Is my mom right?

Question

I kid cursed at me to rasie my hand when he was passing out papers,but I didn't hear him call my name.I went to the teacher about it, and he just laughed it off,and to me to hit the kid(jokily),& when I told my mom,she said that it childish and wrong for me to go to the teacher,and that the teacher should I told me to grow up. Is my mom right?

A kid cursed at me to rasie my hand when he was passing out papers,but I didn't hear him call my name.So I went to the teacher about it, and he just laughed it off,and to me to hit the kid(jokily),& when I told my mom,she said that it childish and wrong for me to go to the teacher,and that the teacher should I told me to grow up. Is my mom right?

Answer 1

well it depends on how you look at it, in one way, she may be right because there is no sense in causing an uproar over something small, but on the other hand if it made you feel uncomfortable then you should go to the teacher.

Answer 2

Two wrongs do not make a right. If your feelings were hurt by a curse word then you need to get over it. You are a better person than that boy that cursed you. As the teacher did not hear the curse what did you think she would/could do for you? had your teacher pulled the boy and you aside it would have been your word against his and unless he admitted that he had cursed you nothing good would have come of this. As for what your Mom said well the words are less than the best but the lesson is good. From my experiences I would say this boy likes you and is trying to get your attention. Most young boys do not know how to relate to a girl so will do and say things that are the opposite of what they really do mean! I know it makes no sense but that is just how it is in the real world. Grow up? Yes, but do have fun while you do!

Answer 3

Listen young lad. Moms are nearly always right. More often than teachers. We all get a bit frustrated when in the right as you probably were at school when you did not hear the other boy or girl but you should have been more alert to what was happening in class unless you were studying some book or other. Only you know if you were paying attention and did not receive the papers. It surely would not cause you to lose face if you did raise your hand to help a classmate to allocate the papers to the respective pupils. Try to co-operate with those who may not always do the expected and cause embarassment to you. Smile and you will win without a mental battle with yourself.

Answer 4

Lets see. You leave out data needed for proper profile of the situation. How old are you? How old is the boy? Are you 7 or 17 years old?

I believe that what you did was right, your teacher and mom are probably wrong.

The one thing that is true is that you have the RIGHT to be treated in a respectable manner by everybody around you. This RIGHT is forfeit if you abuse the other persons RIGHTS. If you did not curse at him, he should have not cursed at you and your teacher and your mom should have supported you and dealt with the bully. Since the teacher did nothing, by what I gather, if you still think he needs a lesson for his actions, you also have the RIGHT to go to the School Principal or Social Worker.

Answer 5

It wasn't right of the other child to curse you no matter what the reason but sometimes you have to chose your battles. Next time explain to him that you didn't hear him. Your mom is somewhat right, if you tell for every little thing then when something is serious the teacher might tend to ignore you. If after you talk to the other kid and the trouble continues then you might want to mention it to an adult before the other kid thinks they can treat you like that all of the time. Good luck and try to just have a little patience, that's the grown up thing to do.

Answer 6

i can't tell you that your mom is right or wrong . i will tell you that it's hard for a parent to understand how you feel if they never went through those problems at school when they were kids . i do feel that the teacher was wrong because it is her responsiblity to teach the children to always show respect to each other. if this was a one time deal then i would blow the kid off this time and avoid the kid . if it continues, then i would go to my counslor and talk to her or him about it . you have the right to be shown respect . please remember, speaking as a former child , kids can be the cruelest and coldest people on earth . they don't relize just how much they can hurt someone with just a few words . and sadly , it can be the same way for adults too. i drive a school bus and it is a major rule on my bus that everyone shows respect to each other and to me while they are on my bus . i have the best kids in town . don't let that kid bother you . maybe he was having a bad day . and maybe he doesn't relize just how much it bothered you . i hope i answered your question and helped you feel better . i hope you have a great day :) .

Answer 7

I am a mother, and no you were not wrong. The young man cursed at you and this was not a mature way to act. I believe the teacher should of called him over and told him it was not good to use this kind of language. I always encourage my daughters to tell someone and not take it on themselves to deal with it. Parents should never, ever tell there children to keep quiet.

Answer 8

You mean a kid cursed at you to raise your hand? As in, "Raise your F-ing hand?" or something? If so, yeah, a lot of kids curse and it's not really going to do you any harm. The only time that's worth bothering about with is when it's a child, not a teenager or something, or if the kid is really bullying you.

Answer 9

It is not right for you to be cursed at, and the teacher needs to do something about it, other than laugh it off. It could get worse. If something else happens, then you will need to see the principal.

Answer 10

It really depends on how important the paper is and how long its been going on for, if its only a one time think then you should probably have waited but if the teacher is not taking you seriously then you really should have a talk with him, telling him how you feel and what you think the problem is. If you go to him maturely then i'm sure he will adress your feeling. I don't think its immature, especially if you weren't making a scene.