At first I said that I would never get married, then I said I would but I would not have kids, then I said I would have kids if I could afford a nanny, then I said no matter what but when I am like 30. Now I am 21 and would like to get married and have kids in like 5 years. These changes have come in the course of less than 1 year. Is this strange? Please don't be tooo mean!
2007-12-30 10:24:48 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
So, go get busy! Stop wasting valuable baby making time on Yahoo and good luck!
2007-12-30 13:02:22 · answer #1 · answered by Fex 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I grew up thinking that i am too impatient and selfish to ever have children. This didn't change in a six year relationship which ended in divorce after a 2 year marriage. I always thought that i would make a really good mum, love kids and my ex-husband had heaps of nieces and nephews which he was GREAT with. I'm now in a new relationship, and after the first few months i look at this man and wonder what our child would look like if we had one. I see babies in prams with their mums and get this funny feeling. We have even spoken about it together, and know that sometime in the near future it will probably happen. I always thought i would be the last person in the world to think this way but it is an example of how quickly we can change. Alot of it depends on the person you are with at the time.
2007-12-30 19:26:01 · answer #2 · answered by Kim M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You'll change your mind a time or 2 again before you know what you want. I'm 23 and I thought 3 years ago that by now, I'd be married (I was engaged 3 years ago though) and have children. Now I'm okay with being single and knowing that I may not get to that point until my late 20's or 30's. your 20's are so confusing... at least that's what I hear from all of my older friends!
2007-12-30 18:39:16 · answer #3 · answered by JS820 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, it's not strange at all. Who expects you to have your whole life figured out when you are so young? Trust me on this: you're going to change your mind on many things at least a few more times before it's over...lol! And that's normal, acceptable, and understandable. Life is a dynamic thing...it's not static. It changes, and with external changes comes internal changes. What you feel strongly about today may not be what you feel strongly about tomorrow. I'm 37 years old, and it took me all of these 37 years to figure out just exactly what I want to do with my life. And yet I am distinctly aware that five years from now, I may again feel differently about the direction I'm following. And you know what? It's really o.k. Give yourself permission to change your mind. It's YOUR life. No one else is going to live it but you. And in the end, you don't get a trophy for following someone else's expectations of how you should live and what goals you should have. (Or the order in which you strive for them!) The "reward" you will feel will be internal, a feeling of well-being, peace, harmony, and balance...and that can be achieved by marching to the beat of your own drummer.
Good luck!
2007-12-30 18:35:55 · answer #4 · answered by It's Ms. Fusion if you're Nasty! 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
No it's not weird.
We are human beings and are constantly changing. Life is a journey and if you have changed your mind you've changed your mind.
Just be prepared and don't rush into anything.
What else has changed? Are you now in a relationship? That's what made me change my mind on the whole "marriage and a family" thing. Whatever you do---enjoy being young and without kid's because once you have them it's for life!
2007-12-30 18:51:57 · answer #5 · answered by ღyesღ 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I wonder what the cause of these changes in your perspective are...
a 1 year old relationship with a boyfriend you love I'm guessing.
Just make sure the decisions you make reflect your own values and not someone elses.
And to be fair, if you changed your mind in the last year about this, your five year plan will probably hold many mind changes as well.
2007-12-30 18:35:07 · answer #6 · answered by Devil's Advocette 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
This may not be the right answer for you but, you should let life happen. Don't hold your self to choices you made about your future when you were 16. Marriage and children are and adventure and hopefully they will fill your life with joy. No matter what you will love your babies and hopefully you will have a husband who you love more than anything in the world. Follow your heart. Good Luck.
2007-12-30 18:47:18 · answer #7 · answered by Shell 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No, it's not strange. Minds can change all the time. You just have to think about what you truly, madly, deeply want for your life. If you don't want a husband or kids 100%, I'd recommend not having them.
2007-12-30 18:29:17 · answer #8 · answered by Rio Madeira 7 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Not at all, when we are young (I am 21) we change what we expect of ourselves and the world as we go through different experiences. Also society can influence us (what is the norm) and when we get a little older we can decide that we want to do things OUR way.
It's completely natural as young people what we want changes. I am the other way round, although I got married ay 18 I thought yeah at around 20, I'll have children. Then 20 came and I thought, yes at about 25. Now I'm nearly 22 and I don't feel any different, I still don't want kids until 'the future' so I will just not estimate but do it when I'm ready.
But, do you actually have a future husband in your life?
2007-12-31 07:23:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not strange. You're just growing up and seeing more of life and getting to know yourself and your abilities better than you used to.
2007-12-30 20:48:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not unusual, particularly when you are young. But make sure you are REALLY ready, have a caring, supportive spouse, a good income and good health insurance before you even attempt it. Children are ten times as much work as you think they are, even if you think you have a pretty good picture of what comes along with it.
2007-12-30 19:15:13 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋