My ex-boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me a few months ago. I was very crashed over it. I asked him not contact me in order to move on but he has always contacting me, saying he finds it hard, he misses and loves me. He even came to see me twice as he missed me too much. But he said we cannot get together as the long-distance situation hasn't changed. Last time he contacted me, he told me he wants us to work things out but then he backed off again saying it's still not the right time for us. I was hurt again so I asked for no contact even though I really love him and want to be with him. Its hard really. But he eamiled me a week ago saying he can't help his feelings but he misses me, thinks of me and doesn't want me to think he doesn't want me anymore.I replied but I got upset when he said he is going abroad with his friends to celebrate New Year. He said he will leave me alone now as he can't take blames from me. I am so hurt. I love him. I am 30 yrs. Now his phone is off.
2007-12-30 23:34:03 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I just cannot understand that a week ago he told me he misses me, he thinks of me and he still wants me. He now switched off his mobile and is not replying? He told me last night we should both move on. But how could he change so fast? I know I got upset when he told me he is going to have fun with his friends but why did he switch it off?
2007-12-30 23:34:48 · update #1
This guy is playing you for a fool! He is just trying to stoke his massive ego by keeping you hanging on, no doubt whilst mucking around with other girls as well.
Sorry, I know it sounds harsh but the best thing to do is to cut all ties, give yourself time to heal and just go out and enjoy life, it's too short to waste worrying about people like him. He doesn't deserve you - there is someone out there who will.
2007-12-30 23:39:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fundamentally it is because he is a b@st@rd !
He keeps you hanging on "just in case he should need a girlfriend".
No doubt in the mean time he is 'entertaining' other girls.
I wouldn't reply to an email, text message or voice mail from this pig.
Move on sweety he'll only hurt you more. If he wanted you believe me he'd be there.
It's new years eve, get out there and meet someone new for a better year in 2008 xxx
2007-12-31 15:19:04 · answer #2 · answered by Steve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just stringing you along for what he can get outta you until you wise up and move on. He's using you b/c he knows when he says he loves you and misses you, you'll "melt" b/c you love him still.
Best thing for you to do is to sever all ties. Do not allow him to smooth talk you, don't do anything physical with him, and cut off the correspondence and don't try to call him anymore. It'll never change sweetie. He'll keep on this pattern until he's bored, and finds another "booty call."
He really doesn't care about you the way you deserve. Someone who truly loves someone else doesn't perpetually hurt them, right?
Move on.
2007-12-31 14:42:02 · answer #3 · answered by Impavidsoul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exactly "what" are you seeking for someone to say ... "that it will be Okay? Maybe, he will find out that you are so good and come back begging (on bended knee)?
Wake up! The coffee has been brewing and the smell is already in your nostrils ... you already know what it is.
Face it with dignity and move on with your life.
2007-12-31 08:38:29 · answer #4 · answered by bucit 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The one who loves the least has the power in the relationship.
That is sad but true. Show some self respect and self control and stop trying completely.
The key is having a relationship where the love is equal. Then it's not a game.
2007-12-31 08:14:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
At the risk of sounding horrible violet....how many times are you going to ask this question? how long are you going to let him control your life, thoughts and feelings?
You get the same answers over and over but dont listen. He is no good for you, he is a head messer, one of the worst kinds of men to be involved with.
I suggest you work on a healthy dose of self respect as your new years resolution and move on. you deserve much much better, you deserve to be happy, stop wasting time. It feels like the end of the world...it isnt. I say this out of concern as a memeber of the largest club in the world, those who have had their heart broken and just had to jolly well get over it and get on with making a new life. It can be done, their are trillions of us whove done it...you can too, but only if you truly decide to let this go once and for all.
I wish you a stronger and happier 2008.x
2007-12-31 08:11:15 · answer #6 · answered by slsvenus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really sounds like you will be better off without him.
He will drive you crazy with the way he keeps changing his mind. Maybe you should shut your phone off, so he cannot call you, and not answer when he e-mails you. If he really loved you, he would not do this to you.
You are worth more than that. No one deserves to be treated that way. You are better off without him, and with someone that really deserves you.
Let God find the right person for you. Then you will know it will be the right one. The turmoil will be gone.
I will be praying for you. God bless and keep you, and direct your steps. May his will be done in your life.
ncovercomers@yahoo.com
2007-12-31 07:55:17 · answer #7 · answered by ncovercomers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The 'long distance' excuse is a pretext. My boyfriend was here and I was in France but we were patient and we still got married after my studies. When you love someone you do not play games with people's feelings; he sounds like a jerk.
2007-12-31 07:49:58 · answer #8 · answered by Catherine P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry but I am going to give you my own brutal interpretation of these events. He doesn't want to get back with you but his ego cannot let go of you. He doesn't want you seeing other guys. He wants you to be there for him in case things go wrong for him and he needs you. He does miss you and probably does still have feelings for you but he doesn't want to be back with you. He just wants you to carry on loving him as his ego requires this. Cut him off, this is a form of psychological abuse.
2007-12-31 07:49:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
B/c he is going to have fun with his friends.
2007-12-31 07:48:04 · answer #10 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋