So I found out the guy I have been in a relationship with for over four years has had a relationship with this girl for almost three years. I was devastated by the way, It is factual because she apparently has met our son, his mom and is great friends with his sister, I know this because I talked to her. She told me that my fiancee had said that he (23) was with an older woman (me) 27 with kids and that he was no longer with me because he just lost interest in me.. This girl is 21. I have always taken care of myself physically workout regularly and have three kids one with him. I make really good money and have never taken bull from anyone. I am all about my kids but, when she told me he had said that about me to her, it made me self conscious about myself. I have never had a problem attracting the opposite sex and in fact, I have always been loyal to him turning down others advances. My self esteem has been a little low since then and when I think about it, he is not even all that.
2007-12-30 19:13:59 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Here are the pictures I am the blonde. She is the one with the pink dress and black bow. Picture of him also attached.
http://i34.photobucket.com/albums/d122/lorenville003/Lorenaatbeach.jpg
http://i34.photobucket.com/albums/d122/lorenville003/9_5_06_001.jpg
http://i34.photobucket.com/albums/d122/lorenville003/9_5_06_001.jpg
2007-12-30 19:18:17 · update #1
P.S. they both admitted to having sex several times. She even described to me the bedroom in his mothers house where she spent the night. She also sent him several very very pornographic pictures of herself to him with her doing things to herself if you know what I mean. He then told me he showed them to his friends for bragging rights. I am so disgusted because I feel like such a fool. Am I that ugly and old looking???
2007-12-30 19:22:07 · update #2
http://i34.photobucket.com/albums/d122/lorenville003/1.jpg
pic of her sorry
2007-12-30 19:23:20 · update #3
My pic IS included I am the blonde, she is the brunnette with pink dress he is on here twice by accident couldn't edit that part. Yes, he did move out of our house and yes, I am putting them up on here for comparison. I am just wondering why he would describe me as an OLDer woman with kids and cheat on me with her. I would like the guys point of view and I guess because I don't have many friends like I said my life is all about my kids, I would like to hear from the women as if I was talking to a group of girlfriends who understand what I have gone through. I really don't need to be badgered anymore.
2007-12-30 20:12:29 · update #4
Oh my, you are way prettier than her, her face is just a mess! This guy is a sleeze bag and he is not cute so why are you tripping? Move on to bigger and better things, you are very attractive and any guy will feel lucky to have you.
2007-12-30 20:51:07 · answer #1 · answered by Isabella's Mommy Expecting #2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG lol
2007-12-31 12:08:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if hes gonna cheat on you, sweetie, then f--k him.
guys get bored with their gfs no matter what they look like.
he could have been with the most beautiful victoria's secret model and then cheated on HER. [which could have been u, by the way. ur beautiful.]
but it has something to do with spreading their damn seed or something.
27 is not old, and dont let any one make u feel old or ugly or anything.i would say all you need from him now is those child support payments.
[besides, hes not that good-looking, anyway.]lol
normally i would say dont blame the other girl but she knew about you and still proceeded to be with him.
he referred to u as older cause hes an insensitive jerk
2007-12-31 05:27:07 · answer #3 · answered by kwaid1992 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's saying your OLDER because you are older, your not old but you are older then him.
find yourself a nice older man who'll treat you right and forget about the immature-cheating-idiot-boy. and if that's the way his friends and family feel then you really need to get away from them! if they are going to let him cheat on you and not say anything...do you really want to be part of that family? probably not.
2007-12-31 05:26:50 · answer #4 · answered by gothpunkrocker91 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, you're beautiful. he's a jerk and a dumbass. I'm so glad that you broke up with him. I have to deal with that. my exboyfriend broke up with me on a im because he fell in love with someone else and not me anymore. so I just signed off and I didn't talk to him for like 4 weeks until he was talking to my friend and he talked to me. He keep sending me conversations between him and my friend and I got so mad that I called him a dumbass and I blocked him as spam! then on his Yahoo! 360 page, he called me a whore, b****, ugly loser and immature and I was crying so hard because of him! now he's out of my life now and it's cool. Thanks for answering my other question! Good luck and I hope I helped you with this.
-ConfusedGirlForever *(Diane N)*
2007-12-31 05:25:53 · answer #5 · answered by ♫Di [Pro-Love, Anti-Hate]♫ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG...hun you are absolutely beautiful...& from what you wrote about how you are with your kids...I would say you are just as beautiful on the inside as well.
I can relate to your problem...unfortunately I am dealing with something similiar at this time too. I have been beating myself up as well...trying to get the answer to that "Why" question. My conclusion is this: IT DOESN'T MATTER WHY. THERE IS NO MAKING ANY SENSE OF IT. THE ONLY THING WE CAN DO IS KNOW IN OUR HEARTS THAT WE DESERVE BETTER THEN THIS...& MOVE ON. WITH ONLY OURSELVES & OUR CHILDREN IN MIND.
Hope this helps in some way.
2007-12-31 04:58:33 · answer #6 · answered by Strong_Will 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would dump his cheating a---.
Your beautiful girl and you can do better than him.
He isnt the only fish n the sea and your by no means ugly or nothing like that.
good luck sweetheart. He's a user.
he will dump her too.
2007-12-31 04:51:27 · answer #7 · answered by Alafair Marie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look, some men are just jerks. It doesn't matter what you look like or what she looks like. He just wanted some new stuff. It is his loss! You are very attractive, and will have no problem finding somone else. Just don't have children with them until you are married to them. That is the problem. They tie you down with kids, then leave. Hit him up for child support. I am sure you have something there with his DNA on it. Get a test and file for what is rightly your child's support. Make him pay big time!!
2007-12-31 04:49:25 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not old looking or ugly!
You're a beautiful girl that can get a better guy than that wanna be gangsta.
2007-12-31 04:47:37 · answer #9 · answered by Inot 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry aboot that, that idiot and the woman he's cheating with must be breaking your heart :( I'd dump him, find a close friend you can talk to aboot it, and find a positive outlet (an interest of yours, a way to volunteer, music, etc...). Good luck with that situation.
2007-12-31 04:44:11 · answer #10 · answered by ♠I Did My Time♠ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋