I have a male friend (im a gal)but i find him hot n cold. Hes a little bit of a loner and tends to befriend alot of girls but hasnt really got any friend friends outside the office. Anyway i made friends with him since aug. We got talking and he asked me to lunch so i returned the favour. He nagged me to go over his new flat so i did. I email him now and again but he doesnt seem to be good at initating just at the replying and seems he doesnt give alot out of himself. He says im open person but i wouldnt say the same bout him. Hell go to lunch with me when i ask and does little things like appologise to me if he dont reply to my mails and theres always that flirty banter yet he dont make much effort his side. Hes worksworthy so i take that into account. He can be moody yet will get jealous ifi ask someone else to teach me to play snooker. I wish he would make more effort his side my instinct says he likes me
2007-12-30 03:06:30 · 9 answers · asked by shelley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Life is too short to waste time on "one sided" relationships.
2007-12-30 03:10:21 · answer #1 · answered by oklatom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has a lot on his mind. Maybe he is just the quiet type. At least you go to lunch and stuff. Ask him to do other kinds of things and see what happens. Does he like movies? Watch some movies together. Books? Join a book club together. If you're not interested in romance with him be careful not to give him that impression or someone could get hurt. Go for a walk in the park and have lunch there or something. Good luck.
2007-12-30 11:14:17 · answer #2 · answered by serenity 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people don't do email, guys especially. One of my very best friends hardly ever responds to my emailing her. She will call me, or text me...but not email me. I just accept it. Emailing is not her thing. Also, it sounds as though your friend is either shy or reclusive. He may like you and wish for more than friendship but might be afraid that you don't feel the same way about him. He might also suffer from a social disorder. I have a son who has this disorder. He is very intelligent, very sweet, kind hearted and compassionate. He has told me he wants a girlfriend but every time a girl shows interest in him, he doesn't believe she really likes him. He is also very funny and people actually like him very much, but he truly doesn't believe it. He actually has been diagnosed by a therapist with this disorder.
2007-12-30 11:14:27 · answer #3 · answered by ceegt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just accept him the way he is. You're pushing too hard and asking for too much. For whatever reason or reasons, he doesn't want intimate friendships right now. If you are really his friend, give him his space and let him be himself. That's what true friends do. Also, it's obvious that he doesn't like you for anything more than a friend, so that probably accounts for some of his behavior too. Your pushiness makes him uncomfortable. Back off and let the poor guy live his life.
2007-12-30 11:12:24 · answer #4 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. You're playing my song! I have several guy friends at work who are just like what you describe! So, I give my friendship to them at work (yeah, you have to continue to push it on them, because they don't know how to reciprocate) and I leave it at that. I gave up YEARS ago on trying to become friends outside of work with most people, guys and gals!
However, I met my BFF at work and like you and me, she is an "open person". People generally think we are fake just because we are so friendly! Still, it has taken a long time for us to begin hanging out together outside of work (we are both married with children and have different days off). But it's worth the effort to make friendships last!
Thank God for text messages! LOL
2007-12-30 11:14:44 · answer #5 · answered by Baloneyus_Monk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am afraid of characters like this. They may be too jealous later on. I would go extremely slow with this relationship because it could mean trouble later on.
2007-12-30 11:10:47 · answer #6 · answered by Maxine H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on! He's using you to feed his ego.
2007-12-30 11:11:20 · answer #7 · answered by Clara 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
play with myself
2007-12-30 11:11:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he is a player man,move on
2007-12-30 11:10:56 · answer #9 · answered by lil pit cat 71 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋