Fighting..?

Question

Me and my bro fight all the time (it's not normally physical just shouting etc), it's more than just a little sibling rivalry, my friends don't fight half as much as he fights with me. Is this normal. One time he yelled at me cause I was ''breathing to loud''.

BTW I'm 15 and he's 16. There's 16 months between us.

No our parents never fought infront of us........ If they ever did have a fight we wouldn't have known.

We have no other siblings other than each other. He usually starts fights but I do rise to the bait. My granda often gives out to my bro saying stuff like ''u leave my girl alone'' and stuff like that, but it doesn't work. my mum has talked to him, as has my dad but he still persists!

It's been going on since we were little, although it has worsened lately (maybe in the last 3 years). All old people tell him to leave me alone (relations and very close family friends... who are like relations! lol!!) but he won't drop it.

Answer 1

well that is not so good mabe you need to move on

Answer 2

Not necessarily. A lot depends on the whole feel of your household, personalities etc. I fought with one of my brothers more than the other 3 because he was selfish and obnoxious. But, that didn't make us love each other less even though we were angry with each other often.

My 4 children were raised much differently and rarely fight. The two oldest work in the same office even, with one as supervisor (the younger) and get along great. Their employers were worried about hiring sisters, but found it worked very well.

So, a lot depends. If you want to change the relationship, you can. Just talk to your brother and set some goals to be more friendly. And, I had a sister yell at me for breathing too loudly once too.

Good luck and happy siblinghood!

Answer 3

Wow . That's a tough situation. My brother (older by about 2 years) and I never did "hit it off" as brother and sister. We still don't but that's by his choice. I have never understood what makes him act the way he does . My parents used to say, "He's jealous of you." My godmother says ,"He's jealous of you." and on it goes. He is smarter than I and makes more money than I...has a wife and great children.... To me he seems to have it all. I don't know why he is still acting the way he does. There doesn't seem to be any answer. I hope in your case that it is just "those teenage years" and not a lifelong angry relationship. Family is too precious to have such arguing..... The "teenage years" are very difficult . Things do usually get better after about 19 or 20 so... hang in there.... and don't yell back. Walk away without responding to him at all. It's pretty hard to have a yelling match with oneself! Let the problem be entirely his problem.

Answer 4

lol ok first ur friends do fight with their sibling as much as u do. second just a year apart hell ya ur going 2 fight. u guys basicly think alike. except 4 the fact ur a gurl and his a boy. am a year and 3 months apart 4rm my sister and we fight. every time she get's something i get pissed and wish i had it we are too much alike we both are teens and u know what happends when you get 2 teenager girls together that live under the same roof it get's catty. u guy's probley see each other every minute at school and u guy's might be invited 2 the same. hope i helped parties. trust me when u guy's are close to the same age it's going to be bitchy all i can say is it's part of life and when u get older u guy's will fell more close cuz u both will be young and ur other brother's and sisters might be too old 2 party with. the one and only reason ya fight is he might think that u took the baby spot and he didn't get 2 be the baby that much and get spoiled he might be jealous that u get all the attention. trust me that's what me sister told me.

Answer 5

Look at it this way, you're learning to defend yourself already from any jerk who will ever dare raise his hand to you... also, it just seems that he's perhaps jealous of you for something or annoyed for something you've done earlier. Teen years are always the hardest years in your life because you are defining who you are and how you react to things. If he's the one starting the fights ask yourself if he may have some problems with people in school and can't defend himself and he lrather let all his anger out on you. Maybe you're both invading each other's privacy somehow and just need some space. It doesn't hurt to talk to him before you go and complain to your parents. At this time, you should both know that you two need to learn to deal with your issues BEFORE you bring your parents into the picture.. this is the first step in maturity.

Good Luck!

Answer 6

I have 17 year old twin boys and up until last year they were always fighting. I often wondered if it was normal because it occured everytime they saw eachother. Over the past year, they have stopped fighting (they still argue every now and then) and have started to become friends. This may be a difficult stage but in time it will stop.

Answer 7

Lol. Don't worry i had to deal with that too. You know what helped me get along with my older brother? Was doing stuff together. Play video games together stay up and watch some movies. and just ignor the stupid stuff he says to you. Also, it would help to start talking to each other on something you guys agree on. Insted of fighting. It helps. Good luck!

Answer 8

Brothers and sister fight, it is their job. =)
It is easier to get annoyed with a sibling with any other person because, well, just because. He is trying to get on your case about every little thing, and is trying to cause petty fights. Stand up for your rights (even the weird ones, like breathing loudly), girl!

Answer 9

Maybe you need to give each other a little space. Other than that, yes, it is normal. If it bugs you, you could try not yelling at him and see if that helps. you can set the example by being a nice sister.

Answer 10

It's perfectly normal, believe me it happens far more then you think...lol

You two will out grow this with time and experiences you'll both have.

One day you'll both even love each other enough to visit each other and talk like normal people do...lol

Answer 11

hey there u!! well i fight alot with my sis (i mean alot) i'm 3years older den her and it dose become physical most of the time (cos that way it ends quicker (lovely 1no) ) it's natural lik and lads with the testerone ect....our tempers get shorter (hey ye get grumpy so were aloud :P ) it's just one of thoes things....oh and the parents, relatives, friends giving out might just annoy him or he dos'nt take it to hart (i no my parents tellin me 2cop on dos'nt do anything) but thats y i went 2bording school wen i was 12 (2get away 4'm it)!!!! ye'll fight but ye'll get over it (fingers crossed!)