My mother's husband is a self proclaimed feminist. He even wears t-shirts that proclaim this about him. First let me say that I have no problem with the feminist movement or the people involved as long as they are not anti-man. This is my question. He is constently cutting me down for allowing my daughter who is 4 to play with barbies, dress up in toto's, wedding dresses and princess gowns. He saids I shouldnt let her play "house" or any other gender spacific roles. I thought feminisum was pro- women. Why is he constently trying to tell me I should make my little girl act like a boy? She plays soccer and climbs trees. It's not like I dont let her play rough. She has two big brothers so she is well rounded as far as her pretend play goes. So, does he just not get it or is it me who is confused as to what feminisum is? And how do I handle this, I really dont want his opinion anyway, but I want to keep the peace.
My spelling my be off, I removed my glasses... sorry.
2007-12-30 15:20:17 · 25 answers · asked by Shell 4 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I really appreciate everyones advice. But, is there anything I can say to him to put him in his place intelligently? I am not all knowing about feminisum but he seems to know it all. I just want to put him in his place and make him realize he is... well... crazy, I guess.
2007-12-30 16:28:21 · update #1
It is ironic that in trying to encourage "feminism" he is dictating to you like you are a stupid weak female in the typical male patriarchical manner.
Does he wear a ponytail too?
2007-12-31 13:17:43 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's the big deal with him if, your daughter plays soccer, climbs trees, plays with barbies and dress up her barbie? At 4 years old, your daughter is enjoying her childhood. Why disrupt her childhood with influences that doesn't concern her at this part of her life? Your daughter should be able to experience everything that she wants and dislike anything that she don't like. It's not his life, it's your daughter's life. Your mother's husband should get a life and leave your daughter's life alone.
He should buy himself a Ken and Barbie doll and pretend he's influencing it from his soap box.
2007-12-30 17:37:05 · answer #2 · answered by Smahteepanties 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i finished examining after your first sentence. Anti/non feminist's are only that, there against feminism. sort of like how the Allies the place against Nazi Germany for the time of ww2. the complete extremely conservative 1950's anti's are only like the soviet union. we don't choose to handle them yet are in specific circumstances compelled to using feminism's over whelming impression. i believe human beings are inherently distinctive as persons. some persons are greater aggressive then others, some are greater dominant then others. some persons are clever, some are no longer. I certainly have met adult males and ladies in the process those spectrum's. in an attempt to declare "women are inferior" is only as outrageous as feminist's diffused message that "women are greater advantageous". yet considering i attempt to view human beings as persons, individual feminist's regardless of gender disgust me to my center. the reality is each and every action has an accounting for, issues only can not proceed as they are and while the time is composed of carry feminism in charge for there crimes and lies i will say that lady and male feminists would be taken care of the two interior the standard public shaming. ------ P.S study your history. The Patriarchy by no potential existed. lower back interior the previous due 1800's early 1900's FEMINIST'S fought for the main appropriate to no longer could desire to artwork and be SAHM's. Then the 1960's roles around and ladies exchange there concepts yet you could no longer only very own as much as the previous and say "we the place incorrect", so as a replace feminist's created the Patriarchy delusion blaming adult males for keeping them as "SAHM's" and proscribing there "rights".
2016-10-20 12:03:21 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just towing the feminist line & parroting what has been drilled into his head, probably by his feminist mother.
In the land of feminism, women have to act like men & enter all of the male-dominated areas because this is the only way women will be considered worthwhile.
It's a competition. The feminists feel that men are "winning" because of the number of male CEOs & government officials.
It's the reason they get so upset when they lose one of their "soldiers" to the "stay at home mom" crowd.
Feminists used to preach about the supposed "fact" that men & women were essentially the same (outside of obvious biological variance) & social conditioning created the differences in behavior. As decades passed & more scientific research revealed all of the ways brains & the transfer of data differed between the sexes, the feminists are having a much harder time selling that theory.
So, the free choice that feminists deny women... to act and think as you wish & how you were designed needs to be protected.
Let your daughter do whatever the hell she wants (within reason, of course) & let the feminists bugger off.
2007-12-30 15:43:30 · answer #4 · answered by hopscotch 5 · 6⤊ 3⤋
My Mom was a real lady. She took great pride in her appearance and her manner. She was a school teacher and taught my four sisters to be ladies. Several of her former students have told me they are now teaching,nursing or whatever because of her example. She could also operate any piece of equipment on our farm, milk cows, butcher chickens or put the fear of God into whoever needed it at the time.
I have seen her give her students ( of whom I was one. That was tough) comfort and encouragement and I have seen her step in between a couple grandsons who were a foot taller and a hundred pounds heavier than her and have them both back steppin'. And she did all this stuff wearing a dress.
She was a hell of a woman and raised six kids working right beside my Dad.
Show him this
2007-12-30 17:00:16 · answer #5 · answered by spudfarmer 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Some so called feminist are disconnected from what is naturally know about the variance between men and women. Eduction in this is a proper counter to such ideologues.
I personally think children should get to play with the toys they want, within reason. Anything else is blatantly ideological and assumes the child is merely the download of the parents beliefs.
2007-12-30 15:34:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 3⤋
Tell him to stop. Let the child decide. He is way too much into the ideology nonsense.
2007-12-31 02:25:19 · answer #7 · answered by stevel226 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
youll teach her to act like a boy when he acts like a man.
2007-12-31 00:04:14 · answer #8 · answered by Jay 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He is stuck in the 60s probaby smokin pot never grew out of it. tell him You are the Mom
.Boys are boys girls are girls and Me as a mature man I love Ladies to be Ladies,kids need both husband & wife both are different.
Tell him go play with dolls
he is nuts
2007-12-30 20:24:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You got it wrong. Feminism is not about promoting gender roles.
Its about equality and he feels that allowing your daughter to be predisposed to gender roles will suppress her.
I would just tell him to back the F up because its your kid.
LoL, no, actually, I would try to talk to him about his beliefs and what they mean and then tell him to back the F up. :P
2007-12-30 19:27:26 · answer #10 · answered by burnsk8er2000 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋