I have a friend, and we've known eachother for.. ehh. 3 years, off and on, and we don't really "know" eachother that much, and we're not uber close. How can we get closer and be able to talk for hours, and how can I try to keep the conversation going without annoying him?
I admit, we don't have a lot in common, just quirky way of thinking, luff for lame jokes, and one game that we used to play together.
2007-12-30 07:25:24 · 12 answers · asked by Juju 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
That can be tough. Why don't you just say what is on your mind and be honest like you are with us. :)
2007-12-30 07:30:01 · answer #1 · answered by La Princesa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trying to keep a conversation going "for hours" could be annoying to a lot of people. Sometimes, doing something together in a comfortable silence is better than non-stop talk. You might consider inviting him to a game or event or ask him to help you with a project so you can talk while engaged in that activity--or not talk. However, the best way to keep a conversation going is to have the other party talk about himself; his early life, his hopes for his future, things he does, things he likes or doesn't like, his philosophy about things, his interests or his work. If you don't have a lot in common, I question why you would want to do this unless you're searching for other things you might be able to share, once you get to know him better. Good luck.
2007-12-30 07:33:45 · answer #2 · answered by Yo' Mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lmfao. its so tough its easy. remember all that babble your granma or great ma used to say? its all true.
listen to what e has to say and spring board off of that. ask follow up questions like a reporter, but dont be all hard boiled about it. it is a friend.
hell you might not want to be close. dark secrets you know. plus if he is not meterosexual, its kinda gay. just find out critical stuff like bday and his family b day by sharing yours. sharing is what your good at. share another game. (preferable online) or do something in real life like go to a game or double date. then you have something recent in common. to be long time friends have things in common. works on hot chicks to, just dont let it get platonic, but the guy, you'll want that platonic. ha ha ha!
besides. sometimes natural silence is your friend.
best of luck
2007-12-30 07:34:45 · answer #3 · answered by Cocoadragon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to ask whether they know something that's happening, in the news, politics, celebrities lives, etc. to get them talking
and then start by asking them how they are, how was break etc.
then you can move into, "oh thats fascinating. i have a friend who likes to make cocktails...do you have any hobbies" etc.
Keep the conversation light at first, and then span your conversational topics, until you two are talking longer, and about more things.
Good luck : )
2007-12-30 07:30:39 · answer #4 · answered by Cassandra Elana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He might are transforming into his telephone taken away or maybe it broke. relax. Now once you're aggravating approximately stressful him then purely take a deep breath and don't text fabric him each 3 minutes! perchance as quickly as an afternoon. once you text fabric him the following day purely ask if he's going to the activity.
2016-10-09 21:45:43 · answer #5 · answered by banegas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get him 2 start the conversation and go along with it
2007-12-30 07:47:29 · answer #6 · answered by junobabe80 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can not find a mutual topic of discussion, you can't. It is when you "seem" to share a lot in a sort of history (similar events happening in your pasts) that you can connect.
2007-12-30 07:29:12 · answer #7 · answered by Nothingusefullearnedinschool 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him questions about himself. Pretend to be interested in the crap he is interested in. For instance, have him explain exactly how football is played or why Slayer is genius.
2007-12-30 07:28:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes communication comes in the form of silence and just being together, have you ever just been pleased to hear somebody breathe? it is a cool sensation
2007-12-30 07:31:19 · answer #9 · answered by Friend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure that your point to talk about is something that they will be interesting on once you find the right topic make sure that you give room for them to express their opinions about it that will make it last for a long time
2007-12-30 07:32:06 · answer #10 · answered by Gustavo G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋