I posted this in the LGBT section hoping that some gay men can give me advice too, since they are usually more honest about these things (due to no fear of embarssment from women).
2007-12-30 12:23:46 · 10 answers · asked by Tamara M. 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
He's a man. Men are kind of like plants, there's not too much to their thinking.
2007-12-30 12:29:57 · answer #1 · answered by Yeah. 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First come to terms with straight men code - they really don't want to connect with anyone on a deep, emotional level!
Mostly they are just as shallow and superficial as you probably have already experienced - sex, work, sports, beer, cars, music - very limited interests, not much going on there that's all that deep.
However, you could try "setting a mood" (massages are always good!) and then asking them a few open-ended questions "What was your best Christmas? Favorite childhood memory? Nicest thing your Dad ever did for you?" but don't press and don't appear too desperate or needy - if he senses you are making a deliberate conscious effort to connect with him on this deeper, emotional level - he will likely shut down.
Good luck, girlfriend!
2007-12-30 12:32:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not gay, but I am good about about knowing and sharing my feelings. To be frank about it, I'm not sure a lot of men have a deeper emotional level. From being a therapist for many years and working with both men and women, I've about come to the conclusion that a lot of men are just barbarians. (You know that's the first time I've ever said that but I really believe it to be true.) I hope your man is not one of those.
2007-12-30 12:30:09 · answer #3 · answered by krowtap 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Warning: Most men don't have a deeper, emotional level.
But, should you find one that does 1) try talking about his interests; 2) try being interested while he's doing this; 3) let him bare his soul to you; 4) talk to him about his past - girlfriends and all - without judging him; 5) be honest with him and make sure he knows how important it is for him to be honest with you too.
Most importantly, earn his trust and learn to trust him.
2007-12-30 12:31:59 · answer #4 · answered by Gail S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need a man who will participate.
Seriously.
It is real easy to connect on a deeper emotional level with a man who will do the same. It is just hard to find a man who will genuinely do this.
This comes so naturally when you do find that right one. The emotions just flow .. and it is great. But .. most guys are sexually driven .. while most women are emotionally driven. And .. most guys by-pass the emotional stuff.
2007-12-30 12:51:22 · answer #5 · answered by Tara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a deeper emotional level your self. Don't try and "push" him there. It could look like you are probing Most men don't like opening up even to there partner. It will take time and trust before you see any thing different. Listen to his "problems" with out judgement One good book to read is "Men are from Mars Women from Venus"
2007-12-30 12:31:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This individual is is severely wrong ,or a sexist pig hiding at the back of a "religious" clarification, or the two. Hitler twisted the classes of Blavatsky,the founding father of Theosophy, to justify his theory of the grasp race, and next ethnic cleansing and homicide of Jews. I actual have faith in reincarnation, and have under no circumstances heard ANY religious instructor talk such nonsense. men and ladies folk have distinctive classes, so do gay and at present, Black and White, etc. yet None are greater advantageous, or inferior. some anybody is greater developed than others, yet gender , race, sexuality, or station in existence have no longer something to do with it. i could desire to love one in each of those individual as someone, yet i could discover it no longer easy to be in close association, and under no circumstances in an intimate relationship with them.
2016-10-02 22:22:24 · answer #7 · answered by graybill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've got bad news for you. I am a guy and so I can tell you that guys are not interested in emotions. guys are interested in sex. Guys have relationships in order to get sex. Women have sex in order to have a relationship. Guys can be trained to be aware of emotions and feelings but only when they are head over heals in love or lust. Then you can use yourself as a reward. "These are my feelings and these are my needs..." When the guy is responsive to your needs then he can be rewarded with kissing and stuff. Depending on your age. We are not naturally connected or motivated by feelings like women are.
2007-12-30 12:29:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
be honest
2007-12-30 12:27:32 · answer #9 · answered by alicat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just try and you will
2007-12-30 12:27:01 · answer #10 · answered by Williew 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋