2007-12-30
11:49:51
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Jakob's Mommie
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Pregnancy & Parenting
➔ Trying to Conceive
i am 18 i have a career i am a licensed esthitician. what do think about that and the fact i have been with my guy for 4 years now. i am just wondering simply because i havent gotten pregger yet but i was going to see a specialist but i dont want to be looked at funny.
2007-12-30
11:59:57 ·
update #1
i turn 19 on february 8th
2007-12-30
12:00:19 ·
update #2
its not that i care what a stranger thinks i am 18 almost 19 with a 3 year old brother. i already get the looks and i dont mind it is the fact i was wanting to know if there is a limit on age for a fertility specialist. i would love the attention if i could get pregnant. i love it when i have my brother with me out in public. also my fiancee has a 1 month old niece me and him take out with us constantly they think she is ours and i sometimes play along? lol
2007-12-30
12:09:41 ·
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Under 18, but in most cases a fertility specialist will not see you unless you are married! I wish you the best of luck!
2007-12-30 13:37:09
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answer #1
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answered by Anonymous
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Let me give you some advice FIRST HAND. I was with my fiance 3 years when I was 19 and got pregnant. I too was really good with kids always worked in a daycare or at the preschool when I was still in school so I thought "I can do this". Let me tell you there is NO comparison. MY daughter is the best thing that ever happend to me, don't get me wrong, but at that point in my life We were not married yet and I was STILL very young if I thought so then or not, To be honest with you.... to be a good mother before being married and while your still young is VERY hard to do. I managed to do it and I'm quite proud of the mom I've become but it came at the expense of the relationship with her father, I realized he wasn't the dad I thought he'd be... Now I'm 23 my daughter is 3 and i'm married to an amazing man and friends with her father .... We really have the best case scenario BUT its still SO hard.
I think what I didn't realize at 19 was I WAS STILL SO young. At the very least WAIT until your married THEN have your baby in a secure home. Please take my advice and learn from my hardships. You still have some of your youth to live out before you take care of someone else, live it! I hope this helps you, I'm sure your very mature... you must be to have such a good job and be with your bf for so long... just do yourself a favor and AT Least wait till your married.
2007-12-30 12:26:39
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answered by Anonymous
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I think 25-34 is good. I also highly believe in being MARRIED first. That's what's best for your child. Show that you are committed and in love. Yeah, I know lots of people get divorced. But it's a lot easier to walk away if you're not married. Doesn't your baby deserve the best possible start in life, not second best? Having your career for a few years and being married for a couple years before kids is great. You have money to do things and it's fun to enjoy each other for a while. I know babies are cute and everything, but there's more to life than that at your age. I waited until I was much older than you and I wouldn't change a thing. I love my child with all my heart, but she's TONS of work. You have to be ready for that HUGE responsibility. I honestly don't think you are until at least 25. Your early twenties are about figuring out who you are. You're a kid, enjoy it!
2007-12-30 12:22:38
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answered by Carrie 4
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There is no set "right age". Some people are good parents at 18 and some are terrible at 40. It all depends on your life and you as a person.
A good parent is some who is: patient, kind, understanding, mature, responsible, and generally selfless. A good parent is someone who is willing to give up their outside life hanging out with friends, going to the bar, and partying to care for a baby until they grow up and move out. A good parent is someone who can afford to properly feed, clothe, house, and care for a child.
If you can't do all of those things I just listed then you are not ready for a baby - I don't care if you're 13 or 50, you're not ready.
2007-12-30 11:59:29
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answered by Due March 9th, 2010 5
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I am not sure if age is the issue. I think if you are mature and can support yourself and a child then go ahead. There are several young parents that can do this. I do not think you should try for a baby when you have no means of taking care of it. Like I said, age is NOT the main issue on when to have a baby.
2007-12-30 11:55:34
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answered by momma_2_an_angel 4
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I think it depends on the individual. But if your main concern is how people may look at you for TTC that could be a sign you aren't ready. Imagine when you're walking around with a little one attached to you, you'll get alot of looks from complete strangers.
I think the last thing you should be concerned with is what people may think about you TTC. You should be concerned with your financial/emotional stability and don't worry about what anyone thinks. If you and your boyfriend think you are ready to take that step that should be all that matters.
2007-12-30 12:05:12
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answered by Meg 2
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Depends on the maturity of the individual. In my opinion though I think under 18 is to young. Unless that person had support form a spouse or family member.
2007-12-30 12:01:50
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answered by QTpie 4
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under 18. It really depends on the person and situation though. I think a person should be in a healthy marriage for at least a year before trying, but that is only an ideal solution in my mind.
I'm 21 and married for 3 years. 21 weeks pregnant
2007-12-30 11:54:21
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answered by Van is due 5/8/08! 5
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It depends on the maturity level, and finacial situation of the person. I would have to say over the age of 17 is normal. Like I said depends on the maturity leval and if they can afford and care for a baby
2007-12-30 11:55:25
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answered by Anonymous
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My daughter exchange into 3 as quickly as we began attempting for #2. She is now in basic terms a sprint previous 4 one million/2 years previous and her brother is due interior the subsequent couple of weeks. i've got self belief, in my opinion, that allowing #one million to have toddler time in the previous bringing #2 into the combination is a robust concept. Granted you do no longer might desire to attend over 4 years, yet something decrease than 2 isn't trouble-free on YOU and the #one million toddler. Your physique needs time to recover from the stresses of being pregnant.
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answered by cardeiro 4
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