If I do the following things can I prevent getting cheated on?

Question

If I:
get down to a size 4
make fancy meals
keep the house immaculate
hold down a job
rarely spend money
buy wonderful gifts for him
be an animal in bed
...will any man stay w/ me? I'm just so scared of getting cheated on.

as of right now all I can do is hold down a job

Answer 1

sometimes it doesn't matter how good u are, cheating can happen anyway. there are no guarantees, and when your too good to a man he may see u as easy to get over on, to prevent getting cheated on, u have to pick wisely when choosing a mate. if u have to do all that to keep your man it isn't worth it. money can't buy love, being physically slim can't guarantee he will stay either, buying him gifts all of the time will make him expect that always, and what happens if u can't always do all of these things? don't set yourself up for hurt and disappointment. no one can be perfect all of the time.

Answer 2

Greetings!

Yes, there are a few things you can do to prevent getting cheated on:

1) NEVER, EVER be in relationship with ANYONE! That way, you won't have to worry about anyone cheating on you.

That probably won't work, because it sounds like you want to be in a relationship. It also sounds like you want the benefits of relationship without any of the risk. It's like saying, "I want to go swimming, but I don't want to get wet". Whenever one is in an intimate relationship, one is always at risk of being hurt. And... do you want to live your life from a place of fear?

We get what we focus on. If you focus on trying to be someone that a person wouldn't cheat on, then you're not focusing on just being yourself. If a man wants to stray, he will stray. There's NOTHING you can do about it.

Here are a couple of other thoughts to help you:

2) Learn to REALLY love someone. TRUE love doesn't have ANY limitations or restrictions. If you want to see other people, you can..same for him. Most people enter relationships with very restrictive ideas about love.

3) Let go of your fear. It will debilitate and destroy you. You'll walk around all day wondering if you're "Good Enough" or "Is TODAY the day he'll leave me?!?!?" Eventually, you will focus so much on your fear that he WILL leave you. Why? No sane man wants to be in relationship with a paranoid woman.

4) Be the BEST YOU you can be. Be your full, authentic self. Many men find "REAL" women attractive.

I wish you Peace.

Answer 3

You need to stop thinking that your outward appearance and your actions can control another person's straying. They can't and they don't. What does is finding a person who loves and cherishes you and the relationship the two of you share. Not wanting to ever jeopardize harming that relationship or your feelings is what keeps a person from straying. It's just loving someone so much that you do what it right. If you truly love someone would you leave them if they suddenly became ill and gained 50lbs? What if they contracted cancer and had to have breasts or some other body part removed to save their life, would you consider cheating? Hopefully not.

If your partner/ spouse can't answer these questions with a "no" I wouldn't cheat, then your with the wrong person.

Good luck and start loving yourself.

Answer 4

Dear Living in a Fantasy,
Something you should know, people make mistakes, why, cause they are human and that's what humans do. Secondly, you can't control the actions of your mate,partner or spouce, what they decide to do with someone else is their call. You would be the inocent victim that just happen to be part of the equazation. If you try to over do it like that list of your is asking, you can drive someone off. I know I did that to my wife for the first 12 yrs of my marriage and she left me. Telling me that I did everything and made her feel useless and unwanted.
I sugguest doing what you makes you and your partner feel great. But the main thing you have to remember that you and your partner are on a team!
Talk to your teammate
Show affections daily
Do things that will keep them wanting to be with you.
Offer to do something for them, just cause you feel like it not cos you feel you must.
Keep the fire burning in your romance.
But most importantly, just be yourself. If the person you are with doesn't like and love you for ALL that you are, then you should not be with them.
Being a part of a team(couple) is loving them thru thick and thin, richer or poorer, sickness and in health. You have to be like to boards of wood glued together as part of building. If the glue doesn't stick, the boards won't either!
I surely hope you don't let this fear stop you from exploring and find someone you can spend your life with. Remember find a good mate is like shopping for a good pair of shoes. If they don't fit you aren't going to buy them. And yes in life you have to try on many many pairs of shoes till the right pair(person) fits you and vice versa.
All my Best Wishes in your search!

Answer 5

Hon, There really isn’t a fool proof way of not getting cheated on, when a spouse cheats sometimes its because of something lacking at home and other times its for other reasons, like they are a dog and like to have sex with more than one woman. The important thing is to marry someone who loves you for you, don’t change yourself for anyone. Be the best wife you can be.

Answer 6

Why would you want to do all of that to keep him from cheating? It comes down to moral character. If he would want to cheat why would you want to stay with him? If he cheats give him the boot and move on. You'll be better off.

Answer 7

What you need to do is work on your self-esteem. If a man is going to cheat on you, nothing you do will stop him. Women need to quit blaming themselves for getting cheated on. The men who cheat are just jerks, although they would like you to believe it's your fault. Be who you are, be true to yourself and quit worrying so much about pleasing a man. If he's threatening to cheat on you because you aren't perfect, then he's the problem and not you-- it's called emotional abuse, dear.

Answer 8

it all depends on the type of man you are with. You can be completely perfect and a cheater will cheat anyway. Why are you worried about the unknown and what makes you not trust. this is about insecurity and work on your self esteem will help. check out his past and patterns, usually a cheater has a history of it.

Answer 9

You sound like wonder women, but seriously, If a man wants to cheat he will. Men sometimes get tired of the same thing. Some men are dogs.

Answer 10

Speaking as a therapist, you can do ALL of those things and more, but they still will not overcome your obvious lack of self-esteem and fear of being alone. You will not feel secure in any relationship if you constantly fear rejection.

Try this great guide:

Why Self-esteem in the most important hallmark of healthy relationships
http://www.hearts-and-kisses.com/relationshipadvice-love-thyself.html