Help with my girlfriend! please?

Question

Ok, heres' s the problem...
My girlfriend has a habit of flirting with random guys too much.
She does this alot...thats why her last relationship ended. But she tells me she would never cheat on me.

I like her alot...but im afraid that 'something' will happen one day. I dont want to end this relationship, I wanna fix the problem. What should I do?

Is she just looking for attention from me?(I give her alot, I think)

Should I do the same, to make her know how it feels?(i'd be afraid to do that, I dont want her to get angry and fool around)

Should I keep telling her to stop, and that it bothers me?(I don't want her to think im overprotective/peranoid)

Heres some details about us. She knows she has this problem. We've only been together for about a ~month. Im 19, she's 18. Please help...

Answer 1

You should not try to mold her into what she is not, because you will never never succeed. I would rather, trust her and hold on to her promise that she will not cheat on you. Both of you are still teenagers, its some kind of hormone thing. When this period of adolescene is done with, you will notice that she will settle down. Showing insecurities will not make it any better. My advise, just let her be but discuss to her that there are certain line which should not be crossed. If you really love her then you'll accept her as what she is.

Good luck

Jade

Answer 2

You did not once mention that she has cheated, or that she cheated in previous relationships, so I'm going on the assumption that she is just a "Flirt". There are many reasons why a person flirts, but the most common one is insecurity, she constantly needs that positive feed back to convince her she is attractive, and build her self confidence. You have a few options, obviously you can break off the relationship if you don't think you can trust her. You can sit down and explain how much her flirting hurts you and that it may eventually lead to breaking up due to the trust factor......be calm and rational, not overly confrontational. You could also try to compliment her often and help build up her self confidence, if she is receiving the positive feed back from you, she may not feel the need to get it from strangers. You have nothing to lose and you may find her slowly changing and giving you all the attention. One thing I have learned about dating women/girls............they always respond to attention and kindness, and will repay you many times over for the efforts you put into the relationship.

Answer 3

tell her for once that u do not appreciate this behavior of hers. but dnt keep nagging over it. at the same time, do express ur displeasure in a subtle way like acting reserved & stuff. dont be overly expresive. try having a talk over a nice cup of tea, or a lovely lunch when you have all her attention. but do talk. its just one mnth taht u have met & things have already started turnin sour. so i believe u guys need to reconsider.
richa p

Answer 4

I would kind of keep my distance from her a little bit (but not too obvious) and maybe flirt with some people yourself. If she notices and starts trying to get your attention and starts showing more affection than she might notice that what she's doing is wrong and change. If not then you aren't important enough for her to stop being how she is with other guys or she's too stubborn to want to make you happy; in that case you should break it off with her definitely. Hope this helps.

Answer 5

Don't do the same then she could use that against you. I think this is just a part of her personality. I have always been a flirt, but when men start to come on to me that is my warning flag that they have taken my conversation the wrong way. Then I back off or end it. Just make sure she doesn't end up with someone without your knowledge because she could bring something to your relationship that you just won't want.

Answer 6

You have basically just described me, i am exactly the same. Firstly, you should definately talk to her, ask her what her intentions are and let her know that it really bothers you. If you genuinely trust her then there shouldn't be a problem, if you don't then get rid. Trust is the base of every relationship if that isn't there there isn't much point.

Also, i do the same simply because i like the attention, i love my boyfriend to pieces (we've been together 4 years) and he trusts me and i would never cheat. But i thrive on meaningless attention - its very harmless and this could be exactly what you're girlfriend is doing. If she doesn't maintain contact with many of these random guys then it is more than likely nothing, just don't be too blinded by love, if you start flirting with people in front of her face, it may make her realise how it feels - it certainly hit home for me!

Answer 7

Ok, My brother had a girlfriend who cheated on him and believe me my brother was absolutely scared that their relationship would end. Now, She is dating the boy she cheated with and "Karma" came back and bit her on the but! I am not sure if this is true but i heard from a friend who is friends with her 'new' boyfriend. So, tell her how you feel and if she kicks you away, dont worry, move on and Karma will get her! Don't worry. Goodluck!

Answer 8

you need a good talk with her on a good day not when your upset bout it or somethings just happned .tell her how much it upsets you and how would she feel if you did it ,have a good chat get it all off your chest hear what she has to say then if she does it again you have to decide if you can live with it or not and then act on it and no going back

Answer 9

Get away from her - she'll mess up your head and you'll be wary of girls for the rest of your life.
Get out now before any damage is done.
Tell her that you dislike her flirting with other guys and realise it's a part of her character but because of this shes not suitable for you.

There are plenty of girls out there who are well balanced and normal, why put yourself through this at such a young age. Find someone who really likes you, who doesn't want to mess with your head.

It's tough but then the big decisions always are.
Think of yourself this time. I've been there and she will not get any better.

Answer 10

Hmm Tough One

Just Explain To Her How You Feel.

Is She Doing It Intentionally?

Or Alternatively Try To Prevent Her From Flirting With Other Guys...

Good Look Tho :)
Maybe Shes Not Doing It Purposely It Might Just Be The Sorta Thing Shes Used To Doing...