How do you mend a soul that is being tore apart?

Question

I have had my heart broken, but never my soul...and now that I'm going through this, taking away all the drama, it is painful and deep...any advise?

Answer 1

Your soul isn't being torn apart and babygirl, you never, ever lose your spirit. I guess we are talking here in a love-life sense, yeah, drama and pain, they do come and go, but in all, they won't last always. You talk to that inner you and let her know, "oh well" and pick up that chin, check your make-up, Vaseline those teeth and you go out and enjoy you. The sad thing about going through something is that, we have to go through it, you will come out on the other side and you will be a better person, stronger and wiser. So, just hold onto your sanity, cry if that is what you have to do, but after that cry, honey, leave it behind and move on, there will be a tomorrow, and there will be many more tomorrows - enjoy them. God Bless.

Answer 2

Love will always hurt and having to go through all the pain that the one we love make us go through will always be there in our hearts but if they want to leave then that is a choice that we can't make. It is true that they will break our heart but they can't break our soul because that is what keeps us alive. When there comes along someone who wants to fix that heart, they are able to pick up those pieces that lets your heart love again but they can never find every piece that belonged there, and they will never be able to put it back the way it was before your heart knew how to love. When you learn to love again, you will know what you have to do to prevent yourself from going through what you have once gone through. When our heart is broken, all that we feel is that we will never be able to love again and I would rather leave this world behind then go through love and life again, but that is the only thing that comes into our mind while a needle enters our heart every time. My advice to you is to try to let go and just tell yourself that, "I don't need him(even though you feel that you do but just tell yourself that anyways), he doesn't deserve me, I was too blind to see that he was just a figure that was standing in my way from happiness, I can find someone else that really loves me, willing to share his life and soul with me. This is not the end of love and life yet, there is still more to come. This is only the beginning and a lesson for me to learn from. I still have a long future in front of me and I won't let him ruin my life." It might be hard but it will help you if you believe in the words as you say it. You have to think of all the wrongs that he has done and all the things he have said to hurt you. You have to believe this though, "If it's yours, let it go, if it comes back then you knows for sure that it was yours." You can't make something come back if it wasn't meant for you so just let go and live life as a new beginning. The brand new year is coming so it means a new life has to begin. Just through it back even though it hurts and just live strong and show that person what they have lost/missed out on because they didn't pay enough attention to you. Some don't realize what they have until they lose it so you have to move on even though it hurts. Take care and good luck.

Answer 3

It's all in your mind. The truth is that you don't have a soul. It could be that you're depressed or that you just need to see a counselor and learn some new coping mechanisms. Chances are you'll be fine, but stop with the soul crap. If you're not careful you'll be tricked into joining a cult like religion.

Answer 4

Try to find someone who understands that situation and has been there. Nothing helps see the situation in context like reviewing it with someone who has been through it. If you don't know anyone like that, talk to the pastor of your church. Ask if there is a local support group (there may be an online support group) for people to hash out the details until they gain perspective on the bad situation you're going through. Hang tough - it does get better. That time heals all wounds stuff is really true.

Answer 5

What can lighten your load is to remember that no matter what happens, you are a valuable human being and no one can take away your soul. Never forget your are a special unique person with your own gifts to offer, there is no one else exactly like you. Talking through your pain to someone you can trust either a close friend or mentor will usually help and knowing that time heals all eventually.

Answer 6

It gonna hurt even years down the road when you reflect on the past, but you have to tell yourself that it's worth the pain now to be able to move on with your life again. Pray, read, get active, do things to keep your mind focused on something other than how your feeling inside. However, don't stay home get out and meet new people. Staying home only reminds you of your pain.

Answer 7

I remember when I broke up with my partner when we first went out, I know how you are feeling. I thought I was going to die, I thought I would never meet anyone else, all these things. We were broken up for 6 months, it took 6 months for me to get out there, meet other people, to feel human again and find myself. Time is the only healer....and you can't rush it.
He found me after 6 months and we have been together now for 16 years but that time apart made me stronger and our relationship was better.

Answer 8

YOUR HEART AS YOU SAY?( AND I HAVE BEEN THERE ALSO) IS TORN APART, RIPPED OUT, DISSECTED AND THEN THROWN BACK INSIDE THAT CAVITY TO BEAT AGAIN. BUT IT IS STILL BEATING AND YOU ARE ALIVE, HURT BUT ALIVE.
THERE IS A LOT OF TIME AND PAIN, REFLECTION OF WHAT IF'S?
SAY THANK YOU FOR THE EVENT, THE LEARNING EXPERIENCE. CHALK IT UP AND COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS. YOU DID NOT BREAK ANY CHILDREN'S HEARTS OF A DADDY AND MOMMY ALONG THE WAY.
AS TO YOUR SOUL, YOU NEVER LOSE IT UNLESS YOU ARE DEAD AND THEN IT IS TOO LATE.
SOULED AND SPIRITED, THE WILL TO SURVIVE AND MOVE ON IS WHAT MAKES FOR CHARACTER.
DON'T LOOK BACK TO THE PAST, THE FUTURE LIES AHEAD.GOD BE WITH YOU.

Answer 9

Talking about your soul been mended,you ought to have tell us what cause the pain,anyway for me I beleive there is no comfort or soul mend that God cannot handle.Accept Jesus christ as your lord and personal saviour,look around for a bible believing church around you and talk to a pastor.

Answer 10

No one can mend a broken heart for someone else...although, you are not alone...the Best thing is time and a friend you can call on. Good luck....as only the strong survive with out help.