when i was in the younger years of school(eg-year 4,5,6, etc) i made a terrible mistake. i had a best friend and i began to get moody with her and i didnt know why. we fell out and now that we are in high school, she hangs out with a few more people in my class who are her best friends. the problem is i am not sure if we are best friends still, but she is one of my best friends but i dont know if i am one of hers. i 100000% regret doing what i did and if i mentioned it to her then it could remind her and it would all be embarassing and awkward. please help asap!
2007-12-30 07:48:07 · 37 answers · asked by RitaRx 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
thanks everyone! nearly all of you are saying apologize to her and i want to but i dont want her to get upset with me.
2007-12-30 07:56:21 · update #1
If you approach her and apologize for being moody. The worst she can do is not accept your apology! If you'd rather, you could send her a pretty card with your message handwritten inside. If you apologize, (your conscience is clear) and you're trying to make up with her. It is up to her as to whether she will accept it or not.
2007-12-30 07:57:39 · answer #1 · answered by j_johnson_60466 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did you wait three years to think about this now? You honestly should've talked to her sooner. But I'm not here to tell you what you did wrong, you probably know already too. So here's what I would do, don't tell her at school. The risks of either of you crying, feeling very awkward, or having someone overhearing is too high like you mentioned. I would call her, and tell her how you feel. How sorry you are for mistreating her, how she is still one of your best friends, etc. If that doesn't work move on, I'm sorry ot say it but if you are coming to her trying to make up and she doesn't take it, then she really isn't one of your best friends. Find some other friends at school to hang out with and try not to focus on her much, you will have more best friends in a blink of an eye. Every girl goes through moodiness. That is in case she doesn't, if she excepts then way to go =D Best friends again, try knowing her other friends too. Good Luck!
2007-12-30 07:54:56 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ Mee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should just tell her how much she really means to you and thank her for never having blown you off for how you behaved in the past. You should also be careful about tying to pin her down to having exactly the same feelings for you that you seem to have for her - those things come naturally, not because someone squeezes them out of another. Don't be too disappointed if you are one friend among many good ones to her - maturity brings that sort of thing. What was once "best friends" in school terms isn't the same thing when we find ourselves in mature relationships and trying to cope with the world.
Good luck.
2007-12-30 07:54:43 · answer #3 · answered by Right Guard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to find out is if you get her alone and talk to her. Tell her how you feel, that you miss her and all of that, and tell her that you don't know why you were being so moody and didn't mean to be that way. Then ask if you two can still be friends. Likely she might still remember and be a bit sore, but she'll probably be flattered that you were willing to apologize and that you want to continue your friendship still. :)
2007-12-30 07:52:18 · answer #4 · answered by winds_of_justice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-20 10:39:55 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel about the situation. Depending on what you did, she may feel the same way. There's still hope, don't give up! Just apologize, and, remember, you guys were really young then. Children can be rude! Thats just a part of life. Children want everything to themselves, or everything to go their way. Since you guys were young, it's probably not THAT bad, unless you like cussed her out or like bombed her house, which i highly doubt. LOL. Hope this helped!
Amy
2007-12-30 07:55:40 · answer #6 · answered by just.breathe.it.in 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should tell her how sori u are and how she's still ur best frnd at least,she has held on to it for years now. it's tym 2 let go.Plus let her know ur frndship is too precious. get her one of those best frnd necklaces, those with the half heart each+something she rili wants 4 a new year present. Hope i've been of help.
2007-12-30 08:04:36 · answer #7 · answered by lil'staar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel bad about it apologize. It might be awkward but most apologies are. Even if you aren't best friends anymore at least you will be on good terms. She probably just moved on.
2007-12-30 07:53:46 · answer #8 · answered by Ash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really the only thing to do is to talk to your friend about the incident,tell her how much you regret the way you acted.However try and bear in mind that sometimes people do grow apart and become closer to others,if that is the case...don`t worry...sh*t happens.
2007-12-30 07:54:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you set a time that you both can talk so you can tell her how you feel also apologize for the time you were not so nice maybe you could take her to lunch! Its a new year you could get rid of the bad stuff start fresh......
2007-12-30 07:52:37 · answer #10 · answered by gerry22122 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋