My relationship with my fiancee is in a shambles because we do not have sex. I'm always being pushed away and it seems like shes never in the mood. I don't think that shes cheating on me but I have reason to believe that she is having intimacy issues. She says that she just doesn't feel for it. And even when we do occasionally have sex. I can tell she cant wait for it to be over. Could it be the abortion she had about a year ago troubling her. Or the birth control shot she took after she terminated the pregnancy the she still continues to take. I just don't know what to do. I really love my girl but I cannot live like this for much longer. She tell me that if I'm really not happy with her that I should move on. She is aware of the problem and my fustration but I really don't see any effort on her part to compromise and please me in other ways. Or fix the problem all together.
2007-12-30 23:20:18 · 15 answers · asked by KEVIN B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You could both go for counseling with a psychologist together. It might be she is afraid of becoming pregnant again and having another abortion. Or some other reason where she doesn't feel that you are fulfilling her needs (ie Do you help out with the household chores or leave them all for her to do? Do you take her out for dinner, movies and spend time together with her other than just for sex? Are you bearing your share financially in the relationship or is she paying all the bills? etc. etc.).
2007-12-30 23:27:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
often it is not loss of intercourse. it is ordinarily loss of emotional intimacy, and men treating them like canines. And no, that would not propose that girls individuals can cope with their men like canines. it is all a 2-way highway. you are going to would desire to inspect some respected web pages on the priority. yet often it is with the aid of fact some thing is heavily lacking in the relationship.
2016-10-10 17:18:06 · answer #2 · answered by marve 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's told you the answer...move on.
2007-12-31 04:12:55 · answer #3 · answered by J D 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
find a new woman- it will not get better when you get married
2007-12-31 00:40:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you understand it gets tiring are you satisfying her or just yourself. just b/c men get off it doesnt mean women do at the same time.
2007-12-30 23:54:14 · answer #5 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I lived a year and a half like this..and then one day she disappeared. She's not with another man, she just doesn't have the courage to say she doesn't love you any more.
2007-12-30 23:37:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
this may sound rude, but did you ask her whats going on? and if so what did she say? there are a great number of reasons why her sex drive is lessing. the to reasons you listed could be part of it but there could also be more.
the best thing you can do is talk to her about it. see what is on her mind and hear her out. you may not like what you hear and may not know what to do about it but it is a start. just try to be opened minded and just listen to her.
lastly, speaking from a womens point of view jumping in and just trying to "fix" her more then likely will only make her mad. she will mostly likely feel like you are not listening to her if that is all your trying to do. all women know that men try to fix ours problems in order to help and take care of us but most of the time that is not what we want. after she has said her piece ask her what you can do to help, then work from there. remind her that you love her and want to work through this together.
2007-12-30 23:35:57 · answer #7 · answered by that person 2007 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you can try sex therapy. I saw an episode on the oprah show, and they talked about couples that had sex issues. They were sent out to this mountainous resort/spa where the entire resort was a sex therapy facility. they went I think for about a week or two, and held sessions with a therapist and other couples that had the same problem. The therapist gave them ideas, listed as homework, and they had to try these things. They seemed to come back happy as ever, and they do it almost every day. I think that sometimes it takes some time away from the hustle and bustle of every day life, and some time to work on just you two. try it, and tell me how it goes. maybe she is also stress out and wants a vacation. I am actually in the same situation myself, only I am the woman who doesn't want to do much in the bedroom. I can partly speak for your girlfriend, and say that in my words, I want to do more that what goes on in the bedroom. suprise me with an exciting adventure, and take me away from my continuously busy and stressful life. do things that are nonsexual, and more focused on me as a person, and allow me to take it from there. I will see that you are more interested in me, and my happiness, and sooner or later, I will be all over you.
2007-12-30 23:32:06 · answer #8 · answered by jessrich1000 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ya you got problems mate. Get cousiling both of you if still no luck, get the hell out of that relation or live without sex for ever. Because that is what's going to happen, maybe once a month then once a year then once in 10 years then no more ever.
2007-12-30 23:28:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
suggest that you both go to a marriage counsellor or a doctor She will need support to help her
2007-12-30 23:27:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋