When one who is gay becomes attracted to a member of the opposite sex and only one certain individual, does this mean they are now Bi or on the road to heterosexuality or something completely different?
2007-12-30 23:46:36 · 21 answers · asked by Lino 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
if you are generally sexually attracted to both genders, then you are Bi.
If its just one person then.... well.... im not sure really.
i dont like to put labels on things like that.
just say oh yes im gay, but there is this one guy/girl who i like.
sorry if this ws useless.
2007-12-30 23:51:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People change
So can their sexuality - along with the rest of the person.
2008-01-03 10:07:59 · answer #2 · answered by StretfordEnder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do people have to insist in putting you in a 'box' when it comes to defining sexuality? I am a gay man, but I was married for 7 years; (a mistake!) have had loads of relationships with women in the past, but I am still a gay man A poof! Maybe I will have sex with a woman again, I don't know! Relationships are not just about the mechanics of sex.
2007-12-31 16:52:08 · answer #3 · answered by RICHARD S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well technically that doesn't happen. If someone is bi but they think that they're gay it could appear to happen, but no, there would be no changes to sexuality, just attraction to new people or something.
There is no "road to heterosexuality" unless you count a bi person's desire to abstain from same-sex relations/attraction but then it's unlikely to be very successful.
2007-12-31 10:31:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've become attracted to the one certain individual...that's happened to a lot of gay guys, including me. It was a worthwhile experience, for a lot or reasons that I am not going to go into here. But it does not mean your sexual orientation is evolving, and it doesn't mean you are 'on the road' to heterosexuality, either. It just means you clicked with this particular person, and if they understand where you are coming from and who and what you are (and are not trying to just 'convert' you, which never lasts)...then go with your feelings for this one.
You basically said it yourself when you said it is just the one individual of the opposite sex. And no, it doesn't make you Bi if you end up having sex with one person of the opposite sex...or even two or more, if you do not find the gender generally attractive and your basic orientation is towards your own sex, you are still a gay guy. A gay guy attracted to someone he has a connection with, and that can sometimes be expressed physically when that person is special enough to you.
All the best to you!
2007-12-31 09:14:21 · answer #5 · answered by zedekiah77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is such a social pressure out there that I honestly believe humanity is largely bi-sexual to a point, the rest is all conditioning. So yes, most definitely.
2007-12-31 09:01:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that sexuality is fluid. We are always very keen to label ourselves and others, it's easier for us to pidgeon hole people but the truth is we are much more complex than that. I have had sexual relationships with people of both genders and would not rule out anything. And no, I don't label myself bisexual!
2007-12-31 08:37:16 · answer #7 · answered by lilysparkle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it means that you want to have SEX with that individual. Your sexual orientation is not in question sometimes SEX is just that and nothing else
2007-12-31 08:18:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
in this situation i wouldn't say the person is gay, bi or straight. i would say they're attracted to who they're attracted to and thats it. there could be a thousand reasons this person has become attracted to a member of the opposite sex, it doesn't have to be sexual. many people aren't sure what their sexual orientation is, and because there's so much around these days, eg. it's become 'cool' to be bi, it can be confusing to decide one way or another. so i say just go with it. you cant choose who you become attracted to, just like you can't choose who you fall in love with. i think this person has a lot of interesting exploring to do, good luck!
2007-12-31 08:14:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is love, sometimes love is thwarted, hindered by our loathing arising from bad experience from a liasion with a particular gender, creed, nationality or religion. Thereafter bBasal humans subconsciously judge all of a kind negatively or harshly, it is true.
Love is Love, to compartmentalise, label, or box it merely imprisons a force that is naturally free, largely for those who seek to oppress the type or the powerful force that is Love, in question thereby..
Humanity carries emotional baggage of immense proportions hidden away in the secluded recesses of their minds. To be heard without speaking. To have understood that part of us which we refuse or cannot acknowledge even to the self. To Be Heard.
Before embarking upon a new quest, in the search for emotional sustenance or peace, seek within, learn about the self. This can be demoralising, look upon Me Plc Inc, as a seperate entity, and seek to understand with a view to falling in love with the the Spirit within. It is a lifelong affair, you will always find an aspect of your multi faceted seeking back in the mirror...try it...the most meaningful love affair of all time, he who we run from and find in all things wherever we find a journeys end....
Be Free, Be Loved, Live in Peace......
2007-12-31 08:00:41 · answer #10 · answered by VAndors Excelsior™ (Jeeti Johal Bhuller)™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋