okay so i have about 10 friends at my school but there are like 3 or 4 that i hang out with all the time. everytime they talk i listen but when i try to say something they just ignore me like i seriously have to scream to get their attention. on day like 2 or 3 weeks ago, 2 of my friends were talking and they said to me " come on Ariel, you need to talk more. talk to us!" and i said "why should i talk you're just going to ignore me again?" was that wrong of me?and they always like say u " oh she won't talk bcuz we "ignore" her" it's really annoying and i want them to stop ignoring me. i don't know what to do. what should i do to get them to stop ignoring me?
2007-12-30 09:43:25 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
oh and like when we are working on partner stuff at school they always pick each other to work with. and one day we were doing this art thing and they all moved their desks 2gether and noticed me like 15 minutes later. it really upset me ALOT i wanted to punch them. and they think they are pretty too.
2007-12-30 09:47:37 · update #1
i dont want to stop being friends with them.
2007-12-30 09:49:08 · update #2
they sound dumb, get better friends
2007-12-30 09:46:26 · answer #1 · answered by trueeeblueee! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Old habits are hard to break. It will be difficult for your friends to take more time to pay attention. Kindly and I say again kindly share how you feel. Tell them that you ,"have the need for them to listen to you, or you feel ignored which hurts, or it makes you feel less when you are ignored, etc... " Something like that. If they are understanding and caring, they will give effort to pay more attention. But, you will have to be patient with them to stop the habit.
I do have a question, are you a person who jokes around alot, or when you speak is it sheepish (lack of confidence)? Both will reduce your credibility. People who are labeled the joker are not taken seriously. People who speak with lots of confidence are taken more seriously then with little confidence. How do you present yourself?
Hope this helps.
2007-12-30 09:57:38 · answer #2 · answered by frank 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you just aren't getting into the conversations as much as you think you are. Not being mean at all, I had this problem before. If you just sit there and they get into a giant convo and you have no major input, they'll probably ignore you, just because they are caught up in themselves. Just try to get more involved, and make yourself involved (even if it seems, pushy, these girls seem to have no problem being pushy with you if they are acting like that). I'm sure your pals wouldn't be deliberately ignoring you. Maybe its just a missunderstanding on both parts.
2007-12-30 09:49:02 · answer #3 · answered by help me 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have that same problem with the "listening" thing but it just shows that they aren't as mature and understanding as u are get new friends, ones that listen 2 u!!!! or if u dont want 2 get new friends, tell them flat out the next time they ignore you that you were talking and you'd like them to listen 2 u. just be more assertive!
2007-12-30 09:50:04 · answer #4 · answered by Sophie <3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Throw a big party. Then have a intersession where you get up and say whatever you have to without the music playing. Ha! They will all have to listen.
2007-12-30 09:48:35 · answer #5 · answered by Sunday's Best 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her attitude and find new friends to hang with! If you do that she will hopefully discover you dont like to be treated like that!
2007-12-30 09:48:11 · answer #6 · answered by Missy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell them the way you feel,sit them down and make them listen to how u feel about them leaving you out and if they don't change their ways then maybe they aren't good friends 4 you.
2007-12-30 10:19:02 · answer #7 · answered by MrzZ.UNiQUuE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a new set of friends.
2007-12-30 09:48:52 · answer #8 · answered by Lone Jack 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that was wrong of you at all....you need to openly express to them why that irritates you and see how they respond to it...so many people are unaware when they are doing something wrong.
2007-12-30 09:46:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
yell out really loud...SEX!!! okay now that i have ur attention!! u get it...maybe ur voice is too low or something or they figure u have nothing interesting to say or u need new friends!!!
2007-12-30 09:48:29 · answer #10 · answered by Billie Longfellow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are not your friends if they don't respect you, so my advice is to seek for new ones who will listen and apreciate your opinions.
2007-12-30 09:48:39 · answer #11 · answered by Lil' Gay Monster 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋