Ive been with my man Darren for a calendar year now. We met at the highschool we both go to in junior year (we are now seniors). He was cute, charming, and masculine. Which is what I like since Im a feminine "prettyboy" whose attracted only to macho guys. Everything rolled from then. Darren is pretty my world and our relationship is to the point where we are committed fully to eachother. Both of us are "out", hes been out since grade school and I came out this year in like March thanks when he convinced me. Infact he was there when I told my mom I was gay since my mom already knew Darren but thought we were just friends since we were always together. We're close to eachother's moms and they accept our relationship. But the REST of my family, who know Im gay and know about Darren, havent met him. They will tomorrow when they come over for New Years. What if they disrespect him or say something I dont like? Thats family, but thats also my baby. Would I be disloyal for taking his side?
2007-12-30 14:22:43 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If you seriously love him, you should take his side.
To be fair, I absolutely do not understand the idea of blood family being put ahead of chosen family. Ultimately, it is chosen family that makes life worth having, and blood family that most people end up sitting next to at the much dreaded Thanksgiving.
I wouldn't give people power over me just because of blood or genetics. no way.
Kind thoughts,
Reyn
2007-12-30 14:31:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now this is a topic that could work both ways. The family may think that your being disloyal to them by loving this guy, but on the other hand you in your heart might feel disloyal to you boyfriend which could possibly tear you up. Now personally I would think that since you have been with this fellow for 1 year and both parents know, wouldnt the parents tell the rest of the family how happy you are and not **** it up. So I recommend to stay loyal to you boy and if the family disowns him, that means there disowning you to since it is not just him in the relationship but both of you.
2007-12-30 14:37:56 · answer #2 · answered by fighterjet1989 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Families are required to accept the partners of other family members. You don't have to like your brother or sister's partner but you have no right to be rude to them and you must welcome them to any family gathering. It's what families do. If any family member were to be offensive, I would expect that other family members would come to the rescue.
He is your partner and you take his side against the world - including your family but I doubt it will come to that. They know you are gay and living with someone, if they come to visit, they are not coming to declare war but to meet your partner. Have a great new year, I am sure it will be a happy and friendly occasion.
2007-12-30 14:34:52 · answer #3 · answered by tentofield 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Disloyal? Pffft, no :). You are defending and loving your boyfriend. I would totally do the same thing. If it gets too bad, maybe you should show your family that you're serious about him by leaving the party with him.
2007-12-30 14:27:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-20 11:54:27 · answer #5 · answered by goldthorpe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think by now they would have worked out your relationship with darren but haven't said anything because, they are waiting for you to say something
2007-12-30 14:27:14 · answer #6 · answered by ♥SPARKLES♥™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you wouldn't. If your family can't appriciate the fact that you've found someone you love, then that's their problem. If they support you and are a loving family, then there shouldn't be a problem.
2007-12-30 14:29:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your family wont say anything. It doesnt matter if your gay/straight/boy/girl your still their son/brother whatever. It wont make a difference.
And even if they don't like him -shrugs- there not the one going with him so it shouldn't bother you.
2007-12-30 14:32:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is their decision as yours is being with him. You will have to make the decision of what is better for you. If you love him, I can't see this being a tough choice.
2007-12-30 14:28:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you wouldnt
2007-12-30 14:26:57 · answer #10 · answered by Techno vamp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋