what would you do?????

Question

if your friend sarah married your friend micheal and you just recently found out micheal was cheating on her. would you tell her or would you stay out of it? they are both your really good friends...

~thanks~

Answer 1

OUCH! tough situation. You dont want to betray michael but at the same time you would be betraying Sarah.

Here is what I would do:
Let her find out some other way. Send an annonomous letter maybe! Or tell someone else to tell her.

Or just stick with whoever is the better friend.

Sticky situation but Sarah needs to know and you would be a bad friend to sarah to keep it from her.

Answer 2

Stay out of their business! Wait until Sarah comes to you. Sooner or later, Sara will come to you, if you are her good friend. Then, you can help her then. Never tell her, or him that you have already known that he cheated on her. You have to pretend that you found out the news from Sara. You never want to be a smart a??. If you do, both Sara, and Micheal will dump you! Because, you interfered in their private life. You instigated their relationship. The way I suggested, at least, you still have one friend left.

Answer 3

Don't say a thing....even if that is against your good-nature and best intentions.

If you DO get involved, your friend Sarah will think you are lying (because she is probably so in love with Micheal that she can't see him for who he really is - aka blinded by love). So you have lost Sarah as a friend.

Then, Micheal will dump you as a friend of course for messing up his game.

If you stay quiet, you can just feign ignorance, and act as though you did not know what was going on.

You are not married to them, so it is not your squabble. Let them work their stuff out on their own. Getting involved in someone's marriage only results in YOU losing.

Answer 4

That's a hard call because how do you know that Sarah isn't going resent you, she may think that you are lying. Is there any other way you might be able to let Sarah know without it directly coming from you.
I only suggest this as I have seen great friends end up hating each other because one person told the other that their partner was cheating (even though it was the truth).

Answer 5

Eeks.. Thats a tough one. I guess you would have to choose who you really wanted to be friends with in the end because Im sure Micheal won't talk to you after she tells him you told her. The other thing is if they work it out... your the bad guy. Sometimes its best to just stay out of it.

Answer 6

If they were BOTH my very good friends, I would approach him first and talk with him and try to talk him into talking with her. No, on 2nd thought, I think I would stay out of it. No matter what would happen, this would end up hurting both of them. I would do something though, if I ever found out he cheated on her again.

Answer 7

I would tell her and I would ask Micheal why he was cheating on her.

Answer 8

I'd think.."If I Bethany, married Brad...and he recently cheated on me and my really good friend, Barbara knew..would I want her to tell me?" If I wanted to know the truth to be told to me by a friend who knows.......then I'd do the same for a friend.

Answer 9

Why do people always feel the need to tell other women when their men are cheating on them? (Oh, yeah, because they *deserve* to know)

Stay out of it. It's not my business, nor yours, nor anyone else's on here. Who cares...let her find out for herself. If he wants her to know, he'd tell her. If she wants to know, she'd ask him. If people would mind their own business, the world would be a much better place.

Answer 10

I dont know. If you know for sure, I would tell. If it is just hearsay, I would leave it alone until you know for sure. You dont want to ruin a relationship over what maybe a lie or a rumor.