I had a miscarriage yesterday... still going on. My boyfriend has been terrible, last night he went to a party last nite... he asked if he could!! I cant actually believe his behaviour. To say i am devasted about the miscarriage is an understatment but to have next to no support is terrible. Not normal behaviour is it!!?
2007-12-30 05:18:31 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
While some people will make excuses for guys who act like this by saying "everyone grieves differently" - which is true - any man worth being in a relationship with would know how upsetting a miscarriage is to the woman he loves and he wouldn't be out partying.
You shouldn't have to ask him to stick around and be there for you. He should just do it.
But at the same time, you need to be assertive and make your feelings and your needs known.
2007-12-30 05:23:37 · answer #1 · answered by Take A Test! 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I'm really sorry for your loss. I've had 2 myself and know how devastating it is. Since I don't know him, I don't know what to say about your boyfriend. I do think though, that a lot of times in situations like this, men don't know exactly what to do or how to react so they kind of panic and make themselves scarce. I'm not saying EVERY guy and I'm totally not saying it's the right thing to do. You've got to talk to him hun. Tell him what you need from him.
2007-12-30 05:26:13 · answer #2 · answered by Tish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your pain and loss. I know you have probably heard this before but things do happen for a reason. Maybe it was not the right time for you and and your partner to have a baby. Try to speak to him about why it is so easy to abandon you at a time when you are in such need. If his reasons are not what you feel good enough then maybe you should consider getting out of this relationship before he abandons you again in a time of need. You are in my thoughts. Be strong.
2007-12-30 05:36:26 · answer #3 · answered by starr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry you miscarried. Your boyfriend is a jerk of the highest order. No his behavior is NOT normal.
He may be upset about your miscarriage and maybe he is grieving in his own way, but he needs to be there for you.
Talk to him about your feelings....if he keeps behaving like he is, then find someone who care more about your feelings.
2007-12-30 05:33:44 · answer #4 · answered by Willow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Disgusting behavior actually. I am so sorry to hear of loss and the way you are being treated when you need someone more than ever. I always suggest to ladies to check out the March of Dimes SHARE web site. There are thousands of women there who can relate and would love to talk to you. Please check it out....
I will keep ou in my thoughts...
2007-12-30 05:23:49 · answer #5 · answered by In love with 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry about your miscarriage. I'm also sorry you have a crappy boyfriend. Maybe it's better that you're not having a child with this jerk. Lose him now, and DEFINITELY don't get pregnant by him again.
2007-12-30 05:23:05 · answer #6 · answered by That's not my name 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 21:37:37 · answer #7 · answered by pellish 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call 911 or neighbor or friend or family member to be with you and get you to the hospital, you will need to go after the miscarriage anyway, you might as well go. Get rid of idiot B/F, kick his butt out or get yours out. He doesn't care enough and that isn't love.======
2007-12-30 05:25:14 · answer #8 · answered by lana s 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
if it was an early loss the baby may not be as real to him as it was to you. Share your feeling with him, as much as we wish men were mind readers the're not.
I am sorry for your loss. God bless.
2007-12-30 05:22:31 · answer #9 · answered by parental unit 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this might be his way of dealing with it. talk to him/ we all deal with things differently
2007-12-30 07:54:01 · answer #10 · answered by breegehemi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋