I know I have to end this relationship, but it's really tough, we have two children and I've hung in there a lot longer than I should have for their sake. I can't do it any more. (Believe me, it's justified.)
Anyone have any tips for moving on in middle age?
2007-12-30 14:43:59 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Denise, I had to laugh at your list, I've done 5 of those already... :) and they are very theraputic, thank you! :)
2007-12-30 14:55:28 · update #1
Sure
I'm waaayyyyy older than you, and as well, ended a loooooooooong marriage.... he cheated. I ran, as in "outa there".
Try the internet. e-harmony, Match.com, Yahoo Personals, there are tons of them, but these are the best know, at about $20/m. Have a great casual photo taken, and read a few of the profiles and use those as an outline for yours. You'll meet really great men, (and a few nut cases just like those sitting next to you in church). Us common sense, meet in public places. And if you need a "resurfacing" do it.... loose some weight, get a few great outfits, and if you don't have that killer smile (gotta have a killer smile!!!!) get it at the best cosmetic dentist you can afford... beautiful teeth radiate health, and healthy, hon, is sexy.
(Psssst. god ain't gonna help ya, hon, you create your own future... )
2007-12-30 14:54:48 · answer #1 · answered by ladyren 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1) Go talk to a divorce lawyer and find out your rights.
2) Get a better career or job.
3) Rat hole cash and don't tell anyone for your future escape
4) Begin a "new you" with a gym membership
5) Get a new hairstyle
6) Get a new attitude
7) Clean out all closets and get rid of junk you don't use
8) Make some new friends
9) Take a class or join a club
10) Make your get away. Good luck
2007-12-30 14:50:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Use as much of his money for everything you possibly can until you move out. Make sure you have your ducks in a row and be ready to go in a moment's notice.
Then find a house or apartment for you and your kids or kick him out of the house.
As far as moving on that's all I know. If you're talking about dating scene moving on - then it's not much better than being married to a slug. You will enjoy alot of time alone or with your kids.
2007-12-30 14:51:39 · answer #3 · answered by sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as a therapist, try these great guides:
Getting Over A Break Up or Divorce: How To Heal and Move On
http://www.hearts-and-kisses.com/relationshipadvice-getting-over-a-breakup.html
Should I Stay Or Go? Knowing When To Move On
http://www.hearts-and-kisses.com/relationshipadvice-should-i-stay-or-should-i-go.html
2007-12-30 15:48:36 · answer #4 · answered by lovehealer 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well... no matter what age you move on, it's never going to be easy... that's for sure... he will include lots of pain and lonely times... but there's a man who can help you get through this, and that's God. i learned in church today that all of my problems have a purpose and so do yours. Everything happens for a reason. Trust God. Join a church and become involved... be a better mother... and stay strong...
2007-12-30 14:52:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
46 and just did it around 5 months ago. I don't have any words of wisdom to help you through this. You just take it one day at a time. I burned my wedding album. I get online and read these questions that people post. Baby myself when I do not have the kids. Stuff like that.
If you would like email me and we can talk.
2007-12-30 14:50:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have cried out myself since 24 of Dec.
The day that I needed him the most he jilted me out.
Get a divorce if ur married and just hang in there...you'll fing a better one but avoid having more kids unless you wasnt more problems.
Socialize and try to go on dating websites.
That will do but for me..it's just really bad cus I am physically sick.
2007-12-30 14:51:18 · answer #7 · answered by sweet angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know all the answers but i know that you have it in side you to move forward, i am in my late forties and am facing problems in my relationship that may not be worked out, but i know God has plans for me and will help me to move forward, just like i know God will help you to move forward, you will look back some day and see how much better your life has become, so have faith that God will help you and you will see good things in your future, and just take it one day at a time and do make the plans necessary to move on, God Bless
2007-12-30 15:03:45 · answer #8 · answered by George 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Letting go and moving on...
Read this and I am SURE it will hep you find your answer.
http://maggiepanion.tripod.com/
2007-12-30 15:09:57 · answer #9 · answered by Smart Nurse 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋