I'm happily married, and totally over my ex, just to get that straight. Over the holidays, we saw my ex, who works at microsoft with my husband and I, so it's not odd for us to run into each-other. Here's the thing: his new girlfriend *who is indeed a 17 yr old with a fake ID* is a hooker. I know because two years ago, my friend had sex with her at a 21+ party, and she called the cops saying he raped her. The next day, he got arrested for sex with a minor *she was 15 then*, serving her alcohol, and rape. I was a witness against her in court, where the judge said she had been arrested 19!!! times for prostitution and drug poss. *our friend got off free, of course*
Here's the thing: i tried to tell my ex, and he blew me off, saying i'm just jealous *she is VERY good-looking, that doesn't help*, but I just KNOW that since she is a minor still, she will try the same charges on him, that's how she gets her money. And STD's. Can I print up court records, help? She shouldn't be around!
2007-12-30 11:27:19 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
To: angel 200... we aren't trying to stay friends, we work at microsoft. We have to be civil, and we broke up because of different college schedules. he and my hubby are in a car club and working on a bungee game project together *Halo, anyone?*, so I can't *and refuse to* hold grudges.
2007-12-30 11:38:31 · update #1
I think that your ex is fully aware of the situation and is afraid to admit it cause he is a pervert.
and that girl needs to have another file with the police or your ex should too.
sorry but.....
it's really wrong to sit there and let her keep on doing this to people.
but I am only 13...
so I don't know much about the legal system...
so that brings me to wrap up my answer.
2007-12-30 11:33:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only other thing I know of that you could do to try to persuade your ex that the girl he is with is a hooker is to contact your friend that the "hooker" took to court and have your friend tell your ex what she is. That would probably be your best bet if he doesn't believe you. I don't know if you could get court records or not. I know that in the county that I live in, court records are usually listed in the local newspaper. Maybe go to the library and look up old newspapers to at least have proof to show your ex that your friend had to go to court because of her. If he still doesn't believe you or your friend, I guess he will just have to learn the hard way. You tried; take credit for that. Good luck!
2007-12-30 11:51:34 · answer #2 · answered by ProudMommy26 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's just living every guy's fantasy LOL. Don't worry about it. You're married. It's his life. It's up to him to be responsible for his own decisions/life choices. I just hope they are being safe and they both get tested regularly. Just mind and enjoy your own happy marriage. He is not your responsibility in any way, shape or form (ie don't go getting records). Lastly, why are you trying to say friends with an ex who just disregards your concern? He sounds selfish to me and you sound like you're totally not over how he treated you when you were together. *In response to your additional comments, I am not saying you are jealous/hold grudges or that it is wrong to be friends. If you can maintain a fair and balanced friendship, well that's great. What I am saying is that you should let him make his own mistakes and not butt in with things like record checks and meddle in his affair etc. You work together, so of course you need to get along professionally. That's a given. It it were me, I'd keep the professional relationship and ditch the personal one. Why? Because if you guys were so great personally, wouldn't you still be together? You should have been able to work around schedules etc although granted it wouldn't be easy. Bottom line, this is HIS problem, why are you making it your own after you tried to help??? Besides, you say you aren't friends as such but your actions and say otherwise. It's ok to admit to being friends. Friendship is supposed to be reciprocal 50/50. It sounds to me that you are a better friend to him than he is to you.
2007-12-30 11:30:51 · answer #3 · answered by Angel2000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand, just because he is an ex doesn't mean you can't try to look out for him as a human being, especially if you see him regularly at work.
Perhaps passive aggressive is the way to go. Ask is it getting serious? Has he met the parents? Did he ever ask to see her high school annual? Has he met a lot of her friends and how old are they? Did he ever Google her name to see if she was listed on any sites? Does she run into a lot of fellows who seem to know her? Does she seem more experienced than one would think for her age? How is she supporting herself, i.e. what kind of job does she have now?
For all you know she has gone straight. If so, perhaps you should let them be. (But getting tested might still be a good thing for him to consider. Not supposed to work this way but next time the blood mobile is around, have him donate. They do an AIDS test, but it is not the reason to donate.)
2007-12-30 11:44:24 · answer #4 · answered by Huba 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should not get involved and concentrate on your current family and husband. It is no longer your place (or really business) to clean up your ex's mistakes or life. And, of course, he will not listen to you anyway, since you are also his ex and it is too easy for him to place that your guidance is more about issues other than truth just because he doesn;t want to hear real facts. Hey, take all of that energy, and focus it on your husband and life NOW, make a nice dinner, plan a romantic weekend for him. Work for the benefit of the future, not the past.
2007-12-30 11:34:29 · answer #5 · answered by rdsttp34 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
That is all a matter for public view, so yes you should be able to obtain a copy of them. I know you can check on someone on line, but have to pay a fee for the information. It would be worth it if you could save someone from the hassle of court and a bad name.
2007-12-30 11:35:15 · answer #6 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have already informed your ex of the potential danger that he is in. If he chooses not to take heed, then it will be best for you to stay out of it. I understand that you aren't jealous and that you want him to be safe, but if he doesn't listen he will have to suffer the consequences of his actions.
2007-12-30 11:32:56 · answer #7 · answered by Kim 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you can buy a back round check at intelius, this will tell you everything she has been charged with across the u.s., the court will only have state records and sometimes only district records
2007-12-30 11:35:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't do anything more than tell him.
If he won't listen, that's his problem.
I know you say you are not jealous, but you can surely understand why he thinks you are?
You are not responsible for his actions, let him make his mistakes, if he won't listen to you, you can do nothing more about it.
2007-12-30 11:36:02 · answer #9 · answered by munchkin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to ask her to see her ID. Or if he would rather go to jail for statutory rape. Once he's warned, you did your part and can sleep well at night.
2007-12-30 11:40:19 · answer #10 · answered by Corey (Go Dubs!) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋