are having their cake and eating it too?
2007-12-30 19:54:40 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Yes I do.
2007-12-30 19:57:58 · answer #1 · answered by Mir 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think in this day and age that it is MANDATORY to live with someone before you make a lifelong commitment to them. It's ridiculous to just marry someone before you are able to be sure that you can live comfortably with them.
In my opinion, to be trapped into a commitment like marriage with someone when you don't know them completely is archaic. I hope that these days most people are evolved enough to understand that. Modern people are able to do these things to make better choices for their lives, longterm.
I am sure there are religions out there that don't believe in this, but in my opinion, those religions are outdated and struggling to hold on to outdated principles. Perhaps this is why so many young people are drifting away from religion, because of it's illogical constrictions.
2007-12-30 20:12:38 · answer #2 · answered by Malikyla 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though the Bible says its wrong, I am a firm believer of living together before marriage because it is possible that 2 people can not live together and also possible for 2 people to not be compatible sexually. Though hubby & I were married almost 1 year after we did move in together. There are some perks of being married and many too. Like if the other dies, everything will automatically go to the other where if your not married, the family of the deceased can go to court and win what the deceased persons name is on providing the alive persons name is not on it and if the living persons name is on it, the deceased persons family may still be awarded the deceased persons portion which could be costly to the living person since they'd have to buy the deceased persons family out. Then there is a death benefit payable by social security that you must be married to collect and you must be married to collect money from the deceased persons retirement in most cases. Oh, and many employers require you to be married to be carried on medical coverage and that alone is worth a ton. Then there's the introduction to strangers, I like be introduced as wife over girlfriend, just sounds so much more "grown up" and proper.
Mary in Beulah, MI. USA
2007-12-30 20:09:32 · answer #3 · answered by maryannmccarthy2003 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they're cheating to an easy win by breaking the rules.they think they can do anything they want,and that it wont affect them.they think theres nothing wrong with what they're doing.meanwhile,some of us are constantly held back,because we reap the consequences of our actions.so,yeah,if they can do it,and they dont suffer for it,i say they're getting what they want,and even more than that.no consequences for ''living in sin.''
2007-12-30 20:04:35 · answer #4 · answered by Miss yavatar girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and how do you come to that conclusion? i feel that i ou live with the person first you know exactly what they are really are about. you know more than yo would not living with them. in some cases is good but other not.
i rather taste my cake and shop around before i pick the cake i like to make sure that i dont come home what looks like caramel but really it's peanut butter.
2007-12-30 20:02:01 · answer #5 · answered by elizabeth 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No because there is no commitment on either person's part so you are not getting the whole thing which is vowing to be with this individual through good times and rough times until death do you part.
2007-12-30 20:01:29 · answer #6 · answered by snookums 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have lived with my b.f. for over a decade. I get insurance from his job, and we do not have any children together, so for me I do not feel any real reason to get married. (I was once before.)
Sure, cake is yummy. But I do realize this is a moral issue for many. And too much cake is not good either. Lol.
2007-12-30 20:01:13 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not always, if your having doubt about this maybe you should talk to your partner about this.
2007-12-30 20:01:01 · answer #8 · answered by heavenjesusbible 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes....and your point??? who really cares??? I have been with the same man for 8 years...I guess I'm having my cake...and eating it too!!
2007-12-30 20:00:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure, but I thought that was what you were supposed to do with cake: have it and then eat it. But really, I think it is a great thing to do, at least while you are engaged if not before that because that's when you really get to know the person and decide if you match well together. It also saves money for the couple if they are going to build a future together they can put money down on a house later or something. If it doesn't work out I am sure living together makes it more complicated during the break up, but I would think it would be worth it, way better than a divorce.
2007-12-30 19:59:52 · answer #10 · answered by H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, I'd like to think so because if you think about it living together and marriage really aren't so different except for a little piece of paper that says you're married. Although many people want that full satisfaction that they are legally stamped as "together," I do think that in today's society, where promiscuity is on a rampant, living together is a great solution to an increasing rate of divorces and the such.
It really allows the partners to truly get to know each other as they should: in everyday life inside the house. Because that's when married couples see each other the most; in the house. Dates are all fine and fun, but they're mostly in public places where there are moods set for them. Without those things, I think living together really provide a true look into what life would be like with their partner. Like a movie preview, except better. ;)
2007-12-30 19:59:47 · answer #11 · answered by jp917 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋