My son is 17 yrs old and we are all in the living room and I went on the phone to call a friend to ask a ques..so the phone was ringing and he asks me who Im talking to..I said no one at the moment. He goes and sits down and she answers the phone whatever and I go check on my niece that I'm babysittn..I come back out and he looks at me al crazy and calls me a liar...I was all confused and said why?? He said you are a L I A R A liar...He said because I was on the phone...and I told him to stop trippn, he said "your just a liar" I think its stupid and I dont think he should called me that that way and argue in front of my son. My son is not his BTW. What do u all think?
2007-12-30 15:56:46 · 40 answers · asked by giggly33 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your husband has no right to call you a liar in front of your son. First of all, your son can do the same and secondly, the more he hears that the more he will believe it. It can lead to your son possibly not trusting you.
2007-12-30 16:00:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my dear I was in your shoes before I found my peace of mind on my own w/ my son w/o a crazed paranoid lunatic hovering over my shoulders.
Just take your assumably intelligent 17 year old aside and have a chat. More than likely he's aware of the insanity of it all and is on your side. It's an obviously abusive situation because "liar" is a strong term and yes disrespectful at best.
Perhaps in the future if this happens again your son will be prepared and may stand up for you...although all in all it's not healthy one bit to have the father (regardless if it's his or not)calling you names...(liar).
Your husband needs to know he's stepped over the line. Talk to him about it. Set your ground. It was disrespectful.
hang tight
2007-12-30 16:08:36 · answer #2 · answered by sunoverla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were lying, then he should call you out in front of your son so your son doesn't think that the lie is true or that lying is okay... and it sounds like you did use the phone... I can't completely tell because your writing is not entirely coherent.
if you weren't lying, then he is lying and is making a bad example for your son.
I feel sorry for your son either way. You can't be very mature if you have a kid that old, but still ***** about a domestic with your partner on Yahoo Answers and write in that childish way that you did. How about you both deal with your marital problems away from your son?
2007-12-30 16:02:35 · answer #3 · answered by spider 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well maybe your husband was not thinking right. But i understand he should of waited to ask you the question about you being on the phone sounds like he's jumping to conclusions fast, or maybe it's the trust. But saying it in front of your son is kinda rude because your's and your husband arguments should be private and not be heard by your children. Honest i would not worry about it next time just tell him not to disrespect you like that in front of your son. Or tell him you felt uncomfortable him talking to you like that. I think you will be fine. Hope as is well and good luck.
2007-12-30 16:03:54 · answer #4 · answered by k1ss_m3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's NEVER good to berate anyone, especially your spouse in front of the children ( I don't care whose children they are). If he has a 'problem' with you, he should be an adult and discuss it with you in private. Children learn what they live and should not be subjected to that crap. Don't give your husband the satisfaction of an argument in front of your son. Take the high road and tell him that if he has something to say you will gladly let him speak to you in private about it.
There's no need to drag your son into this. Your husband should be told that, in front of your son. Your husband is setting a poor example of how to deal with situations. If your son repeatedly hears stuff like that coming from your husband's mouth, your son will grow up thinking it's okay to do that to women. You don't want that, do you ?
2007-12-30 16:05:20 · answer #5 · answered by Karen T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It comes down to showing respect for you as a parent. No, that is not right. Whether it is his biological son or not, that is not relevant. By calling you names and discrediting you in front of him - it let's your son think that that is acceptable - AND IT IS NOT. You need to speak to your husband, away from your son, about how to handle these situations. I'm sure there are some things / requests that he may for you in the ways of handling your son - that you could give a little as well - to show that you are willing to meet him half way.
2007-12-30 16:02:25 · answer #6 · answered by Jem 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you're son isn't exactly a baby. (And the fact that he's not his biological son makes no difference in the story.)
Things happen. Words come out in anger and no, we don't always stop to check and see who's in the room first. It was an argument. It'll pass.
2007-12-30 16:16:29 · answer #7 · answered by Little Red Hen 2.0 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The basic answer is "no". It's not alright for your husband to call you ANY derogatory name in front of your children.
Your story is also very confusing though. He could definitely call you C O N F U S I N G and that would be well founded.
2007-12-30 16:02:39 · answer #8 · answered by Beach Girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's seems odd. do you cheat or does he think you are cheating? that would be the only reason for him to call you a liar over a phone call for...unless he knows something that you've lied about. as far as saying it in front of your son, that was wrong...sorry hun
blessings and luck to you
2007-12-30 16:04:27 · answer #9 · answered by starting over 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never right for your husband to call you a liar, in front of your son or not. If he has an issue, it should be talked out with respect from both of you.
2007-12-30 16:00:07 · answer #10 · answered by 8 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋