2 nights ago me and my friend were talking on yahoo! messenger and she had told that she was ill and suddenly she'd stop sending messages back and me not being able to see the other end, where she'd gone to throw up and at first I thought the same thing(if only i kept thinking that) but eventually she signed out about 10minutes later as she was unable to finish the conversation(I found this out yesterday) so I assumed she was ignoring me and had fallen out with because of where the conversation had finished(I can easily get confused, once I'd sent one of my other mates who's a girl in an email my phone number and I thought they'd fall out with me because of it, actually I easily get worried) so I wento look through my mates contacts and she had actually told me she'd deleted me three weeks back cos she likes to check my questions herself but I'd forgot about this so when I found I wasn't in her contacts I started sending her aload of angry emails, which actually turn out to be for no reason now seen as she hadn't fallen out with me in the first place and now I have sent these emails, well I haven't done my self any favours her friends told me.
What can I do, I feel really guilty for doing this to her(bare in mind the first thing I did this morning was email her aload of apologies and I think I'll do some more after this) and I angry at my self for being such an idiot and I wasn't really being that good a friend just assuming she fell out with me and what has probably made it even worse is me posting a question saying she turning my friends against me which I've also found out was untrue and just me assuming. What can I do I've been a terrible friend by doing this and I really want to make it up to her?
By the way we live in different countries so gifts are out of the question but I would send them if I could.
2007-12-30 21:01:45 · 12 answers · asked by Lily R 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
A gift won't change anything, you cannot buy people's forgiveness, or their friendship. An honest and heartfelt apology from you explaining what you have explained in this question, would be a good start, and telling her that despite your poor behaviour, thanks to the situation, you have learnt a valuable lesson, basically, ask first, shoot later. Ask someone if they have a problem with you and wait for their response before you decide to fire a load of angry accusations at them. Tell her that you needed to learn this lesson and will value it, as indeed you do really value her friendship and hopes that she can find it in her heart to forgive you and build on the friendship you have.
You may have lost a friend, I hope not, but do try and learn from this, it will save much time, heartache and confusion later on in your life.
2007-12-30 22:32:53 · answer #1 · answered by Tefi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go
Tell
Her
This
I'm betting that she'll probably be fine....(your talkin bout gina, right?) if she reads this q...i'll bet she'll forgive you(belive me, i've made worse mistakes w/her)
2007-12-31 02:54:36 · answer #2 · answered by OMGWHO?? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
grow up and sort ur life 0out
2007-12-31 00:41:27 · answer #3 · answered by bev5228 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Calm down, you've apologised, now give the poor girl a chance to recover from her illness. Let it go for a week or so, then get in touch and ask her how she's feeling.
2007-12-31 00:16:03 · answer #4 · answered by Orla C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
make her read this or tell her what you've just told us, that it has all been 1 massive, catastrophic misunderstanding. if shes a real friend shell forgive you. and seeing as this only happened two days ago i wouldnt get too worried. there's plenty of time to sort it out. hope all goes well xxx
2007-12-30 22:35:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ooppps typical male, u deserve all u get, its not a good thing bein paranoid is it ???
2007-12-30 21:29:58 · answer #6 · answered by diamondjade 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Obviously you are a drama queen (and yes, there are male ones, too!). Believe me, that's really really BAD in a relationship. So maybe you should be without a girlfriend for a certain time and you DEFINITELY should grow in some confidence and THEN, if you think you're ready, you can try and get a new girlfriend. Good luck.
2007-12-30 21:14:46 · answer #7 · answered by rrooaarr 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
u sound way to clingy and needy..ur very selfish......u need to act alot maturer and a lot less selfish not everythin is about u ..
2007-12-30 21:11:17 · answer #8 · answered by cinderella 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First of all you need to calm down and get a hold of your thoughts, and stop worrying.Then you need to have a face to face convo. with her, explain to her what happened and tell her how you felt and apologize for what you did again and hopefully she'll understand. and make sure you learn to control your anger because that can hurt you in more than one way. It should be on your new yr's resolution=D. Good Luck and have a happy new year!
2007-12-30 21:11:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Screwed up dude ;DD LOL Never heard anything like this and it hilarious
2007-12-30 21:07:03 · answer #10 · answered by need4fame 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋