surving a breakup while you have borderline personality disorder?

Question

was just recently diagnosed as BDP. i had been in a relationship with a girl who gave me all the love and support in the world. however, it was a long distance relationship and i think the separation from her is what triggered my symptoms to increase. she tried to reason to me but i started to rage over the internet and it eventually caused her to break up with me. now we aren't even speaking. i apologized for hurting her and told her i was sick. i called her too many times that she probably thinks i'm a stalker. she said that nothing will get better right now, but i think she'd be happier to never talk to me again. she'll always remember me as her psycho ex, despite all the happy times we spent together.

has anyone been in this situation before? how do i get over the "what if"s- what if i wasn't sick, what if i had been calmer that night. because the answer to that is we'd probably be happy together. how do you forget and move on, when all you are left is an empty self and a disorder that took away the best thing to ever happen to you?

Answer 1

The main step that you must take is to completely disengage yourself from this person.

She has made it perfectly clear that she needs you to give her some space and time to resolve the relationship issues which are ongoing.

And, she may never come around to perceive you as someone who deserves her attention and love.

So be it. Let her go her own way. And, instead of lamenting about the past and the mistakes that you have made, understand that you have had some negative life experiences which you can choose to learn from and then move on, rather than continually obsess about.

Live in the present. That is where joy and contentment reside.

Answer 2

Love the romance, but buddy, it wasn't the disorder. You've caused the disorder because of the things the last answeror is talking about, you neglected to do. Ether you learn from your past experience, grow stronger, and thrive in life, or you get an f'in disorder, struggle just to survive and life is a living heck. Its basically the way it works, yea I know, not very compassinate for what you've been thru, but the biggest problem your going to deal with is the fact she can't help you, your doctors can't help you, only YOU can help YOU. So salvation, peace, meaning and a new girl that actually does geniune love you AWAITS! If you just come to terms with your issues, not an easy road, but not going down it, means pretty much, your standing still...... and that would make you more empty andmore disorder then her, so get off kicking your own butt and realize your power, or suffer for not.