any ideas
2007-12-30 08:23:25 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yeah, be his friend. He's the same exact person as before he told you.
2007-12-30 08:27:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 0⤋
Hey I have a friend that came out to his guy friends. ALthough they were hesitant at first, they remained his friend. They told him it would be hard for them to talk about certain things with him now, but like sports and other activities would be the same.
Your friend knows you're straight. He's not going to hit on you or any of your other straight friends. Think about it, would you hit on a girl that was strictly lesbian & you had no chance with AT ALL? (in all honestly, putting bisexual fantasies boys have aside here) NO. It would be a waste of time PLUS humiliation too.
He probably wanted to tell you because he doesn't want you to find out in a really uncomfortable way.
It doesn't really change anything. I mean my friend lives in an apartment where he shares a room with all straight guys. They know he's not hitting on them. My firend explained it to me like this, although I have seem some hot straight guys, it's about the same as a girl thinking another girl is beautiful (noting she's not gay)... He said there's like 4 types of people: gay men, gay women, straight men, straight women. You don't bother with the rest.
Goodluck & remember he told you because he probably respects you & feels a good friend doens't have secrets.
2007-12-30 08:36:27 · answer #2 · answered by Tiff 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why wouldn't you want to be his friend? He hasn't changed, he is the same as always. Right now, after having just come out, he needs as many friends as he can get.
If you reject him just because of his sexual orientation that means that you are a bigot and are losing a friend just because you are prejudiced against him, no other reason.
The question as to whether you should remain his friend depends on whether you want to be his friend on honest terms, or on just your terms - if the latter then you aren't really his friend at all.
Remember that friends care about each other because they love that person, not because they love the person they want their friend to be. If you reject him because he is not who you want him to be, then you have no justification for feeling hurt when people do the same to you.
2007-12-30 09:03:31 · answer #3 · answered by thatgaybloke 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do for your friend is be his friend. You don't have to homosexual to be friends with a homosexual. He probably needs support at the moment, and the worst thing you can do is turn your back on him. There isn't anything wrong with being homosexual, unless he has expectations that you are too. then you talk to him and make him understand you cant feel that way. Just supporting him is the best thing to do.
2007-12-30 08:30:29 · answer #4 · answered by deejaedub 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Why not. You're been there friend before you found out they were gay what would make you want to change your mind? They're the same person, but they're more open about their life choices. Stand by them, something like this shouldn't ruin a perfectly great friendship. People are so unfair about gay people to begin with, so stand by them and respect them for having the courage to come out
2007-12-30 08:28:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Wow! He comes out to you because he trusts you. What kind of a friend would you be to turn your back on him when he really needs you now.
He has always been gay. The only difference is that now you know. Other than that, what else has changed?
2007-12-30 10:32:40 · answer #6 · answered by mikedmags 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so your friendship isn't unconditional? he's not your best friend then, nor are you his. Chances are he came out of the closet because he knew he'd be supported by his closest friends, including you and if you choose to not be his friend anymore because of his sexual preference that would be disappointing for him and give him some serious trust issues.
and besides....you like women and he's still your friend right? double standard don't you think?
2007-12-30 08:30:38 · answer #7 · answered by psuns 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Look at it this way. He's the same person he was before, you just know something new about him. A big new thing, granted, but it isn't him that's changed, it's your perception. You need to ask yourself whether you were really a friend to begin with...
2007-12-30 08:29:39 · answer #8 · answered by Denise S 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm not like lesbian or anything but;
What's the difference with being his friend now to before? He's still the same guy, he hasn't had some kind of personality change, right?
He should still be the same person which means you should too.
2007-12-30 08:28:31 · answer #9 · answered by Read My Lips 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
you should definetly be his friend still. It's not like he will make you gay. But anyway, you would be a horrible person if u didn't stay his friend. Thats just wrong that u even said that. You should be ashamed of yourself. You should also support him in his lifestyle choices.
2007-12-30 10:31:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im just guess hes a guy so hes gay... um just because he was truthful withu doesnt mean that u should stop being friends, hes still the same guy just not interested in girls...ur problall afarid that u will be made fun of and u most likley will but who cares if ur a really friend ull sta friends w/ him and u might realise that gay guy friends can come useful, they attract girls, trust me i have 2 guy friends that r gay and there great... follow ur intinct- jenna(im straight just to let u know ;p)
2007-12-30 08:32:17 · answer #11 · answered by laughinburnscalories!! 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋