My boyfriend and I have a great relationship but our sex life is weird. We do everything except for sex (it's still early in the relationship) but lately even that hasn't been happening much. Recently we were gonna have sex but got too drunk so he said we'd do it the next night and then I mentioned it and I got denied. He said that lately he WANTS to have sex and I turn him on, but he just feels like he can't do it and isn't sure if it's from being stressed from work and stuff like that. I just get so frustrated because it's so early in the relationship and it doesn't seem like this should be happening even though it isn't his fault. What could be the cause? Just low sex drive?
2007-12-30 16:10:37 · 5 answers · asked by VWJ05 3 in Health ➔ Men's Health
This isn't a very good sign. I think you should bale!!!!
2008-01-03 15:56:07 · answer #1 · answered by **Llola** 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa! It's early in the relationship, and you're pushing like crazy for him to have sex with you? Maybe he wants to be sure you're the woman he wants to be with long term. Maybe he doesn't care about casual sex and wants a relationship that has built up slowly so sex really means something other than just getting off. If you can't respect him and don't want him to respect you more than as just a quick way to get laid, then I really feel sorry for both of you. Let this fine respectful guy loose so some woman can find him who will appreciate his desire to go slowly instead of just hopping into bed.
2007-12-31 00:26:34 · answer #2 · answered by Maple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this problem too, sometimes nerves can make it difficult to get an erection, and also low testosterone can cause this as well. I had low T and now take meds or Androgel to bring it back up. If he's nervous but wants to, you will need to not pressure him, and instead put him at ease and tell him there's no rush and let him take his time. If he's not excited about the thought of sex, he might need to have his testosterone levels checked, he could have a condition called hypogonadism which is fairly common.
2007-12-31 00:14:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reasons I would use to delay having sex with a perfectly good women ,
Could really be gay,
Insecure with his package.
Doesn't really like you.
Most young guys are sex crazed so it is kinda weird.
2007-12-31 02:03:09 · answer #4 · answered by Oliver G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There may be something he is self conscious about such as his body or performance anxiety. Prepare yourself to be understanding and not shocked if you encounter something unexpected when you finally "do the deed" In the meantime try to reassure him that your attraction is more than just physical.
2007-12-31 00:18:57 · answer #5 · answered by J.R. B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋