Me and my Boyfriend have been together for 2.5 years. We have a 1yr old daughter and I have a 6 year old son from a previous relationship. I want to get married. We live together, and we are a family. Everytime I mention getting married, he makes a joke about it. Is it too soon? Am i being to pushy and moving too fast?
2007-12-30 15:39:02 · 21 answers · asked by willuamazeme 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think that you are being pushy at all. It seems to me like your boyfriend has gotten comfortable with you two just living together and playing husband and wife!
Tell him how you really feel and go from there.
2007-12-30 15:47:27 · answer #1 · answered by joynme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why even mention it? If you are truly in love and you think he truly loves you he is yours and he will always be yours. Maybe you'll eventually end up getting married maybe you won't. What is more important? Being happy and in love or getting a piece of paper that says you are married? Take an honest look at all the married people you know, how many of them are still truly in love?!?!? Marriage even destroys soul mates. You aren't moving too fast. Marriage is a lie and he probably knows this and doesn't want to destroy what you both have!!!
2007-12-31 00:02:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best to let him know that you want to get married and after you're sure that he understands this, leave it alone. It's kind of weird but even in relationships where the couple having been living together for several years it seems like marriage is a huge step. Perhaps this is what your boyfriend thinks.
2007-12-30 23:51:59 · answer #3 · answered by confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going to fast? Don't you mean going backwards. How could you possible have this mans child and even wonder if it is too soon to marry? What lesson does this give to your children? You made the choice not to have an honorable marital relationship the day you moved in him. Is it possible that he thinks of this as a disposible relationship. Has he had children with other women?
2007-12-30 23:50:38 · answer #4 · answered by Davids wife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him if he wants to someday, once you have your answer stop pushing him, he will when he is ready, if you get pushy, you might just push him away.
I will say he should own up and do the right thing since you have a kid, i mean if he is around he obviously loves you, so unless he has marriage issues, there isn't much of an excuse.
2007-12-31 01:13:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to get married, and he doesn't. Will he ever, no one knows for sure. Can you live with the fact that he may never marry you. If the answer is no you need to decide how long you are willing to wait and then if it doesn't happen by then get out. You can't control other people's actions only your reactions.
Be honest with him about your feelings on this and then do what you need to to find happiness for you.
Good luck.
2007-12-30 23:46:05 · answer #6 · answered by George 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not being too pushy. It is not too fast.
He is being avasive.
He is not wanting to get married.
It might be in your interest to find out what is up with him.
You live together .. you are raising kids .. you are a family .. so married should be evident. He is the hold-up. Find out why.
2007-12-30 23:48:26 · answer #7 · answered by Tara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not too fast, you are 7 years late. Drop this loser and keep your pants on until you have a ring and a date. That is a wedding date. Don't bring a parade of men to see your kids. Bring only your husband to be to interact with your kids.
2007-12-30 23:44:10 · answer #8 · answered by james 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you can look at him and say you want to be married to this man baby or no baby then no your not being pushy but I would give him more time...
2007-12-30 23:54:27 · answer #9 · answered by DJ R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out from him where he sees this relationship going. Maybe just give it more time. I don't think you are being pushy at all.
2007-12-30 23:58:56 · answer #10 · answered by bobcatlady2u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋