Often I have noticed people's behavior change from what it used to be on the first encounter. They can be charming and provide you with attention but than after a while that doesnt remain the same. When I notice this change it worries me so I assume that I have done something to disappoint that person and he/she doesnt like me anymore therefore my personality shifts from being content to acting cold and distant. It gets very confusing because when I feel that something might be a problem I will ask if there is anything I did wrong and the answer I always end up getting is that there is no problem and this person likes me the same so nothing has changed. A friend of mine also added that I want people to worship me in order to feel satisfied. This actually strikes me as a surprise because I just wanted some reassurance which doesn't last long when I see people changing so rapidly.
Am I just being paranoid and noticing little things or can there be some truth in my suspicions?
2007-12-30 09:54:23 · 9 answers · asked by ? 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You are feeling let down aren't you ?
I am not sure what to say apart from that is people's behaviour in general. You develop some thick-skin as you grow older and just accept that another person is not YOU.
I think everybody on the planet has experienced the same situation and really......it might be you (something you said, how you behaved) or just the other person 's psyche really.
There could be 10000 of reasons..
People's relationships are intricate and as one knows more about the other person : either we grow distant or closer .
Or it might be just a bad bout and nothing about you at all.
Sometimes you have to reflect about your own behaviour and at other times..just let go.......you just realise that there is nothing wrong with you.
Sometimes there are external influences in the other person's mind which make them grow distant from you too. Different life, different interests, different paths..
I have friends who have stayed with me through thick and thin and others just flabbergasted me.
I will give an example : I thought I was a close friend with somebody whom I helped a lot and we shared lots of stories.
I went abroad...came back and recontacted that person who just told me on the phone "well ..we have different lives now". I was absolutely floored by the coldness. I never visited her again nor did she. I think it was my worst experience as a friend. So I thought at the time .." I gave, gave, gave,"
I shrugged it off. It did not hurt me but opened my eyes more: Many people use others.
If you are thinking about guys..ooh well..at this age :-)
2007-12-30 13:15:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it isn't reasonable or wise to "a**-u-me" anything. There could be any number of explanations for what you may perceive as a change in behavior that have little or nothing to do with you. Unless you have done something to offend a person then it isn't likely that they just decided not to like you anymore. It's more likely that they have other things going on in their life that are of greater importance to them than their relationship with you. That doesn't mean that they don't like you.
2007-12-30 11:15:11 · answer #2 · answered by Martin S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why assume that a change in someone's behaviour has anything to do with you? Oftentimes, it has nothing to do with another person. It is a situation or circumstance that is happening at the time. Perhaps, there is some truth in what your friend says about you.
2007-12-30 10:04:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-10 16:04:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No youre not being paranoid. Same thing happened to me. I dismissed it as not something i did. Well , turns out they really did have a problem.
2007-12-30 10:46:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You asked so I am going to tell you so listen and listen carefully shat I say is intended to help you function better in the world for the rest of your life/
What you need to be learn is that you are not the center of the universe!
Your clingy attitude turns people off. Relax., take it easy, learn not to have your moods set by what others think or do.
Adapt to your surrounding more, without having to be immature and needing to be the center of everything.
. We are each our own person.....or at least we should be! We are separate and not connected. Learn to make your own happiness and peace. Don't be so needy! If you want a friend be a friend, BUT don't be so judgmental, so clingy, needy!
Smile! There is a big world out there with lots of people to meet and places to go. Expand your horizons. Stop internalizing everything.
Get a prayer life and use it! God is good all the time!
2007-12-31 09:45:37 · answer #6 · answered by ruthie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a persons behavior does not always have anything to do with you, they could have things going on in their life not involving you
2008-01-01 07:08:01 · answer #7 · answered by bathsheba p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a good ? now people dont change u r just starting to see thier personalities ...thats why we dont jump into relationships
2007-12-30 10:02:53 · answer #8 · answered by Psychologist In The House 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think some people i meet think I'm interesting and maybe fun then realize I'm not what they thought and move on
2007-12-30 10:32:13 · answer #9 · answered by jasbo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋