Secrets to Good Communication Skills?

Question

I have trouble connecting with others because Im very shy and I don't have good communication skills. What are some secrets to good communication skills? How do I become a great communicator such as Larry King? And how do I get others to like me? How do I get comfortable in my own skin?

Answer 1

To laugh often and much;

To win the respect of intelligent people
and the affection of children;

To earn the appreciation of honest critics
and endure the betrayal of false friends;

To appreciate beauty;
To find the best in others;

To leave the world a bit better, whether by
a healthy child, a garden patch
or a redeemed social condition;

To know even one life has breathed
easier because you have lived;

This is to have succeeded.
- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Im really shy too and found that reading books on social skills and friendships was helpful. You have to practice what you learn then get out as much as you can. As a shy person this may be hard work for you but really its the only way to do it.

At the end of the day liking yourself is about living your life in accordance with your highest values, and utilising your best qualities. If you can do this then self esteem will no longer be an issue.

Answer 2

Listening. Then when you talk, show people you are listening by repeating what they are saying, like "So what you are saying is ..." and then rephrase what they said, with some intonation. They'll love it as long as you vary it because people like to hear people say what they are saying like it is profound. Eventually, if you have something to add, try to put it in a question as it relates to what they are saying.
Listening to people can be very interesting because you will notice that what people say often has little to do with what someone else said. Sometimes it does, but many times it is another person's slant on things that is quite different.
Also by listening and repeating what is said relieves you of the pressure to come up with something witty on your own. Just wait for it to come and play with what people say while you are listening.
Good luck.

Answer 3

I used to be chronically shy myself. (although you would never know it ) I was sooo uncomfortable talking to people that I barely spoke. The trick is to LET GO of all your hang ups and selfconsciousness and insecurities and just be yourself. Obviously, that doesn't happen overnight but start small. When you go for a walk in your neighbourhood, say hi to people here and there. Be confident....fake it at first if you have to
If you know you'll be at the Christmas Party with so and so, think ahead of topics you could bring up that ~ that person is interested in. Bottom line, be comfortable in your own skin..&..just be yourself! I find that it's sooo painful to watch someone who is chronically shy ~ have you ever seen someone else who is like that? Its heartbreaking.

Answer 4

good communication skill is to speak up and target ur commanalites to another,lets get this clear others like u for who u r , how u present urself,and personality.....most of us struggle to be comfortable whetheter it be vulnerbilty,spirtual or emotional and intellectuall ..it comes with age believe it or not we grow comfortable with ourselves