Ok, I'm 13 years old but extremely mature for my age (mentally and physically), as is my boyfriend, Alex. He's 15, 6'1, and 160lbs of mostly muscle. I've been with him for 3 and a half years now and we're so in love, it's crazy, I didn't think it was possible to fall in love at my age. Anyways.. So.. I'll just say it, I've been raped a few times by the same guy and I'm not turning him in (it's too complicated to explain, but trust me they're good reasons). Alex is always saying he wants to protect me and everything, but I didn't think he'd be able to defend both of us against the guy and his friends. I guess to try to comfort me, he told me he would be able to because he learned from an old martial arts class how to kill somebody without any weapons. That scared me to death, and I'm still really afraid of him now. He knows, and he's sorry. He said he never wants to scare me or hurt me.. And I know he means it, but I can't help but be afraid.. How can I get past this? Any ideas?
2007-12-30 13:30:54 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Alright, you guys are already being jerks about it. I'll say this: the guy that raped me threaten to get about 15 of his friends to kill me if I report him. He says they all know where I live but he's being clever and not telling me anything about them aside from that. He said as soon as they hear he's in court or jail they'll know it's time to go after me. I'm scared, ok! And second, I'm not afraid that boyfriend is going to kill me, I'm just afraid of him being violent.
2007-12-30 13:36:57 · update #1
People are being really insensitive about this and its not fair , as much as your scared u need 2 tell sme 1 i had lad threating 2 kill me if i got the police involvd other an asolt issue but anyway , when the police are involved people back down 2 me its sounds like hes more talk tell your mum or the police or do u have a family member you can talk 2 this is serious u carnt let it cary on , u need 2 tell some one i wish u all the best and hope u get this sorted out plz right bak 2 say what your goin 2 do be safe x
2007-12-30 13:49:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can bear with me and keep from rolling your eyes, I'll say that it's unlikely your boyfriend would be able to do such a thing without many, many years of training. The human body isn't that frail, it takes more to kill it than you think.
Now, since we are on the subject of protecting and killing, why exactly are you not telling authorities about the rapes? Unless, this is just a trolling post and bought it hook line and sinker.
To be frank, at 13 you really are not in a position to judge whether your reasons for keeping your mouth shut are good or not, despite your being mature. This is NOT a slam on your intelligence, merely giving you a perspective of your experience versus a wise adult (I used wise, because we both know that some adults are worthless).
So, I would not fear your BF for saying he knows how to kill someone with a martial arts move. It's unlikely to happen. I would be afraid if he ever threatened to use it on anyone, because that could mean time in prison....which would be really, really crappy.
2007-12-30 13:46:29 · answer #2 · answered by George Michael B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, you're boyfriend told you that to make you feel secure, not afraid. He wants to protect you and not hurt you. If he has the tendency to be violent, it doesn't matter if he does it with or without a weapon. He doesn't sound like he would hurt you. As for the jerk who raped you, most of the time, they are all talk when it comes to scaring you into being quiet. If you decide to turn him in, which you should do, be sure to tell the police about his friends maybe they can get some names out of him and protect you. If you don't turn him in, he'll keep doing it to you and probably others too. I wish you and your boyfriend the best of luck together and I certainly wish you the best in all that you do. Good luck and God Bless!!!!
2007-12-30 14:06:14 · answer #3 · answered by shelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't get past it until you are away from the entire situation, including Alex.
Regardless of how mature you feel, you are still a child who has been brutally attacked. There isn't a mother alive who would not do whatever is necessary to protect her daughter, especially in a situation like this. You MUST tell your family about what happened. Forget about Alex for the time being. Get under the wings of your parents and get some evaluations from qualified professionals. You are in way over your head here.
If you ignore what people are telling you here in Y!A, you are in denial. BELIEVE ME WHEN I TELL YOU THAT YOUR PSYCHE IS TELLING YOU TO GET HELP BY POSTING THIS QUESTION!
Get help now! It isn't your fault.
2007-12-30 13:44:47 · answer #4 · answered by jjudijo 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Get away from both guys. You have your whole life ahead of you, you don't need this at your age. Your life will be much richer if you get out of this mess you are in. Concentrate on schoool, leave these guys to their own behaviors and become the person that you can be.
2007-12-30 13:36:40 · answer #5 · answered by Robert L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need Professional help Little Girl . Asking the Yahoo Idiots will not help you . You also need to call the police and report the rapes cause he will prob rape someone else cause you did not stop him .
2007-12-30 13:34:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seeing that you are allowing this guy to rape you over again and again shows that you must like it. No women would in her right mind allowed this to happen over and over. Tell the police on whom ever it is, no matter if it's your brother or dad or who ever it is. Or do you really enjoy the excitement of being rape by the same guy again and again. As far as your boyfriend goes he's just saying that to make you think how brave he thinks he is. He can't and wont do a thing to help you.
Only the police can help you if you really want it to stop.
JED
2007-12-30 14:16:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
well i would tell my mom or dad or an adult about you being raped but i dont know your whole situation.
i would be scared if my boyfreind knew how to kill people but you said that you are in love with him so...
2007-12-30 13:37:14 · answer #8 · answered by Casey f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since u were 9 1/2?
Ok this guy is a control freak. and control freaks eventually become violent...leave him now. and don't look back. u deserve better.
2007-12-30 13:34:23 · answer #9 · answered by hewlett p 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you trust your boyfriend, dont worry. i can understand your scared but he just wants to protect you. if he ever does anything like hits you or mentally abuses you id be worried. just make sure you trust him and im sure you can get over it.
2007-12-30 17:20:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋