Ok, she's friends with people that are mean and rude to me and downright idiotic. Now i'm not saying she can't be friends with people that she want to be friends with..i mean i really don't care...but when its people that really have issues and are mean to me..why would she want to be their friend?...I mean if it were the other way around i wouldn't be their friend either.
Just Opinions please and no bashing. Thanx!
2007-12-30 02:05:39 · 14 answers · asked by Katlynn 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
And i'm not saying its her problem or nothing like that they're mean or anything to me, but come on...what happened to my friends are your friend..your friends are my friends..not my friends are your enemies. And its just two girls. I'm a really nice person and for some reason i don't know they have a problemo with me.
2007-12-30 02:05:51 · update #1
I don't think this person really is your friend if you are even questioning it.
2007-12-31 04:52:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is not back-stabbing you, then she is a friend.. But i doubt it that she is not back-stabbing you.. or that she is not(plainly she's doing that just to get more of your attention for her).
The best thing to do right now is try to be really nice to her, at the same time, keep your ears open on people's feedbacks-if she has said somethings bad about you-dont worry they come back to you-it will be from other people. If she back-stabbed you infront of those idiotic friends of hers, then you will just be 'acting' like really nice to her, until you gain back her trust on you..after that, keep your distance bit by bit, in a manner that she can't really say anything bad about you.. instead, tell someone who is really gossipy about what you heard she back-stabbed you with..that gossipy person will tell everyone till goes back to your ffriend-and she'll feel so low about herself.. dont confront her though, just let her feel guilty..she's not a friend either way anyway. i would not hang out with people hurting my friend's feelings if i were her.
2007-12-30 02:47:26 · answer #2 · answered by oscar c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, it's her choice.. She might like those people and it's her life, You must learn not to rely that much on her.. Try finding other people to hang out. If you are a good person as you say it won't be difficult. And you can always try talking to her so as to find out why she likes those people. And even though you say it's ok you do care.. You're a bit possessive but I guess that's what happens when you're really close to someone.. Relax, take it easy.Have a life of your own.
2007-12-30 03:16:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can determine whether this person is really your friend by the way she treats you. If she treats you with respect, is caring and responsive, then she is your friend without regard to other people with whom she is friendly.
As your friend, you might ask this girl to find out why this other girl is mean to you, and whether her hostility towards you is based on a misunderstanding that you can correct. If so, then you can address a situation that is bothersome. If not, then at least you tried opening a line of communication with this other good in a mature and responsible manner.
Good luck in 2008.
2007-12-30 02:28:17 · answer #4 · answered by TK 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She is a free being and when she wants to be a friend with those who are mean to you, if you are her friend, you will tolerate it. Who knows, she might change the attitude of your enemies...I think she consideres you as a good person, therefore she wants to be your friend. At the same time, she is friendly to those 'bad', because they are majority and she naturally wants to be a part of a group - as everybody does.
2007-12-30 06:37:43 · answer #5 · answered by V. Marie-Jane 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say youre a nice person if thats true then may be the other two dont like you because you are everything they are not... Is this jelousy perhaps?
Your friend may not like what the other two have to say or the way they say it but she may be afraid to stand up for you and herself come to that.
That makes your friend weak...but not a bad person talk to her before you pass judgement after all youre supposed to be her friend too. xx
2007-12-30 05:27:46 · answer #6 · answered by nuttyred x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Situations like this occur all the time. a person (we'll call him Cleave) will introduce his new friend (we'll call him Ike) to his old friends (let's say they're called Tom, Dick and Harry) and Tom, Dick and Harry will automatically find something about Ike that they don't like or don't think is normal, and will make rude, mean and down right insulting jokes and comments about it and Cleave will just laugh and shrug it off as though it's no big deal and expect Ike to do the same. If Ike, however, does not copy Cleave and shows that he is upset by the comments and jokes, Cleave will offer no sympathy as he wants to look tough in front of Tom, Dick and Harry. T, D & H will then continue making those jokes and comments, because Ike will become more and more lacking in self-confidence and self-esteem, until he eventually is nothing more than a self-pitying victim of bullying.
In conclusion, because i have made the assumption that she is just shrugging off the things her friends are saying about you, she is not really your friend.
2007-12-30 23:51:15 · answer #7 · answered by AG Bellamy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I would find a new friend, because you don't want to hang around with people who are mean to you. OK your friend is fine with you and you don't want to break up your friendship with her but you don't have to put up with idiotic people who are just mean and selfish, i don't know what the "issues" are they have with you but just don't hang around with them. IT'S YOUR CHOICE you have the ability to walk away from these girl's. Don't put up with being bullied cause that's what it is....
2007-12-30 02:19:03 · answer #8 · answered by kevina p 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, she technically isn't back stabbing, but she's not defending you, either.
I think it's more of you and the other people's problems that you should deal with. I wouldn't think she'll be your friend if she'll take their side, but she wouldn't be the people's friends if she took your side.
2007-12-30 03:24:36 · answer #9 · answered by Banana Hero [sic] 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it was you in her place, would you honestly think you are a friend if she stuck with people who were mean & ride to your "friend"? for me it's a no, as you rightly said if it was the other way round, you wouldn't..
you deserve friends who treat you with kindness & respect & also if anyone is rude or & mean to you, to stick up for you...
2007-12-30 11:34:10 · answer #10 · answered by Quia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is ask her why she hangs out with these girls if she is supposed to be your friend as they are rude to you. If your friend does not support you, then go get a new friend.
2007-12-30 02:15:07 · answer #11 · answered by No! I'm NOT Elton John 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋