My family is hosting a lunch party for some of my mom's side of the family for Christmas today. I went into the kitchen to see if I could help with anything and stopped because I saw something on the table. I asked if it was fruitcake and my grandmother told me it was some kind of homemade cranberry bread. I then said "Oh good cause I don't really like fruitcake". Then my mom just started yelling at me saying stuff like "You know somebody brought that fruitcake just for us so why don't you keep your mouth shut!" or something else like "(name) why don't you get quiet right now" and I was trying to defend myself by saying "Mom it wasn't even fruitcake" and she would just yell at me more in front of my whole family and my grandmother was trying to calm her down but she wouldn't listen and just kept yelling at me. Now I'm sitting here in my room just crying my eyes out while everyone else has a good time..was my mom overreacting or am I just rude?
2007-12-30 05:39:54 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Your mom was totally out of line. I don't mean to pry and don't answer, but just to yourself, is she perhaps going through menopause? That can cause some episodes of irrational, flying off the handle over nothing behavior. She overreacted at what she misinterpreted as a rude comment. She could be under undue stress because of the strain of the lunch she's trying to host.
Your grandmother and everyone else knows that she was in the wrong, not you. You may not get an apology. Just dry your eyes, fix your makeup, get back out there and ask what you can do to help. Be calm, mature and the bigger person. Time will tell what is going on with your mom, and you may not find out for years. Help with the dishes, and then try to get out tonight, if only to walk around in the cold air with friends. It will help clear your head.
2007-12-30 05:49:53 · answer #1 · answered by lighght30 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Your mom was overreacting. Don't worry. Everyone seemed to be on your side at the party, so there's nothing to be afraid of. Just know that you weren't rude. You CANNOT be rude by saying what you don't like and what you do. Just go out there and have a good party and know that this only comes one time a year and you have to wait a whole year before it comes again. Good Luck.
2007-12-30 06:01:59 · answer #2 · answered by DCD4 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh my, Mom must really be stressed out over all the Christmas "festivities". Just in case someone brought fruitcake though, you could have just said "Good, I really like cranberry bread" , but too late for that now.
Dry your tears, go out and cut yourself a big piece of the cranberry bread & have a good time>
P.S. I love fruitcake really!
2007-12-30 05:48:52 · answer #3 · answered by ImaHarper 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your mom is probably stressed with all the responsibilities of the holidays. You went in there to offer your help and that's sweet. As far as fruitcake goes, who can honestly say they like it? Not me. And no you were not being rude, you were just expressing an opinion.
Stop crying, don't feel bad, and don't worry. Your mom probably just wants Christmas to be perfect and is maybe feeling a bit stressed and sensitive.
2007-12-30 05:46:10 · answer #4 · answered by The Beast 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Your mom was overreacting way to much. You really didn't do anything wrong, you asked if thats fruitcake, your grandma said no, and you said good. Whats wrong with that? RIght, NOTHING!
2007-12-30 07:29:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She didn't over react, you were being ungreatful. People put out a lot of money at the holidays and when you find out that what you give someone is going to be critisized and complained about you think twice about giving at a future time. It may not be your favorite but you should be gracious and just not say anything about it until later when nobody is around or just not eat it.
2007-12-30 06:20:33 · answer #6 · answered by marishka 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes your mom overreacted. I'm sure she didn't mean to do it. The holidays tend to bring out the worst in people. Everyone is stressed out to the max and is just trying to pretend everything is ok. I'm sure if you wait until after the party to talk to your mom, she will apologize.
2007-12-30 05:49:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, your mom overreacted big time. She didn't have to ruin your christmas dinner with your family THAT way. She could have just pulled you aside and said firmly that you could've hurt someone's feelings. Plus, I don't think what you said was rude at all. If it wasn't fruit cake, then she shouldn't worry about your opinion on fruit cake. Sorry about your mom.
2007-12-30 05:48:30 · answer #8 · answered by Jade 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
She was probably just a little embarrassed because somebody in that room gave your mom the bread and you just blurted out that you didn't like it.
Either that or she was a bit stressed from catering for all the people at the lunch party.
(:
2007-12-30 05:45:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
That sounds like my mum.
I don't think you were really rude but maybe your mum was a little embarassed about what you said, however, i still think she over-reacted slightly.
Why don't you wipe the tears away, put a smile on your face and join in the fun.
You remind me of me when i was your age. Im 29 now and can see your mum's point of view too though.
2007-12-30 05:44:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋