Please, I only want serious answers and also if you are/were in the same situation then let me know.
I feel that whatever I do I can't live up to my big bro. He's 18 (I'm 16) and he's captain of the football team and is a straight A student. I play on the football team aswell and he makes me call him captain just to annoy him.
What can I do to become my own person.
2007-12-30 06:01:01 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Oh my bro is the captain of the team.
2007-12-30 06:07:01 · update #1
I'm on the football team aswell (and my dad's the coach so it sucks real bad!!)
My bro is also school president so he's on the school council.
I'm not good at art or music so there's no other clubs I can join. I can't do drama cause I'll get stick for it on the team.
2007-12-30 06:12:32 · update #2
He doesn't make me call him it all the time. I have a girlfriend and if I tell my bro how I feel my dad and bro will call me a wimp and to suck it up. We're just that type of all american family
2007-12-30 06:16:28 · update #3
How can I stop spending time with him...... We play on the same team with practise each night from 4-6 and then after dinner we go to the park with my dad to do some more practise. Then on Sundays we visit relatives and on Saturday mornings we go do family stuff. So basically I get Saturday afternoon to myself and friends/girlfriend. Oh and it doesn't help that we share alot of the same friends cause of the team.
2007-12-30 06:24:45 · update #4
I love football, I've played it since I was little but this is the first year I've played on a team where my bro is captain and dad is coach.
Put it like this if I joined the drama club on top of football I'd be called gay and a wimp and stuff by my bro and team mates. If I talk to my bro about my feelings he'll call me a wimp and tell me to suck it up.
2007-12-31 01:30:44 · update #5
once he graduates, you will definately have more room to become your own person. do u like football, or is there something else that you like doing? drama? art? school council? try something different, or work harder to succeed in what you are already involved in. dont worry about becoming better than him tho. and most likely, whatever you become interested in, is different from your brother, and i'll bet that he would not be as good at it as you are.
Try everything. What about playing guitar? betcha he cant do that.
2007-12-30 06:08:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you are a grown-up it's hard to talk to youngsters without sounding patronising...
So forgive me if i sound like that..
But i want to say to you that you must not compare one person with another, be it your brother, be it anyone...
He has his skills plus points and you have yours.
I am sure you see him getting praised for this and that and it makes you feel inadequate, but don't allow it to make you feel small. I am sure you have qualities that he doesn't. Maybe you are kinder,more fun to have around,more modest,nicer to be with,more interesting..the point is we are all different and to compare yourself to him is just a waste of time.
You will grow,be your own man,it doesn't matter...
If he needs you to call him captain the he must be feeling a bit insecure,right? if he needs his kid bro to be giving him a title then he's not going to be feeling so big about himself, is he?
So, call him captain,allow him enjoy the glory..and you will be your own person.....you'll see...
2007-12-30 06:15:50 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want competition...then don't compete..simple!
My sister is 16 and is predicted all A*s in her GCSEs she even took her maths a year early.
My sister plays flute and piano, does ballet, tap and modern, she sings in the church choir.
...and then there's me. 18, practically failing my A levels! I don't believe in god. Love rock and hate classical stuff.
Don't get me wrong I love my sister to bits. You've just gotta be yourself and not try and be like him.
I don't see the point in trying to compete. She may be smart, but she doesn't go out. and to me my social life is real important.
Just have fun. we only live once right???
whats the point of living it miserable eh!?
;)
2007-12-30 06:17:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something that is just for you i.e. new Hobey. Although you see your brother as golden he isn't, There are somethings that your better at than your brother but you disregard them because you don't see them as important. Spend time away from your brother,as hard as it may seem you are as good if not better than your brother and i hope you succeed in becoming your own person good luck :)
2007-12-30 06:15:21 · answer #4 · answered by zee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple - take up a different sport!
And why shouldn't you do drama, so what if the team don't like it, aside from pulling your weight on the team in the games, you don't owe them anything.
If these changes are just too hard to make, then you'll just have to suck all this up for a year (but you can refuse to call your brother captain, instead think of a silly name your grandmother had for him and call him that in front of the team, hahaha ...) until he finishes school.
2007-12-31 00:28:42 · answer #5 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop calling him captain. tell your parents. they should help. find activities that you are better at and study harder. then if he keeps annoying you start to annoy him about things you are better at than him. thats what i do
2007-12-30 06:10:55 · answer #6 · answered by Shell H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop trying to compete with him and focus on just being yourself
2007-12-30 06:16:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋