No pays atention to me they just walk past me and say there goes the gay boy. My so called friends say your whatever you choose but don't get too close. And while I leave there talking bad about me. Even my brouthers, sisters, and mother do the same and I know what I heard.They wait till i'm about to leave and the say it. It realy hearts. Can any one give me some advice.
2007-12-30 04:57:08 · 12 answers · asked by Chino 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
next time some 1 walks past and gives a snide remark dont SAY anything,just punch em on the nose,ull be supprised how quick these remarks stop,as 4 ur family they suck get away as soon as u can--kind regards from me.
2007-12-31 05:20:48 · answer #1 · answered by tasty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, since I'm pretty sure I'm a bi-sexual, I feel your agony. I haven't told anyone yet, (ect the internet *lol*) but if your parents are not excepting it, you should talk to them. From your name, "Chino" I take it our hispanicy is Asian? If you are, just to let you know, I'm Asain too. I think people are just being Bias and racists, I hate racists, because they judge people's races when they don't get to know them. But anyway, people just need to learn to grow up. You can't change the way you are, they can't change the way they are, maybe some girls don't like the way they look. They can't help it, and you can't help being gay. You need to find some friends that will accept you the way you are.
When I was little, in elemetary school, People used to make fun of me, because I'm Asian. And I know if your hispanacy is different, and your homosexual, or bi-sexual, you have a hard time. But remember, there are a ton of nice people out there that will help you and comfort you, you just might be around the ones that are mean.
Good luck! :D
2007-12-30 05:15:04 · answer #2 · answered by [Anonymous] 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes!First of all let me tell you that you are loved by ME no matter what.And I am always willing to talk.It sounds to me like you have some rather crappy family members.That is not YOUR fault Sweetie.You do not have to carry all of this baggage THEY are creating.I wish I could be beside you when fools talk like that to you because I would talk to them in such a way that makes them cower and fear for their life.This kind of thing really hacks on me because I can tell they do it because they know you will not stand up to them.If the people at school knew that they would miss a few teeth every time they mouthed off like that,BET they wouldnt say a word.There are other problems that you are dealing with too,and it will take time to sort it all out.But my best advice to you at this time is to build your self esteem and be more assertive in your opinions.If they walk by and say that to you,call them on it and ask;HEY DO YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WITH MY CHOICES?When they come across with some snide answer,simply tell them to grow the F up!They dont allow violence in school,but they will allow this type of crap.So a good open handed slap in the kisser to the mouthy party is very effective.ESPECIALLY THE GUYS!!!No matter if he whips you,he can NEVER remove the fact that he got SLAPPED....I know it hurts your feelings to hear these things from people.Believe me,it hurts my heart pretty bad to see you posting this question.Because it is so unnecessary for ANYONE to be treated this way.If you need to talk more,go to my profile and I accept emails.But please know you are loved.
Hugs!
2007-12-30 05:03:14 · answer #3 · answered by Rick 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you are a minor contact DSS and explain to them that your home situation is unbearable and that you feel tourtered there. They will be forced to launch an investigation into these allegations and remove you from the situation. Extreme scrutiny will be forced upon your mother who will have to explain her horrible attitude towards you, your siblings will also be given counseling, and you most likely will be as well, and you will get the last laugh so to speak.
2007-12-30 05:09:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have a gay friend, but everyone seems to except him because he embraces the fact that he is gay. Thats what you need to do. Just say f**k anybody who doesnt like you, because you love who you are. Tell them to kiss your a**. To be honset you really dont need them in your life, if they cant except you dont feel bad at all. Thats them being ignorant and karma will come back to bite them in their a**. So just embrace and love who you are. I know it will be hard to do without any friends right now but things will get better. The more you except yourself the more others will except you.
And just be cool and down to earth. I love people who are genuine, and who loves themselves.
2007-12-30 05:14:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Be strong buddy!You're not alone,and things always have a way of getting better as time goes by.Talk to a guidance councilor at school.If that is not an option,then definitely find someone to talk to,it helps.A new year is approaching,I hope it brings great things for you!
2007-12-30 05:10:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Follow your own path and rise above the adversity. Your resilience will eventually pay off and you will have so many more options and choices in life than all those people who just try to `fit in`. No one has the power to judge you unless you allow it! Set your own standards for you and live up to those alone.
2007-12-30 05:04:43 · answer #7 · answered by swimbuns 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
From you name, "chino" I wonder if you are from the asian culture, where being gay is certainly frowned upon. Find yourself a support group or counseling through the local gay and lesbian community center. And, don't expect your family to change their deeply ingrained cultural beliefs about gays.
2007-12-30 05:06:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I had this problem as well.
Since killing everyone is too bothersome, not to mention illegal, I would suggest befriending someone online, like me.
Just contact me on Y! IM if you want to chat.
2007-12-30 05:03:50 · answer #9 · answered by Lost 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to speak to your family. You have to tell them that your still the same person, and that it really hurts you so badly when they treat you that way.
2007-12-30 05:40:30 · answer #10 · answered by NAI 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋