If you had a child that turned out mentally retarded, would yout be disappointed?

Question

Serious answers only.

Answer 1

Hi. My name is Sue and I am 25yrs old. I gave birth to our first child 3 1/2 yrs ago. My daughter was born healthy but got strep pneumonia meningitis when she was only 3days old. Because of the meningitis my daughter is MR. Am I disappointed?! No. I love my daughter to death and would not trade her for the world. She is 3 1/2 but has the mentality of a 5-6month old. She cannot walk, talk, see or hear. I don't know what the future holds for my daughter....if she'll walk, if she'll talk, if she'll ever be able to see my face or hear my voice. But she is my daughter and she knows who her father and I are. Yes, it is hard at times....but I would never be disappointed. Everything happens for a reason.

Answer 2

I have a child with a developmental delay. He's a very good boy and very sweet. At first, you definitely go through stages of denial, anger, disappointment, even grief, but you know what? I've learned so much about love, patience, and simply just letting go and letting God take control. My son's challenges became more apparent as he approached school age, and are more on the mild side. However mild or severe the challenge, it still changes your life so much. You need a lot of support from family, friends, and in figuring out the best route to take for thier education. I hope all works out for your family, and I hope you get the support you need. Take care.

Answer 3

My Dear,
In life we never know what going to happen, we have to learn to take the good with the bad. All children are special and you will see that God gave you this special child to teach you something. The child is a gift, cherish him and love him with all your heart. After all what really is retarded I'll bet that child grows up to have more sense then half the people in the world. Look at what we so called normal people do every day, we are the ones that should be labeled as mentally disable!

Answer 4

I would be upset that my child would have intense challenges. Disappointed that my child couldn't live a normal life. I don't know that disappointed is the right word. I would be upset, at first. That wouldn't take my love away from my child, but I know it would be a constant struggle on our family and I would feel it wasn't fair. Then again, what is? People should realize how lucky they are when they have a healthy child.

Answer 5

I think most people would. I am a teacher, when I find out any child is mentally disabled (for whatever reason) I am a little disappointed. Its something that is very difficult for everyone involved, including the child. My advice is to find out all you can and do your best to raise this child and love him/her with all your heart (if this is the situation you are in).

Answer 6

Not at all. Everything happens for a reason, God gave this child to you because he felt that you were capable to handle this gift. Mentally-challenged children/people are Angels here on earth. They are here to teach us how to treat one another. I lost a set of twin boys after I was able to bond with them for almost 6 months, it was devestating, but it made me a better mother. Count your blessings, best of luck.

Answer 7

No be happy what god gives you he dose not give us nothing we cant handle
I will love that child just like my other kids
I would love to have another kid and I'd love at child on matter what so just be happy kids are a true gift from god

Answer 8

It would be very hard, truthfully. But its common enough that I'd find a support group and learn how to take care of and love the child as much as possible.

Answer 9

Yes, I would, at least initially. We all hope for a healthy normal baby. That is what every parent hopes for. But I would still love my child, and what him/her to achieve the best that he/she can, however limited.

Answer 10

I would be upset yes no one wants their child to have medical issues. However I would love, care and nurture them just the same.