her cash were less than altruistic since your attitude has changed so dramatically on finding out she's seeing someone else. I would chalk this one down to experience and stop all contact with her. She has taken you for a fool, don't confirm that opinion for her by staying in contact.
2007-12-31 03:49:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do one of two things...1) chalk it up to experience and don't give her another dime, and break off all communication with her because she's a user. or 2) Go on Judge Judy and humiliate yourself by telling the world that you were used and want revenge. It's not worth it, just leave her alone and let some other guy be the sucker. Concentrate on finding someone worthwhile.
2007-12-31 03:46:31 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,did you ask her if she was seeing some one else.I class taking the money has deception however do not think the police will.Put it down to experiance & have a Happy New Year.
2007-12-31 03:41:41 · answer #7 · answered by Ollie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's definitely being two-faced but not illegal. Unethical and mean, sure, but no laws have been broken.
2007-12-31 03:41:29 · answer #8 · answered by dcgirl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so as long as she was not with some one else thats ok?you now know you carnt buy people.
2007-12-31 03:39:54 · answer #9 · answered by capa-de-monty 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
On the surface I would say no.
To be deception, she would have had to lie for the purpose of getting money. Unless you specifically asked her if she was in a new relationship and she specifically answered "No" then she did not lie. She has no obligation to tell you she has started a new relationship.
"A person who by any deception dishonestly obtains property belonging to another" Deception is active, not passive. It is not considered deception to fail to tell you something. It is considered deception to lie to you for the purpose of obtaining your property.
2007-12-31 03:39:41 · answer #10 · answered by davidmi711 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋