My best friend and I have been inseperable since we started primary school, have never fallen out, have loads of memories together, see each other everyday and love each other to peices. However, I have been accepted to uni two hours away from where we live and last night she text me to tell me she has been crying her eyes out because she won't be able to cope without me by her side everyday :( What do I do??
2007-12-30 05:00:56 · 21 answers · asked by Rhona D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
she going to pay your bills , buy your food, pay your medical bills in time to come?? no i dont think so!! look your only 2 hours away for god sake!! break the strings and get on with your life and prepare for your career in the big bad world
2007-12-30 05:06:04 · answer #1 · answered by tellygonemad 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Two hours isn't that far, you can still meet up regularly if you both meet in the middle! To be honest I would take the uni offer, you will only be there for about 4 years and then you could move near each other again. You can't be side by side forever unfortunately, but you can still be close friends.
My mum lives 6 hours away from her best friend, they also grew up together and they still have a strong friendship even though they're in their 50's! :D
2007-12-30 13:06:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't stay back for her. When you're in uni, you get lots of long weekends and breaks. Plus, the semesters are shorter than previous grades. Two hours away isn't that far.
If either of you has a car, you could visit each other every weekend if you want. I'm in university and it seems that at least once a month we have some sort of long weekend. For example, classes ended Dec 4 (then we had finals until the 23rd) but classes don't resume until the 7th of Jan...so I have ample time to return home to see my friends.
I had a long distance relationship during my first year of university, but I took the bus to visit my boyfriend at school. He even let me come to one of his classes!
You can make things work with your best friend. You would be very unhappy if you gave up your chance at uni to stay home and hang out with her.
You have so many ways of keeping in touch. You can still send daily e-mails. My best friend and I set up a blog and we'd both keep in touch through that (go to www.blogger.com , it's free, you can post pictures and it requires no computer skills. We just set our blog so that my best friend and I were both able to post.). Or you can send each other postcards or letters.
You'll survive.
2007-12-30 13:14:34 · answer #3 · answered by miss_j 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunny it's time to take a stand on your own 2 feet and make your way in the world. Whether your friend thinks she will cope or not, I guarantee you that one day either or both of you will meet boys and become a couple. This will also split your closeness up. I guess what I am saying is, even if you don't go to uni as your lives begin to develop you will naturaqlly separate slightly. This is the first chance you both have to discover how strong your friendship really is...
2007-12-30 13:06:46 · answer #4 · answered by shaunie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to take the uni place. You would be silly to miss an opportunity like that and your friend should understand. My friend , who I had known since I was 4 trained to be a vet and moved 2 and half hours away. We spent every day together growing up but that's the point, you grow up and move on. It's not that far and if your friendship is strong it won't matter in the slightest.
2007-12-30 13:06:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, two hours is really not that long! i moved away from home to go to uni and even though i loved my friends to pieces it's the best thing i ever did!
i know you love your friend, but sometimes it can be bad for a friendship if you see too much of each other. just think when u go away to uni, next time u meet up with ur friend u will have loads of stuff to catch up on and talk about!
if she's ur friend she will understand that you need to move away to fulfil your potential. your ambitions in life shouldn't centre around your friends, it will be hard but you will be happier if you take this chance than if you stayed put and wondered what if.
2007-12-30 13:06:42 · answer #6 · answered by vansiepurple 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i understand because good friends are hard to find. at the same time u need to move on in life. think abuout how u want ur life to turn out, do u really want to sacrifice ur future for a bestfriend who will always b there if she's a real friend. in order to grow up u have to learn to do things without ur bestfriend u'll meet new ppl BUT that doesn't mean ur bestfriend won't b ur bestfriend anymore. part of getting older means doing things u don't want to. ur bestfriend needs to understand that u have a life and she'll still b involved in ur life while u get an education. two hours away is not that serious and u guys can call eachother. it might not b as bad as u two think it is.
2007-12-30 13:09:25 · answer #7 · answered by ch@L@nt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
Me and my friend have grown up together and we have different personalities etc so we wouldn't be going to the same uni either. But we'll survive that.
Two hours doesn't seem that far away. Arrange to meet up once a week/fortnight/month and remember that great invention: the telephone ;)
2007-12-30 13:17:19 · answer #8 · answered by Calyssa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to uni. If you have been friends for years then your friendship will survive you going to uni. You cant stop your life just for your friend. Of course she will be upset for a while and it will be strange not having her around, but she will get over it. If you dont go, you will be losing out on some fab life experience. Also dont let her crying put you off going. I think she is being a bit selfish. If she was any kind of friend she should be disregarding her feelings and encouraging you to go.
2007-12-30 13:10:49 · answer #9 · answered by jodee1kenobi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really wanna go then go for it if your true friends then you will stay in contact there are so many way now. if she is a true friend she should understand [maybe not striaght away though i mean she is losing her best friend of 13 years be like losing her arm] she will understand in time...she'll have to if its what you want
good luck hope you make the right choice for you because if you dont make the right choice and chose not to goo to that uni and thats the one you really want then you could end up blamiong it on her and it would rip ytou apart
good luck =]
2007-12-30 15:30:51 · answer #10 · answered by you're.misunderstanding. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have obviously applied to this uni because it's a course that you would like to do. your best friend will still be your best friend, things always change a bit when we move to a new phase in our lives. My best friend lives at the other side of the coutnry from me now, but we phone, text, bebo, email, and meet up whenever possible. I still love her to bits, but things have to move on. you can't stay just for this reason, you would regret it. what happends when you meet someone & want to get married, you can't not do that because it'll mean you see less of your friend too...
2007-12-30 13:14:09 · answer #11 · answered by Vix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋