shes almost 20 years older than me..i barely know her and most likely she doesnt know me although shes seen me around campus...im just intrigued by her...so smart and all that..i know this isnt healthy but i keep thinking about her...i do my best not to think about this person...but when theres nothing else to do..shes there again....
the thing is i observed our personalities are not compatible enough to have a mutual rapport...this sucks, i feel like im stuck in a rut..while this guy seems to really like her and they at least connect as friends....
2007-12-30 11:31:07 · 8 answers · asked by vincent m 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Well, perhaps if you talk with her, the mystery will be gone and you can stop obsessing.
OR, you may 'click' and be able to form a friendship.
You'll never know until to talk to her. ..Just don't be a goob with some cheesy line. Be sincere.
Oh...and age is just a number.
2007-12-30 11:41:30 · answer #1 · answered by kdfirekat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are having a fantasty. I think everyone has them every now and then. I've had them about men I couldn't possibly be with, but still, the feelings are there and very real. You are seeing the great things about her that makes her your ideal woman. The things you imagined in your ideal woman are now real and walking around plain as day, and it's driving you nuts. And you've finally found what your're looking for! Then reality sets in, and common sense tells you that the situation isn't right. She's 20 years older than you, in a different phase of her life, and it's all wrong. Maybe what you need to do is get to know her just enough to find something wrong with her. I know that sounds silly, but I think it may make her fall from the pedistal you put her on. She might then seem more human to you. But if you can't find a thing wrong with her and you know that there's no possible way that you can be with her, then just enjoy your fantasty and leave it at that.
2007-12-30 19:48:39 · answer #2 · answered by *** 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like an infatuation. Study the mating habis if the Sickleback fish, pheasant, and other animals. You will come to understand that these people possess certain features that attract us in some inexplicable way, and we just cannot figure out why. part of it is that there appears to be no rational reason. The more you look into it, however, the more you will understand it and the less hold it will have on you, and maybe eventually you will be able to nail dow what the feature is, but it also has something to do with your history and growing up and part of it is an evolutionary pull. But it has nothing to do with anything that will work out in the real world of here and now.
2007-12-30 19:45:52 · answer #3 · answered by cavassi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sweat it. I've been married 20 years and still have the ocasional "crush" on a near stranger at least once or twice a year. Something about her must appeal to you on an instinctual level. Either just ignore the situation or try to make her a friend.
In my case... since I'm married... I opt for ignore most of the time. But once or twice I found the individual so cool that I made him just a friend of myself and my husband's so that it was all "okay".
2007-12-30 19:51:48 · answer #4 · answered by treehugger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need is a larger friendship network. Get to know as many intelligent women as you can who are roughly around your age. The more you interact with them, and the more positive reenforcement you'll get from them, the less you'll think about your current obsession.
The fact that you don't interact with her very much is good, because that will make it a lot easier to get attached to other people that you do interact with.
2007-12-30 19:53:47 · answer #5 · answered by Conrad 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok so im 15 years young, and like this boy whos 14 he just moved up here where i live in NY from NC but him grandpa is my moms best friends friend but anyways i like him too and i met him on december 23rd, amd ever since that i love this kid, i icnat get him out of my mind too and i was gon to ask him out but i think i need to get to know him better. but its the same thing! talk to her.
2007-12-30 19:44:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Vincent, you need to quit following me around before I call the police. I know I am irresistible, but you are starting to get a little creepy.
2007-12-30 20:57:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That does suck. Where is the question in this one though?
2007-12-30 19:40:29 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋