now please dont lecture me....
okay.so ive liked this guy we can call him tom for a while and we always 'watch football together' we will text each other during the game and be like ooo did you see that and oh yeah!! and yesterday after the patriots giants game he asked me out i was like YES!!!!!!
then this other guy we will call him jerry whos cute asked me out and i couldnt say no..cause im too nice so i said yes. and i figured i'd work things out today. well tom and jerry are apparently friends...and today tom texted me yelling and cussing saying that i cheated (he just got out of a bad relationship and his gf cheated on him) and i've apoligized all day...can you tell me something to say cause i am sorry and i was stupid and i want him back!!
the song should of said no by: taylor swift relates but switched..
PLEASE HELP!
thanks
2007-12-30 11:43:42 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
u screwed up!!! for a reason,. apparently u dont think too much of tom to even think about saying yes to another guy! ur best bet is to tell tom that yes u screwed up and ur sorry and u know ur not good enough for him!!! cuz if someone cared enough about another person they wouldnt hurt them! just dont do it again cuz u never know if it could happen to u and u wouldnt like it!!!
2007-12-30 12:14:30 · answer #1 · answered by cris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't really cheat, it's just that you weren't honest with both of them. So karma bit you in the ***. You should have been honest and not played them like that. Tell Tom, the truth, tell him how you feel. You didn't mean to hurt him like that. You didn't want to say no to Jerry because you'd feel bad.
It was wrong of Tom to cuss you out, because the two of you weren't in a serious relationship. If he knew what kind of position you were in he probably wouldn't have done that. He just wants the truth from you that's all.
2007-12-30 11:51:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you know what cheating is dear? If you were not dating either of these guys exclusively, then you were (are) free to go out with anyone you desire...period.
No cheating occured here. Tom had no right to be upset or yell or cuss...you didn't owe him any loyalty, you aren't his girlfriend. If his past girlfriend cheated on him that's a shame, but this isn't the same situation and he needs to get over being possessie of you, when you two aren't even an exclusive dating couple.
Make it clear to him you are a free agent until someone indicates they want to be your boyfriend, and you agree...otherwise you can date who you want, when you want and so can the guys you go out with.
2007-12-30 11:54:35 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wel ditch jerry and do all you cna to make it up with tom and show him how sorry u are. You cat really do much, im kinda in the same situation as you are right now.
Although, still dont let him walk all over you and take advantage of your wrong doings, just try and make it up 2 him, give him time, but u may have screwed it up altogether by saying yes to jerry.
Goodluck and try not to cheat again.
2007-12-30 11:50:19 · answer #4 · answered by louise 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not in a committed relationship with either one of these guys, so you did not cheat. Watching football is not a committed relationship. I would tell both of them to grow up, that you are free to date as many people as you want, and you can date 10 in one day if you so choose. If you have been watching football together, and texting whoa, that is to much sex talk for me, hold me back with all the excitement, how do you handle it all. LOL!!
2007-12-30 12:07:47 · answer #5 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you made the dates on the same day, and thought you were going to juggle the two guys at the same time (how I am not sure?)...or break one of the dates....then you don't owe them an apology.
You didn't cheat, you accepted dates from two guys you really liked. There is nothing wrong with that, if you had no understanding with either of them that you were an exclusive couple. Too bad they are friends, but stuff happens.
2007-12-30 11:51:24 · answer #6 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So you are saying you are sleeping with both of them? If not, then you didn't cheat on Tom unless you had discussed being exclusive.
Confront tom and ask him if he thinks your relationship might be leading to something permanent. Is that even what you want?
Being "nice" doesn't mean dating anyone who asks. I think you need to mature a bit and take your relationships a little slower.
2007-12-30 11:49:27 · answer #7 · answered by Huba 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lighten up on yourself you DIDN'T cheat. if you are married and you have a relationship with some one else that is cheating. if you are in a serious relationship and have commited to just eachother, and you go have a relationship with some one else that is cheating. you did nothing wrong at all. sounds like " jerry " is a little control freak- be smart and stay away from him
2007-12-30 11:59:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on!!!!!!!!!!!!! This wasn't cheating since you two weren't established as boyfriend/girlfriend. Tom needs to chill out. Go out with Jerry.
2007-12-30 11:50:28 · answer #9 · answered by Dr. Love 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well explain to tom the situation. tell him you were just caught up in the moment and didnt want to hurt the other guy. he should undrstand and forgive you if nothin happened between u and jerry.
2007-12-30 11:47:47 · answer #10 · answered by lovely-gal 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋